I am currently pregnant and have a 5 year old. Can I have a baby shower for my second child? My stepmom says that you can only have a shower with your first child? I know I could if I want, but what is ettiquette??
2006-07-17 04:29:53 · 21 answers · asked by hh 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Also, I don't have anything left from my first baby because I had to move so much. And this will be my husbands first child.
2006-07-17 04:42:12 · update #1
yes you can have a shower for second third fourth whatever, your mother in law doesnt know what shes talking about
2006-07-17 04:33:15 · answer #1 · answered by chefspicey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally, you're only entitled to one baby shower, since the purpose of a shower is to help the mother-to-be with what she needs for her baby. Once you've had a child (and a shower for that child), it is assumed that you already have what you need and the reason for shower disappears. However, there are exceptions, such as when a mother gives birth to the second (or third) child after several years.
Regardless of etiquette (or what your stepmom thinks), I think you should have a shower if you want one. It's not only about presents - it's connecting with friends and family.
2006-07-17 11:39:01 · answer #2 · answered by MummytoBoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a baby shower with my first and never again UNTIL baby #7 came along. I think everyone felt like they owed me something after no shower for 15 years...lol.
BUT, it was my family who threw me a shower for my first...a neighbor threw me one for my 7th.
It used to be that you only get a shower for your first because you are just starting out and need things, etc. By number 2, everyone assumes you already know what you need and have it all. If you really want one, I would make it known.
You could always avoid the whole shower thing and have a "Welcome new Baby" party AFTER baby is born. People will bring gifts then, and sometimes that's better because they KNOW the baby's size and gender, etc. Also, less repeat gifts!
2006-07-17 11:35:58 · answer #3 · answered by andbeanermakes8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also was told that you only have a baby shower for your first child, but I did not have a baby shower with my first child so I had one with my second child. Now i'm going to pass everything from the first baby shower down to my next baby.
2006-07-17 11:34:01 · answer #4 · answered by Mindy S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ettiquette...I hate that word! I had an 8 year old and then got pregnant again. My mom wanted to throw me a shower, so we did a "couples" shower. It was fun and the gifts were great (a lot changes in even 5 years)! I get tired of hearing that mom's who have multiple showers are greedy and things like that. I say, have a party! If you're friends/family want to throw you the shower...let them. If you want to have one for yourself...go for it! If anyone is so offended that you're having a second shower, they dont have to come and probably wouldnt be much fun to have there anyway!
CONGRATULATIONS and may God bless your beautiful baby!
2006-07-17 11:37:04 · answer #5 · answered by melody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that after 5 years it would be almost a necessity. most don't keep alot of their first baby's things around except maybe the bigger furniture. Also you may be having a baby of the opposite sex so even if you did keep all of your baby clothes from your first child you couldn't use them for your second. I think there really isn't an ettiquette rule that applies unless you are throwing yourself one. Congrats and Good luck!!
2006-07-17 11:42:10 · answer #6 · answered by all8418 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different. But I see it like this, 4 every birth should b celebrated, so y would their b a problem with having 2 or more showers? I did and if I decide 2 have anymore my family will continue 2 have showers 4 me or vice versa. Plus think about it, that's less shopping 4 u.
2006-07-17 11:38:25 · answer #7 · answered by tsclark06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that the motive is what is important here. If you are doing it just to get more stuff and you can afford it, then i would not try to do it. people will see whats going on and think of you as greedy. if your friends are proposing doing it for you because they want to bless you and the child; if its been a while since the last child and you dont have any baby stuff anymore; or you are really on a low budget and cant afford everything are all reasonable reasons to have another. Personally i never heard of this rule before, anyways! good luck and congrats!
2006-07-17 12:17:23 · answer #8 · answered by Kristina M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally you only got one baby shower. I didn't get a second shower w/ my second daughter, but, when I found out my third was a boy I got a second shower because I had NO boy stuff. So basically if the sex of the baby is same then no but if it'd opposite then yes.
2006-07-17 11:36:07 · answer #9 · answered by butterflykisses20027 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the reason for having the baby shower? Is it to rake in the gifts and cash? Or is it to celebrate the upcoming birth with your friends?
If the latter, then just have a get-together, and don't call it a shower. I believe your mother is correct.
If you want to be even clearer that the party is not for mercenary reasons, YOU could throw it with the note that "my time is going to be limited soon, and I wanted to get together will all of your first" or something similar. If people bring you gifts, that's their perogative; or you could even specify "no gifts" if you are comfortable with that.
Good luck!
2006-07-17 11:35:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd listen to your stepmom she's right but did you have a baby shower with your first child, if not I don't see why you can't have one now.
2006-07-17 11:34:19 · answer #11 · answered by Jenny H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋