Child custody?

Question

I have custody of my almost 10 year old daughter and her father sees her everyday. Now he is only supposed to see her every other weekend and alternating holidays but I grant him the honor of being able to see her daily. Not only does he see her daily, but on my weekends he insists on calling her as well. She gets annoyed but doesn't want her dad to get mad at her. He says it's because he loves his daughter and worries about her. If she is with me there is no need to worry she is the best hands, MINE! Anyways, he got upset yesterday because we were at family function and he didn't get to speak with her yesterday and it's all my fault. So he is theathing to take action against me. Can he legally do that if she is well taken care of with roof over her head, food in belly and clothes on her back and what rights do I have?

Answer 1

Then you tell him that if he respectfully doesnt abide by your rules on how he can see her through what the court has stipulated then he will only see her the days the court has told you to give her to him. You need to file a complaint to the court first so that you can make them aware that he is starting to threaten you with legal action and maybe you can mediate and get this resolved without actual court preceedings. TRY writing him a letter certified return receipt. ALWAYS KEEP COPIES OF ANYTHING YOU AND HIM CONVERSE about in letters. DOCUMENT your decisions with him. I have a file on my ex that is four drawers long for our oldest daughter that he and i have faught over. IT HAS HELPED to keep the playing field even.

MOST OF ALL REMEMBER IF YOU HAVE CUSTODY you dont have to give him anytime other then what is stipulated and if he wants to pay lots of money to go to court to prove you are unfit and he wants custody then ALLOW HIM TO.. you keep your ducks in a row. Get People on your side that will testify.. line up your side so if the time comes you come to court you are ready. Legally she has to be 12 in a courts eyes to decide where she wants to live but be GENTLE in front of her talking to him... NEVER argue about custody in front of her. YOU WANT HER TO SEE YOU AS THE GOOD GUY... Allow him to talk to her on the phone just dont let him take her or come to where you are without his days being the days he does it.

TRUST ME following the paperwork the court lays out is what he has to do or he can be in contempt for harrassing you about your time. HE HAS TO RESPECT THE COURTS DECISION or fight a long battle to get your daughter... JUST DONT DRINK OR do any type of illegal activity that can be shown in court. NOT THAT YOU DO....
there i hope i have helped you in some small way. OH THE COPS DONT GET INVOLVED IN CUSTODY BATTLES only if you are meeting and he is hurting you of if you are there to pick her up and he wont give her to you .. bring your papers with you at this point. JUST TRY TO GET ALONG cause it is important for you to try to be hospitible...

Answer 2

Try to put yourself in his shoes. Every other weekend sucks. But that is what the court usually gives to the non-custodial parent. I am in the same boat. I only get my kids every other weekend. However, they come and stay at my house for a minimum of 60 days consecutive each summer. And there mother has to call them every day. And I let her. Just because you are a woman is why you have custody, try not to be such a ***** about it and be happy the father of your child still wants to be with his little girl.

Answer 3

You don't need to worry. If he wants to try, let him. You are doing the right thing by sharing all this time with him. It shows that you are looking out for the best interests of your daughter. Parental guidance seems to be very important to you. And not using visitations rights as a grudge, shows you are responsible. Let him threaten you, he will lose.

Answer 4

my ex had custody of his girls (3) and mom 'had' to see them (according to the courts) every other weekend and holiday. we bought her a house 3 miles from us (in the oldest daughters' name) so she could see them whenever she wanted to. we paid her phone bill so she could call the girls. did she do anything? NO!
she didn't see them for almost 3 years - until we took them over there to see their mother so they wouldn't forget her. she then went to the courts and had the house put in her name (the courts didn't even look to see who purchased it. they ASSUMED that because she's the mother , she had custody and there would be no problem with the name change) and sold it.

be thankfull at least he wants to be a dad. you could be fighting over other things. and how bad would that be for your child?

Answer 5

My daughter is also 10. She's at summer camp right now and it's killing me.

You screwed up and made a baby with a guy that wants to be a father.

Sorry.

Answer 6

do you have full custody of your child? if so he can't do a damn thing about it your child is in good hands and where she belongs...with mommy....he is probably just talking smack to get to you....what I would do is limit his time with her...go back to the way it should have been every other weekend... that will hit him hard and then maybe he will think twice before trying to threaten you with your child!!

Answer 7

He can not do anything. He better be lucky you are nice enough to let him see and talk to her everyday.He sounds like a major butt hole.You do not have to do what you are doing you only truly have to follow the court order.

Answer 8

I would'nt worry about it he's just talkin he cant do anything because u are the primary parent if he does he would have to prove you are an unfit mother and if you aren't don't stress over it.

Answer 9

he can't do sqwat you have costudy and let him see her more then enough as it is make it to where he sees her when the papers say he can and not any more or less