My friend's relationship with her boyfriend (exfiance) is coming to an end. She's gotten to the stage of just nagging and berating him. I keep telling her how I see it and what her options are. She often asks for my advice. Plus she brings this up SO often... I keep telling her that I can only give her advice based on what she's told me (b/c I don't know the guy). Recently she's gotten pissed off at me b/c she doesn't like my response. She's starting to make stupid choices (like talking to her psycho ex)...I'm trying to help prevent it but it's useless.
So what should I do? Tell her I'm not going to help her b/c she won't listen or gets mad at me?
It's like she wants advice and then doesn't want to hear/take it. It's pissing me off. I don't know what to do anymore.
So, what do I do???? (Right at this moment she's pissed - How do I get her to snap out of it and see the truth?)
2006-07-17 04:22:48 · 10 answers · asked by Corn_Flake 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
look sweetie, no matter how much advice you give she is going to do what she wants anyway. some people don't want advice they want you to agree with them and tell them what they want to hear and kudos to you for not doing that. that's why she's angry because you are giving realistic advice and she wants to live in the clouds right now. you can't hold her hand while she goes through this process she has to do it on her own. if she gets mad at you, try not to take it personally and be there for her when you can. if she gets on your nerves to bad, then tell her to not tell you anything if she doesn't like your answers. you can't tell her what to do because then she'll try and hold you responsible if something bad happens. be he friend, let her cry on shoulder and listen to her, but don't tell her anything to do. she has to face up to her problems on her own.
2006-07-17 04:56:27 · answer #1 · answered by Gigi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are her friend, not her therapist...just because you give her advice does not mean she should take it! She is going through a lot give her a break...it's probably all she can think about and she thought you were open and caring enough to understand. My advice to you is to stop being selfish and just listen to your friend, when she has a problem so should you. Or you could just continue to get pissed of because she's not taking your advice and lose a friend, your choice I guess
2006-07-17 11:28:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
for one no one listen to the advice, 2 just tell her she asks you tell here she dont listen so not gonna answer no more cant help someone who doesnt want it, if she gets upset oh well sounds like most of the time anyway, she will come around sonner or later and if you are still there for her then you will be if not well it happens, hope you can come out w/ a good out come and she has to learn for herself you cant live it for her.
2006-07-17 11:28:53 · answer #3 · answered by BRIAN J R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her from now on you will not advise her regarding her ex because of the way she takes the information OR you can tell her that if doesn't like your responses to HER QUESTIONS....don't ask you anymore questions regarding it. If you ask someone a question..you shouldn't always expect to like the answer you get.
2006-07-17 11:28:14 · answer #4 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes not a Friend and she is full of **** she does not want to leave this guy she wants to use you as a punching bag and really does not want your advice she really wants you to listen to her rants and raves and does not really want your input. end the friendship and get with some real Friends you deserve better and if not you will end up stressed out over someone else;s bull
2006-07-17 11:43:44 · answer #5 · answered by sexyswells42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is really nothing you can do to help an ignorant girl especially if she wont listen. the best thing you can do is not give her advice, or not be her friend anymore. tell her only she can make up her mind you cant help her.
2006-07-17 11:29:44 · answer #6 · answered by ciera V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you cant help the person who is asking for help...because quite frankly they only want to hear what they want to hear..tell her to grow up and you no longer wish to discus the matter,you will still be friends but no more advice on this subject and just be there to pick up the pieces when the **** hits the fan.
2006-07-17 11:29:06 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my oppion I would tell her if she don't like what I have to say . Don't ask me. I'm your friend and I care about you , but I'm not going to give you my oppion if you get mad about it. Becouse I'm only going by what you have told me. Good Luck. Just be onest
2006-07-17 11:31:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has to figure things out for herself, But you can be there when she hits the bottom .
2006-07-17 11:31:47 · answer #9 · answered by beerfootballgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well shes Ur friend so be there 4 her likes shes been there 4 u!!!!!!!
Tina
2006-07-17 11:28:12 · answer #10 · answered by krazy_kristina_33902 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋