He's been trying to redo our yard for almost a year and I still don't have grass. What can I do to make him work more and sit less?
2006-07-17 04:21:55 · 21 answers · asked by photomom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, I can't move the TV, too big and heavy. I've been helping him as much as I can. It's tough with the baby, but when he naps I always go out to help. He's in construction and has taken this project on without me even asking to have it done. All I want is a yard for my son to play in. I don't care if it's fabulous or simple, I just want grass. Having the dirt blow all over makes keeping the house harder. Can I just be blunt and tell him that he's just being lazy?
2006-07-17 04:54:06 · update #1
Try this:
During the week talk about what you plan on doing that weekend. Make definite plans and have a definitive goal. Keep it simple, break the project up into work that he can do in two or three hours. Continually remind him that you'll be out there too, try to word it so that it sounds like he'll be helping you. Friday when he gets home from work go with him to the shed/garage and make sure all of the tools and equipment you need for the job are there and work! If a tool is missing or in bad shape take him to buy a new one... guys like new tools as much as sex.
Then on Saturday wake up early, make breakfast for the two of you and get into the yard by 9 am... work out there with him to keep him motivated and focused. Once you both get done with what was planned for the day ask if wants to continue or call it a day. When you're working motivate him by supporting him, not nagging. Once things get negative he'll be back on the couch in a heartbeat.
Of course if you want to spice things up afterwards... point out that he is dirty and sweaty and suggest he take a shower... with you! Let him see how you appreciate him working with you. Maybe getting him off the couch next time won't be so hard if he sees how happy it makes you.
Good luck. My brother is a couch potato, a procrastinator, and just plain old lazy. It takes an act of congress to get him off the sofa. Good luck.
2006-07-17 04:48:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
threaten to leave him if he doesnt get his buttocks off the couch. or u could go hire a really hunky guy to redo ur yard and pretend that u have the hots for him by oogling at him aanytime ur husband is watching. that would be the easiest way to get him jealouse and kick the guy out then u'd insist he do the yard. good luck dear. hope it works. however, have u tried asking him nicely to help about the house and not nag him into doing it?u cld also try removing the t.v when he's gone to work and say it is spoilt.
2006-07-17 04:40:48 · answer #2 · answered by hef 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make him do things he doesn't want to do. Some guys aren't the fix it type. You may have a hire it done spouse. This is an underestimated personality trait women should look for before marrying a guy. If you want a handy man, marry a handy man. Don't marry a white collar guy, or a sports oriented guy, and expect him to turn into Bob Villa. If he doesn't have the interest or the aptitude, you'll have to wait for him to figure it out or get around to it. You should start going out there and working on it yourself. Showing him how much you want it done by doing it rather than nagging him about it may work better. He may show more interest and effort in helping you than doing it himself. Otherwise, hire it done or wait.
2006-07-17 04:38:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you're serious about getting the yard work done. And that you have waited for too long to have a beautiful lawn. Tell him things like how fun it is to have barbecue with friends in the yard and other fun stuffs that you can do if he gets the job done. If this doesn't work, hire professionals to do it for you and have them charge the whole amount to his credit card!!!!
2006-07-17 04:32:22 · answer #4 · answered by jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a whole lot! He will never change. My husband's lazy too. I just do it myself. One year I asked for a mini pond for Mother's Day... I went & got it myself. The next Mother's Day he dug the hole. We sold our house before I got any water in it.
Excuse me people: What's with the rewards?! Women don't get a "thank you, what a great job" or "WOW!, the dishes are sparkling. I'm taking you for dinner!" So WHY should men be rewarded?! I DON'T THINK SO!!!
2006-07-17 04:27:38 · answer #5 · answered by MysticHerring 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no point in nagging as that just makes me peed off!!! I find the best way to get my b/f to help me is to give him a choice of what he wants to do, for example, there is the washing up to do and the lawn to cut, which one do you want to do? And then he sees that I am also helping and not sitting around so he feels like he has to help. It does not always work though, but then if he does not help I don't do his washing.
2006-07-17 04:31:56 · answer #6 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop doing what you normally do and sit and watch tv. When he's hungry and has no clean clothes to wear, he will get the hint. Or he might ask what is up and you can let him have it. :)
My husband is no longer allowed to have do it yourself projects. I've been waiting 4 years for our garage to get finished...
2006-07-17 04:29:02 · answer #7 · answered by PATTY H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop doing your chores around the house and work on the yard yourself. When he ask how come the house work isn't getting done then you can tell him he can do it! ha,ha,ha. Seriously... go on strike and stop doing your chores and sit on your butt. He'll get the hint.
2006-07-17 04:27:50 · answer #8 · answered by sleeplessdreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help him.
or
Offer a reward if the grass get done by a certain day.
I would say do it your self. It will get done faster that way.
2006-07-17 04:25:07 · answer #9 · answered by Ryce Queen 13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is very true. More sex = more work. I found that out the hard way, now I feel like Bob Villa
2006-07-17 04:28:33 · answer #10 · answered by Andy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋