this could be a big problem...?

Question

my dad scares me...i know he would never harm me visicly, and he has never tried. but he raises his voice over the smallest things! he never does this to my mom only to me...ususally when she isn't around. most of the time i am so scared that i start to cry, my dad doesn't understand why he says i need to be tougher. i can't help being emotional.

what do i do? am i too emotional over this? have you experianced a similiar situation?

Answer 1

Yes! My Dad was 6' 5 and was very intimidating. (He was almost full blooded "Black Foot Indian") He said few words, but when he did, he talked to us like this, "if you do something I told you not to do, I will kill you, or literally knock your head off your shoulders". It was never discussed and we were always threatened with our life or some major body part. We lived in constant fear even though he only spaked us on some occasions. We called his spankings the "perputal spanking" (meaning it never seemed to end.) He even told us, that if we ever ran away from home, he would hunt as down, and where ever we laid our head, he would pounce upon us in our sleep. Now, that I am adult, even though his techniques were cruel and inhumane, we never (hardly ever, I was the worst being the baby)pushed any issues to see if he would live up to his threat's. I have learned that a lot of parents rule with either a stick, or fear. Its not a laughing manner when your as young as you are and going thru this as we speak. Just try to stay out of trouble and away from your Dad as much as possible. I think your Dad is probably a lot like mine, and banking on the fact if he keeps your afraid, he can keep you safe. Of course they never consider the mental abuse they put on us and the outcome of this abuse later on in life. So, let me suggest, someday, if you should happen to have to go into therapy because of mental abuse, just have them "bill your Dad." Finding some humor in all this, can help alieveate some of the stress you are encountering. Humor was the "life saver" ring in our life.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I wish you had stated your age. In any event; tell your mom about this. If your scared from the way he is saying things to you; THAT is reason enough for this to be dealt with. Constantly yelling at someone will not make them stronger, it will make them more nervous and afraid. Talk to your mom and perhaps a family meeting is in order.

Answer 4

Maybe he sees you as a lousy kid..maybe he wants you to be more musculine...its a guy thing...some ego thing...boys are perceived to be tough, so he might want you to act one..thats it..you can always talk with your mom regarding how you feel about this..to avoid misunderstanding with you parents especially your dad, you have to have an open communication with them..thats very vital in any relationship..talk to them so they know how you feel and at the same time ul also hear their side...

Answer 5

Try to talk to him about this. Ask him why he feels like he needs to yell at you. I don't know how old you are, but try to keep a level head and have an adult conversation. And maybe have your mom be a mediator. Have her sit in with you so no yelling takes place.

Answer 6

it may be that ypur father has some problems, that you don't know. may be he's nervious and looses his temper very easily. sometimes when I'm nervous I do raise my voice oo. I agree, It very bad , when you argue andhave no reason for it, but it's because of nerves. try to be more patient and talk to your mom. I'm sure together you will be able to help your father.

Answer 7

Don't be so afraid of him. He's never tried to harm you, so what is there to fear? Just him raising his voice to you. That won't kill you. Don't take it so personally to where you start crying. Just aim to please, and you'll be fine.
My father is similar, his tone used to scare me and sometimes the way he said things, would hurt my feelings....but, like he says, you need to ''toughen up'' and not take things to the heart.

Answer 8

approached him when he cooled down..tell him dat u dont like him shouting and yelling at u so much cause its annoying and hurts ur ears... he need to control his temper.if theres anything dat he needs u to do,do it immediately.fret not u will get tougher as time passes by.

Answer 9

sit down and talk to him, he mite be gettin high bloodpressure if he use to not do this, but sounds like he just is tryin too hard w/ you and parents can do this, its hard to figure out why act like that when they love ya and tryin too hard but its there,

Answer 10

it's hard to believe he doesn't do that to your mom also --- get a tape recorder and record his anger and then have a family meeting about him being verbally abusive