Wives, how would you feel?

Question

How would you feel if your husband didn't wear his wedding ring hardly at all? My husband is a helicopter mechanic, so I get the fact that it is unsafe for him to wear his wedding ring at work. I also know that a wedding ring is just a symbol of marriage. But then he goes to the store, or out to eat with the guys, he doesnt' wear his ring. I have to ask him to put the ring on. I really don't think he is cheating on me. I have told him how I feel, and that I want him to wear his ring, and he's like,"What's the big deal? I don't care if you wear your ring or not." So wives, how would this make you feel?

Answer 1

Well I am a guy. I have not worn mine for 12 years. We haven't had "the best marriage" for all that time either. It is great now. I was in auto body work and could not wear it. I just got used to not wearing it. I did not think how my wife felt about it as it was no big deal to me. Although we drifted apart for all those years, I did not think about cheating on her. Not too long ago I found out she was not wearing her ring and I was devastated to say the least. I now know how she felt all those years. I feel like such a but hole. I wear mine now no-matter what and I refuse to take it off. I hope this helps and maybe you should not wear yours for a while so he can see how it feels. It was a big wake up for me.
Good luck.

Answer 2

The wedding ring is a symbol of your marriage. I am an artist and have to take mine off when I am working. But I always put it back on after I am finished. It is important to wear the ring to me as it is also a reminder of how much I love my husband. He never takes his ring off. It he didn't wear his ring I would feel like something was not going well with us. But , some guys don't like to wear any kind of jewelry.....If it bothers YOU then you need to express your feelings. Marriage is a working relationship that often requires more intimate conversations about feelings. Good LUCK!

Answer 3

I would be very upset about it...I believe that a wedding ring is a symbol of your love. Although there are times that you need to take it off, like for work. But it should be put back on right after. Also, maybe consider putting it on a necklace if he has trouble wearing it. I don't think that means hes cheating he just doesnt feel the same way about it that you do. Just talk to him about it and tell him how you feel on the situation and see if he would think about wearing it around his neck instead.

Answer 4

honestly I have a husband like that his came off as soon as we left the building after getting marrried he wasnt use to one and it bothered him he did try for awhile foe me but almost got it caught in a machine at work he does construction and its hard to work withm, I dont mind any more if he does or not but it is because of the behavior and how he carries himself around others, I have had women say he's fair game as long as he's not got it on and knowin we are married and have been for almost 20 yrs but I put em in their place and so does he. if a guy doesnt want to wear then shouldnt as well as women but the reason why is the importance of it and if carries them selves a certain way there shouldnt be a problem, in fact I wear his band with my weddings rings, it makes me feel that its the symbol only, feelings and the love is all you need, most people dont even wear any more let alone cant afford .

Answer 5

I am the same way I want my husband to wear his ring all the time. When we first got married he didn't want to wear it and I sat him down and talked to him about it, I explained its not you I am worried about its the single female out there that like to hit on you. He has not taken his ring off not one time in the 5 years we been married. But it doesn't matter if they wear a ring or not, If they are going to do something they will do it. That tells me he is not being honest or trustworthy.

Answer 6

I don't see any problems as long he is still in marriage with you. Yes, wedding ring is a symbol of marriage vows between every couples but that doesn't mean without wearing ring is a betrayed significant of love and marriage.

My husband also not in the used of wearing wedding ring (not because he is from mechanical background etc). I do not question him coz its his habit and as long he loves me and well taken care of family, its fine with me.

I suggest you better stop nagging him about wearing the ring coz it will reflect your negative relationship with him.

Answer 7

I'm a husband and I sometimes don't ware my ring. I play a lot of basketball so I take my ring off for that. Sometimes it's days before I remember to put it back on. My wife doesn't even notice.

If you're worried about him cheating, just remember women these days don't look for the ring, they look for the imprint on the finger as well. The ring leaves an imprint. If you want to get back at him, I would say stop waring your ring, It was probably expensive, so I'm thinking he want it on your finger at all times.
Just stop waring it. When he ask you to ware your ring, that is when you have your case that he should ware his....

Answer 8

I understand your concern. But it is unsafe for him to wear it at work, and I'm sure it's just hard to think to put it on when he's not there. We, as women, have an easier time remembering to put on our jewels. Men don't. That's why they make more money than we do, so they can buy us pretty things. As long as you both trust one another and aren't worried that he would be cheating on you, then I don't think it's that big of a problem. Just make sure that you've voiced your concerns to him, and then let it lie. Don't keep pushing the subject, or else he'll start to resent you. He married you for a reason, that should count for something.

Answer 9

I know lots of men and women that don't wear their rings. As long as he is committed, what's the big deal? A ring isn't going to stop him from cheating if he is inclined to do so. I think you need to quit being so insecure and let him be.

Answer 10

My husband wants to get a tatoo of my name around his ring finger, so if he needs to take it off, he still has something there, and others can see it too. If you aren't opposed to tatoos maybe suggest this. My husband thinks its cool, so I don't mind. As long as I know he plans on being faithfully mine. Ask him also if maybe a less expensive ring can be bought for him to wear to work..maybe hes not a fan of the look of his ring. Ask. and Good luck!