So me and my man have discussed getting married when he gets back from korea in a year. But he is so worried that we'll be married for a while and then i wont like military life and ill want to leave. Can anyone tell me how it is exactly?
2006-07-17 03:36:28 · 7 answers · asked by nikki nicole 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hello. I am in the military and I have been stationed in Korea TWICE. Listen very carefully. If there is anything that will fully test you commitment toward each other it will be Korea. I am in every way serious that I have seen firsthand the destructive power that Korea has on marriages/relationships. I would honestly say that the divorce rate in Korea for military is easily 80%. Here are the reasons. In korea, you have no family members, so all the people you work with become your family and you become VERY close to one another. Everyone lives in dorms together so we spend all our time together. And here is the kicker. Everyone drinks alcohol ALL the time. Even on weekdays. No one is allowed to drive a car, and everyone just takes taxi's everywhere, so there is no worries about DUI's. Drinking happens everywhere. If you would like to IM me for more info feel free. But I am warning you, it doesn't matter how concrete your relationship is or how in love you are. Korea is VERY dangerous to relationships. Good luck.
2006-07-17 04:04:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Military life is not easy especially with deployments. The divorce rate is usually higher due to the lonlieness that either spouse will endure during times of seperations. I was married to a marine for 6 years. We got divorced because he didn't stay faithful. Military life isn't for everyone. Would I do it again, maybe for the right person but I would rather not? Good Luck!
2006-07-17 03:52:21 · answer #2 · answered by sweetdreamin96 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there... you are right to research the military lifestyle before getting married. It is truly a lifestyle that is very difficult to adjust to if you are not prepared mentally or emotionally and not committed 100% to supporting your fiance's career endeavors.
The good news is that there are many tools and resources to help you and your family succeed. Many service members and their spouses overlook the various organizations that are there to help until it is too late.
It is most important to remember that there is a great deal of sacrifice involved and the more prepared you both are, the better off you both will be.
2015-03-20 09:57:44 · answer #3 · answered by jarvis and nyawi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI, my husband is in the Marine Corp and we are in Hawaii. I can tell you for one you need to think about marrying a military man....I have not had to worry about my husband going away or moving yet. But I think you need to me more concerned about other things....my husband has a terrible temper. I have heard that many men in the military are very abusive, verbally, etc....mine can be. I think this is the reason that the divorce rate is so high....they can be very demaning when they want you to listen to them and follow them, they can be very aggressive, and verbally abusive.....moving around or him having to go away for awhile is not the hard part of being married to a military guy. It's how they treat you, an their minds, and their tempers. Remermber they have that military style of thinking and doing....and depending on the guy he will just want you to follow. Please really think about marrying this guy. Maybe give it more time??? If you want to talk with me email me at dlmvm0612@yahoo.com
2006-07-17 03:51:33 · answer #4 · answered by dlmvm0612 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me use to work in navy n i marry when i in it. my wife also told me that my job is taking up to much of our time, but i try to spend time with the family when ever i can, well that life in military. anyway just follow ur feel........ all the best to u......
2006-07-17 03:50:38 · answer #5 · answered by Andy Heckmen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can talk about Indian ones. marrying in to it is nice good life but lot of tension
2006-07-17 03:44:27 · answer #6 · answered by emily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not an easy task, most people end up getting a divorce unless it is fit for you to live on an army base.
2006-07-17 03:47:08 · answer #7 · answered by firewall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋