Ok -I have a situation I'm in, I have 2 children and boyfriend of three years. We fight all the time over money, the kids,housework, freedom. I work full-time he works when he feels the need to. But I pay all the bills on top of everything else we need to buy. He might pitch in a little here and there(money).The kids I wake up every morning with them. Even the 2 days a week that I work doubles.He feel he is superior to do any dishes or laundry. If he worked all the time I wouldn't expect him to. On top of this he thinks that he can go out when ever he wants(which wouldnt be a big deal if he just got a 3000$ DUI, his friends I see them more than their girlfriends.He cuses and calls me names all the time. I will admit I comment to him what I think needs to be improved But he has the right to tell me what I need to do also. What do I do Im stuck in this and dont know what to do Help?
2006-07-17 03:27:36 · 13 answers · asked by Brandy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to get rid of him. Someone gave me some really good advice a long time ago: "You can do bad all by yourself". I am sure that you love this man, but he is no good for you. He has no respect for you, the work you do, your children, or for himself for that matter. He is leeching off of you and you need to stop it now. No man is a real man if he can't take care of himself and is living off some woman. I'm not talking about stay at home Dads-that's a conscious decision made between two people. I'm talking about what you have described-a man who works when he feels like it, does not pay any bills, makes more bills, does no housework, does not help you with the kids and thinks that he can still do as he pleases. You already have two children to take care of-dump him.
2006-07-17 03:36:05 · answer #1 · answered by writeroftheyear1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What people might say to you are ...kick him to the curb...or tell him its over but what i realise is that it is hard to do that...i mean you have been with this man for 3 years...not 2 months and things like that are hard to let go. Me and my boyfriend argue alot!! and i believe its because we have too much in common...we both are very opinionated. But even though we argue at the end of the day we love each other..i believe that your decision should be based on if you love him or not...if you do you will find a way, but if you are still with him just because of the kids, its all going to clash one day...i believe that even though he has his issues with you he may still be a good father..the question is, is he a good father in the house or out of the house? People change...they really do so maybe you should take different chances and see what works the best...its better than being hurt completely.
2006-07-17 10:38:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should kick him out. He's not a real man! Real man would do laundry and dishes and whatever else needed to be done, even if he's working. This guy is a total looser, you can find someone better, maybe not right away, but you will, and you are better off alone anyway, he's not helping you in anyway and is putting you down. Show him the door and don't take him back.
2006-07-17 10:37:13 · answer #3 · answered by venus11224 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still with him?? you need to pack his stuff,and change the locks....if that doesn't work go to your parents place..if at all possible or even a close relative or friend...till you figure out where to go and find a new real man to help take care of you and your children.
2006-07-17 10:35:37 · answer #4 · answered by nas88car300 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him to the curb. He's a loser. He has kids to support and he doesn't even have a full time job. You can do better.
2006-07-17 10:30:57 · answer #5 · answered by Kris S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOUNDS LIKE YOU HAVE A TOTAL LOSER....SOME MEN OUT THERE ARE LIKE THAT....YOU CAN DO BETTER..IT DOESN'T GO 10-80, IT'S 50-50...DO WHAT YOU THINK IS BEST FOR YOU AND YOUR KIDS
2006-07-17 10:37:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sheesh...this guy needs to grow up and start pulling his own weight. Otherwise he's just a drag on you, whether he's your kids father or not!
2006-07-17 10:31:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him out. It might give him the shock he needs to help you.
2006-07-17 10:32:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick the low-life alcoholic out of the house and out of ur life. hes nothing but loser and a moocher. you can do alot better then him. DUMP HIS SORRY AZZ NOWWWWWWWWWWWW!
2006-07-17 10:38:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were you i'd tell him that it's over and kick him out of the house that you pay for
2006-07-17 10:31:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋