Do young people find it harder than they used to, to grow up(mainly aimed at men)?

Question

Taking on responsibiltly, Kids(actually supporting them no social help) being a farther, buying a house, BEING A MAN!
Getting in a postion were you don't need help!

Obviously help is needed to start with!
But too many women don't have the help of a man.I want to do well for my new baby when here,Starting a business can't be this hard!

No disrespect to single mums,I know they can do the job but it is easier with a man!

Answer 1

think about it like this: we went to school, we left school, and got a job. there ones education continued, both in the physical aspect of the job, and the social aspect. your elders were fast enough to tut tut if your behaviour was unacceptable. we were groomed from adolescence in adulthood in the workplace.

of course, with the modern nanny state, and a benefit culture, no one needs to take responsibility for anything anymore. and if all youve ever known was teh classroom, how do you expect anyone to develop and mature?

its no harder to grow up today than it was in 1974 when i left school. (no qualifications) but i left on friday and started work on tuesday. (bank holiday) yes, hard work played a part, as did the cash incentive...6 whole pounds a week..oooh the dreams of avarice. (a pint of newcastle was 19p and petrol was 30p a gallon!) yep, 4 quid went a long way 30 years ago. but i digress.

responsibility is something we must learn first hand. we have to learn what its like to go hungry before we consider putting food on the table. the skills we take for granted as we get older have to be learned slowly and painfully along the way. for my sins i left my wife with 2 kids, jamie was 3 months old, genene 2, ( i went to jail at 19 for armed robbery) now im in a relationship thats 24 year old, and have two more kids11 and 15 now.

i went back to school, got a levels, got a degree, and a job, how? i learned i was not at the centre of the universe. i supose i learned some perspective, what is and what isnt important. reeboks or the gas bill? go and get pissed with my mates, or buy the girls new shoes? you cant do both. you have to get your priorities right. and teh only person who can do that, is the same guy who stares at you in the mirror. we need to learn that looking after number one isnt neccessarily in our best interests.

the family unit is changing shape, it is no longer the golden people, and illusions of health wealth and vitality have long faded into the turgid track through life, which we all plod along. at the end of the day, we all must grow up, but like peter pan, some of us resist it for as long as we can. oh, why do we do it? because we can. young women these days are so insecure they jump thru hoops to keep johnny nerdowell happy. oooh, he'll leave me...well, if hes so shallow i suggest you open the door for him and hand him his coat. youre not his mum. youre the mother of his kids. boys will be boys, until you make them put away their toys, with womanly wiles and girly ploys... and maybe a squealy giggly noise... ( ok i write lyrics) its a bit like the lightbulb joke. how many psychiatrists does it take to change a lightbulb? one. but the lighbulb has got to want to change.

Answer 2

IMHO, the problem is that moms can teach thier kids *almost* everything, but no matter how good a mom you are, you can't teach your boy how to be a man. Thats not your fault, its his father's for not being there.

p.s. Starting a business is hard, thats why most of them fail, but don't give up.

Answer 3

I think a kind of social immaturity and preoccupation with selfishness started with the baby-boomers, which came to fruition during the 1970's "Me" generation. This form of self obsession has perpetuated ever since.

Answer 4

Women wanted to be independent, so now they must stand on their own two feet.

Answer 5

if you compare .. yes

Answer 6

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