OK... I'm 22 and my husband is 31. We have a 16 month old daughter and are wanting to have more children. We had a conversation on when to start trying for another one( we have never used protection and I've never been on birth control) our daughter was concieved within 4 months and its been 15 mths since we started having sex again after the birth of our daughter..Last month I thought that I was pregnant and then a unusual period came(unusual for me) and I was really us set but my husband didnt seem to be worried about it..I asked him if he was sure that he wants another child and he says yes but he doesnt seem interested in having sex when i tell him that its around the time that i would be ovulating. He says that I'm being impaicent but I know that theres only so long that we can wait to have another baby and I want to get a fertility monitor and things like that but he keeps saying it will happen when it happens..Can someone give me any advise if I make any sense?
2006-07-17 02:48:08 · 15 answers · asked by sjeboyce 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
You make perfect sense. In my experience, I found that when I tell DH that its time, sex becomes a chore. Sometimes he couldn't "finish" because of the pressure. We have been ttc since last May. I started Clomid two cycles ago and it gave me s/e turning me into ttc-psycho. And I had told him - big mistake - not to make me take it for nothing. LOL!! That was a bust cycle. So - our agreement is that I don't say when it's O time, I just get pretty and make it romantic - kinda like a silent understanding that it's time. I hope this helps. Keep in mind if you use the monitor, sperm can live in fertile CM for 3-5 days with 3 being most common. It takes 7 hrs for his swimmers to make it to your eggie and your eggie lives for 12-24 hours. Also when you get a peak on your monitor, it means you will O within 24-36 hours. HTH!!
2006-07-17 02:57:24 · answer #1 · answered by cott6887 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If I'm understanding you correctly, you have tried once and didn't get pregnant, so now you are freaking out and want to start getting all these fertility things already? Sounds to me like you should listen to your husband and calm down a bit. Why are you in such a rush to get pregnant right this second? If you are too stressed out it is going to make it harder for you to get pregnant. As far as your husband not seeming uninterested in sex, I really can't blame him. "honey I'm ovulating" just doesn't sound very sexy and makes sex sound more like a job than something that you want to do with the woman you love. Stop thinking of this as making a baby, and just be with your husband, the rest will happen on its own. After a while(months... these things take time)if you still aren't pregnant, then speak to your doctor.
2006-07-17 03:05:57 · answer #2 · answered by MELISSA B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, 22, I feel you are right at your thoughts, but the feeling in you that your 31, is not interested in having sex at the time that you would be ovulating does not have any meaning, there may be other factors such as work pressures or any such thing that makes your 31 unintensionally avoide sex at that time. Well i shall advice you to have a feminal approach and during the time of your ovulating, lure your husband not with the intention of having a baby, but with the intention of making love ... I guess that shall really work ............!!!!!
2006-07-17 03:03:25 · answer #3 · answered by A B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes women can get a little more obessed with pregnancy than men can understand, Perhaps your hubby wants to have another child but he just wants it to happen he doesn't want to rush into it. The more you talk about fertility monitors etc.. The more he will be resistant, Just back off a little and he will come around.
2006-07-17 02:57:29 · answer #4 · answered by arizonabrat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you have a good marriage and love children which is great. Your young and have lots of time so just talk with your mate and relax and let the both of you adjust to your new child some before starting another.
2006-07-17 02:56:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you do anything else, please read _Taking Charge of Your Fertility_ by Toni Weschler. It is more accurate than any ovulation predictor kit, and it is cheaper, too. If you can borrow the book, it is free; otherwise, it is a one-time purchase.
But it sounds like your problem is not one of trying to conceive, but rather of communicating with your husband. If you are desperately trying to have another baby, and he is completely neutral on the subject, maybe you need to deal with that situation first!!
2006-07-17 04:12:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use an ovulation calculator and try that for a few months if that doesn't work buy an ovulation predictor kit to see if you are ovulating. If you aren't go see your doctor and he will take you through the next steps. Right now just start with step one.
Good luck
2006-07-17 05:51:32 · answer #7 · answered by ange 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's lying. How is he with the first baby? Who is earning the money to pay for the baby? You seem very young and determined probably freaking him out with your persistance. I cant imagine that you have a very good job with a child that young so he may be worried that he might not be able to support all of these babies' needs and yours and his. He might be realizing that more babies means less "me time". There are many factors which may be contributing to him not being as into it as you are. Talk to him. Communication is key.
2006-07-17 02:58:06 · answer #8 · answered by PHD-NDN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 22 and you think you need to rush?
Although its not medically recommended, women are having
babies into their 40s! Certainly men are capable of producing
viable sperm into their 70s and 80s!
If you setup a regimented sex life to be able to produce a
child, you may lose the other aspects of sex. He may be
sensitive to being considered a sperm source rather than
the devilishly handsome guy you know he must be...
Relax! You've already proven you are both fertile.
2006-07-17 02:57:37 · answer #9 · answered by Elana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, do not be in to big a hurry, plus a child can effect your relationship yes including sex.
My x ruined my in that area which I thought was impossible, but we all learn new things.
Don't pressure him to much for their are real pressures or stress in life and from going to married without kids to married with children is a HUGE stress-er. Calm down and take deep breathes, finally you may have to seduce your husband if you want more children. If you do something nice or sexy for him and he doesn't do anything they maybe other issues distracting him.
2006-07-17 02:54:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋