Ok i caught my boyfriend on manhunt, and we met on adam. we promised to take a steady and firm relationship, i found his profile on manhunt and they were heart breaking.. when confronted he said babe its only for show it doesnt mean i want to hook up. Should i take his word for it? or should i set him up and see if he falls? of should i ...? i need advice boys and girls, i really feel something for this guy hes really everything i want and one in a million.
2006-07-17 02:34:31 · 10 answers · asked by Heretohelp 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Simply decide whether you feel you can trust him or not.
If you can trust him - then you don't need to set him up
If you're not sure you can trust him - then you haven't got the relationship you would want, and you'll have lost your one in a million - before it's even begun.
What if he's really the one, you set him up and then he finds out that you didn't trust him at his word?
2006-07-17 02:56:05 · answer #1 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you have posted your question tells me there is a great deal of mistrust involved...with good reason. Clearly, you have a right to question his behavior.
If you two entered into a mutual agreement, then WHY does he still have a profile online...an X-Rated profile at that?
I'd bounce as soon as I could if I were you, and consider yourself lucky you discovered his 'infidelity' sooner rather than later.
(Question: How did you "catch" him on Manhunt? Was he online at the time, or were YOU on Manhunt...and why?)
Get a baseline HIV -- ASAP.
Best Wishes!
2006-07-17 10:50:45 · answer #2 · answered by Specious λ Neurotica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you two been togther? It sounds to me that you have yeat to establish clear and open communications with one another. A relationship should have as its foundation love, respect and trust. All are earned and take time to develope.
Just because your mate is on the puter chatting dosen't mean he is doing anything. I believe you have to lay some boundries out togther. #1 how did you catch your mate on manhunt?
express to him that you would like to be open and honest with one another and can handle most things as long as it is not a lie. Being lied to shows no respect for you or the relationship your in.
I think the universe is offering the two of you to step up to the next level of the relationship.
Be realistic in gay relationships most partners cheat at one time or another, It dose not mean the one cheating dosen't love the one being cheated on. It means he is a gay male and seeking something strange. I don't mean to sound cold hearted but after years of wanting a perfect relationship i realized that guys cheat!
dosen't make it right or wrong just a fact.
If he is cheating then it is up to you if you want to salvage the relationship and promise each other to be brutaly honest with one another or to dissolve the relationship. I amin a 11 year relationship and yes there is times he may step out and play but dosen't mean he dosen't love me. Always comes home to me and shares his life with me.
In the past i have left a few good men that could have been a good partner ouut of my inability to understand you can have sex with anyone but only love someone. Dosen't make it right or mean i am condoming it just stating that you may want to review your beliefs and your reality and see if you cannot come up with a comfortable compromise that you can live with
2006-07-17 10:18:51 · answer #3 · answered by spmq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard this story over and over again. Come on face it - you are BOTH players. You were on there looking and you found him. If the story is the same as all the others you will deny being on there for yourself - you will say you were looking for him - he will say he just had it there for fun....you will believe him a little bit - then both of you will go off with other guys - you guys will have a couple of three ways and then eventually you guys will break up and you will both be back on the site looking for someone new.
2006-07-17 09:51:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And why were you searcing profiles on Manhunt after you promised to take a steady and firm relationship?
Lucy, I think you BOTH have some 'splainin' to do!
2006-07-17 13:06:19 · answer #5 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recommend against setting him up. If you are at the point that you believe you need to -- the relationship is already over.
Regards,
Reynolds Jones
PS I'm with the same partner almost 15 years. I would never even look for infidelity.
2006-07-17 10:04:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact you're asking this question says a lot about your inteligence. Did you ever know ONE guy who does those things for fun or to make fun of people? Your boyfriend is gay, no doubt about that. He is so ****** gay. i don't want to offend you but probably he is thinking of boys when having sex with you (IF you guys are having sex)
2006-07-17 09:40:20 · answer #7 · answered by paliminka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
set him up
taht is the only way you will know for real
oh and show us a link to see if it is pervy!
2006-07-17 09:43:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2006-07-17 09:46:25 · answer #9 · answered by Dick Lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had better get checked for STD. He is Gay and they get std's often.
2006-07-17 09:48:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋