my new boyfriend needs more cash to pay his morgage,some loans..it's about the exact amount of my salary. i love and trust him but he is a new boyfriend of a month..should i risk it and give him the money?
he is able to pay me back in 3weeks however he needs to sort the loans out before that. he did not ask for me to help i know he is axpecting though.
would you do it................
2006-07-17 02:34:14 · 36 answers · asked by Nasty Gurl From Around The World 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hell no!!!!!!
2006-07-17 02:37:44 · answer #1 · answered by meegeesmommy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
absolutely not, dont even go there, if he cant pay his loans and stuff back, how is he gonna pay u??? I"m mean really?? if he can pay u back all that money to take care of that stuff he needs. then why cant he do the same with the stuff he owns??? i've been in this situation before, and it does not turn out pretty. Gilrl u only known him for a month, or dating him for a month, u barely can say it's a true relationship, and it shouldn't be on that level so soon. just sit back and relax, especially if he's expecting u to do it. there is something else at work. he'll need money again, and it'll be more, and more, .He can't really expect u to do that, and if he's starts b itching at u, then let him lose.
But i belive your mind is already made up.
2006-07-17 02:42:10 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, no, don't do it. Really don't do it, I know you say you love and trust him but after a month I would not do it. If he needs help then offer practical help, like cook him some meals or something like that, do not let your whole salary go like that, what are you meant to live on. I have loaned people money in the past, people I thought were friends and that I could trust (and I had known them for more than a month) and they never paid me back, then they left the country still owing me £500. Don't lend him money, he got himself into the mess and should learn his lesson from it. Tell him to ask his family to help him.
2006-07-18 23:55:38 · answer #3 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. That's no way to start a relationship. Your new boyfriend is already telling you that he doesn't handle money responsibly. Tell him to ask his family. Chances are he already borrowed from them and burned his bridges there. Don't allow yourself to be next in line for someone who uses people. They usually have a "good" reason why they don't have the money now, and they'll have another reason why they can't pay you back like they said they would. Let this guy dig himself out of his own mess, when he shows he can handle his own finances then maybe he can convince you he'll be able to be a good partner. If he doesn't understand that it's not your resposibility or your problem you've discovered a major character flaw. Don't start a trend in the relationship that you'll be there to bail him out whenever he needs a buck.
2006-07-17 02:54:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! After only one moneth you don't know this person well enough to have established trust with him. If he is already expecting you to bail him out then I will assume, based on past experience, that this will be the beginning of a trend. Let him work through his own financial issues. You may find that he will turn away from you. I f that's the case, then you were better off to find this out in the beginning. You don't need to be a crutch for anyone. Would he do this for you?
2006-07-17 02:52:13 · answer #5 · answered by mdsredhen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No No No. Dont trust anyone who gives you a sob story within five minutes of meeting. If he is able to get the money in 3 weeks, then the finance company will probably give him an extension if he can prove it. Why wouldnt they otherwise? Don't part with your hard-earned cash, or you could lose your home as well!
2006-07-17 07:16:04 · answer #6 · answered by Thia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, you have only known the guy for a month.
Secondly, how do you know that he will give it back in three weeks, it seems like you hardly know the guy. if hes expecting you to help then he should ask you, or you should ask him ' do you need help?.'
Thirdly, if he has loans to sort out before he pays you back, then i would advise you to wait for him to sort out his loans before you give him the money, because if he doesn't sort out the loans and you give him the money that needs for his mortgage, then he will expect you to look after the loans as well.
2006-07-19 03:43:05 · answer #7 · answered by Jade-Emerald 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the money, dont expect to see it again.
Look upon it as a test for him, whats the worst that can happen
a) you get it back, and he values the fact that you trusted him when he needed help
b) Money and boyfriend dissapear and you learned a valuable lesson in life. And wont be wasting any more thime with the b*stard.
Either way, you win
2006-07-17 04:32:29 · answer #8 · answered by femuricious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u know him better then me, if he's a nice guy and u really can trust him, then l don't see why not.
Just because it's only been a month doesn't mean he's going to run off with all your money, some people are married for 20 years and one runs off with the others money!
Do what u feel is best.
2006-07-17 04:25:51 · answer #9 · answered by London girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a lady and ladies need pampering so you shouldn't use all your salary.If he calls the people he owes the money could he pay a few weeks late they might let him .Good luck.PS i looked everywhere for a naked lady in Greenwich park but couldn't find you anywhere so i went for the beer garden cheers.
2006-07-19 03:28:42 · answer #10 · answered by pig m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only a month i would so no dont do it you will get burned.But if you DO then please please make up a contract stating how much you loaned him and put a time frame when you want the money back and have him sign it and if possible i would get it notarized.That way if something happens to the relationship and he dosent pay you back you have proof and you can take him to court
2006-07-17 02:41:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋