2006-07-17 02:25:54 · 24 answers · asked by The Urban Princess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It takes two to play that game so the answer is that you do nothing. I know that's hard, but the ones who are going to believe what the gossip has to say are going to believe it whether you say anything or not. When you try to fight back against a gossip, you are giving them what they want which is a reaction so they can talk about that too.
We all have someone like that in our families. Feel sorry for them if you can find it in your heart to do so. They must feel very insecure within themselves that they try to direct attention away from themselves by belittling others.
Good luck to you.
2006-07-17 02:31:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Manipulation & gossips are signs of low self esteem and other deeper issues.
Tell the person up front you have a problem with their habits and it’s a problem… suggest they get help.
Then give them nothing to talk about or to manipulate you with. at first they will try anyway but after a whiles others will see the truth.
You might talk with a professional about learning how to gain tools so not to put so much into what others say about you. Learn to be secure with yourself and it will not matter when others try to hurt you...
Remember that sticks and stones and words will hurt but the word you can learn not to let them brake you.
2006-07-17 02:44:57 · answer #2 · answered by jaggedart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront them.
they are family, which means that you won't be able to escape by avoiding this person. you're connection is too close.
i would avoid confiding in them and any social functions unless family oriented.
finally, i would confront them and just ask that you be excluded from any gossip or conversation. don't allow them apologies or excuses.
simply inform them that you have heard they like to gossip about your life and you don't enjoy being the "center of attention" in that manner. you are a private person and feel that should be respected.
explain that you are not concerned with their gossiping ways in general, just when it comes to you and your life.
hopefully, that will take care of it.
if not, then limit your contact with this person and try to ignore the gossip.
take care.
2006-07-17 03:43:37 · answer #3 · answered by joey322 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep in mind that even though they are talking...if it's not true... why should it bother you? lol...poetry! and hopefully, the ones who are subject to the gossip know ,"believe nothing that you hear and only half of what you see"!
I would bet that this person is very jealous of you. and must not have a life of their own to talk about. if you look at it this way, maybe you can see how interesting a life you must live for someone to take so much interest in! be thankful for this boring person showing you and others how exciting your life is! i bet it would 'get their goat' at bit to see a happy reaction from you...lol...yep!
good day to you...you incredibly interesting person!
2006-07-17 02:45:54 · answer #4 · answered by letsee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The normal thing to do is to cut the family member off from the source. They can not be manipulative if they can not talk to you.
2006-07-17 02:29:52 · answer #5 · answered by puzmen26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on what hold their manipulation has on you but on the gossip part i suggest you just ignore cus where the mouth is the feet don't get there. it means the impact of her gossip can't be tracked. but if any family memeber come to you to ask you regarding what it was they heard, then u can tell them your own side of the story.
2006-07-17 02:31:36 · answer #6 · answered by angelilomo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to have this problem. If you didn't tell certain people (or anyone at all) your business, then they wouldn't have anything to gossip about or manipulate you with, would they? I found that keeping my business to myself works wonders. Good Luck!
2006-07-17 02:29:02 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I would talk to them about how you feel.If that dosent work then I would limit my contact with that person and dont give them any details about your life thats giving them ammo to gossip.And what kind of family member would do this.Sounds like one that needs to get a life of there own
2006-07-17 02:28:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to that family member about it and tell him/her that what you're doing is bothering her and that she should stop. If she doesn't get the help of your other family members and friends and tell them about that family member, so that they'll know not to pay attention to her.
I hope that helps!
2006-07-17 02:28:17 · answer #9 · answered by Mujareh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having learned that the family member is like that, it's best to separate from that person and be distant from that person. :)
2006-07-17 02:30:41 · answer #10 · answered by Luzzie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋