i hate having sex with him but i dont feel nothing.is there a cure for this?
2006-07-17 02:20:55 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Cheat, it's what all women do, if you aren't already.
2006-07-17 02:28:25 · answer #1 · answered by spudric13 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself how important sex is in the relationship. If the answer is not very, just accept that sex in long term relationships can get mundane and very rountine and choose to focus on something else that is positive that you have together. If however, the answer is very important, there are lots of things you can be doing like spending time away together alone, buying the karma sutra and trying every position in the book, having fun dressing up, introducing sex toys. You will find the answer. Good luck.
2006-07-17 08:08:14 · answer #2 · answered by Squiddly Diddly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not uncommon... sex in a relationship can get stale, routine, even boring... have you ever thought he may feel the same way?
Bite the bullet and be the person to do something different... wear lingerie, try a few different position... take him to a hotel and molest him.
Next... TEACH him... tell him what you want, and like. You'll be surprised at how open he will be, and how willing he is to learn. This is one of the HARDEST things for a woman to do... tell their partner how to be BETTER at what they do... but it can be one of the most sexually rewarding things you do.
If you still love him, and plan to stay with him (contrary to an answer above, Divorce is NOT the answer) then you have to make a concerted effort to make sex BETTER for both of you.
Hey, and if that doesn't work... drop me a note... :)
Good luck!
2006-07-17 02:27:50 · answer #3 · answered by Village Idiot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same trouble when I was put on a strong contraceptive pill.He may as well been making love to the bedhead.That or its time for a big D&M with him,as hard as it may seem to talk about, sex is a mental and physical thing.If you love him work on it. But and yes there's always a but,have fun,be spontanius find out what both of you like,set boundries,you'll be surprised at how much you didn't know about each other.Good luck
2006-07-17 03:05:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have not said how many children you have. Normally, when a lady gets more than one child, she loses interest in sex. However, the problem can be multifold. If your husband drinks excessively and use you mechanically to have sex, naturally you will hate having sex. Sex is beautiful when both the partners indulge in long fore play and gradually get to the point. Having said this, now you should analyse what is wrong. Are you a working woman ? Are you interested in another man ?
2006-07-17 02:29:19 · answer #5 · answered by tnkumar1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably just dis satisfied by your husband sexually. My boyfriend is really sweet and I adore him except he really is cluelss about what to do in bed and there is nothing as un exciting , so rather than make a big deal out of it and try to teach him one more time, I give up and fake it. I have tried, but he thinks he has all the answers becuase he has "read" about how to satisfy a woman, but and he just don't get it.
I have been in a terrible physically abusive relationship and had a great sex life. I had to decide what I wanted in a relationship.
He treats me really well, and is really good to my kids from a previous marriage, so I just try to make him happy. I figure whats 45 minutes in my life out of a 24 hour day. He comes off beating his chest like bongo the gorilla and he thinks he is so good in the sack.
2006-07-17 03:01:20 · answer #6 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do u have kids? That may have changed your private in a way that makes ur parts not sensitive amymore. U can have surgery to remove extra skin that will expose or bring out ur sensory nerves.Talk to ur doctor about that. I dont really know much, I was just reading a little the other day.
2006-07-17 02:26:26 · answer #7 · answered by Voice of reason 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes theres a cure and its not drugs , youve just lost the spark try and ignite it again get to know each other again go on dates nice walks in the park or the country ,take up dancing maybe latin thats a sexy dance and very sexual , arrange to meet each other in a pub at the bar , pretend not to know each other sit at deferent ends and let him buy you a drink and come over and chat you up , book a hotel room close by and after the hook up at the bar go to the hotel have wild sex and when he falls a sleep leave him there and go home ,you will feel so dirty and naughty that when he comes home youll feel something .......maybe guilt but i bet you'll want him to take you on the kitchen table
2006-07-17 02:31:59 · answer #8 · answered by dirtyharry7717 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say you feel nothing do you mean emotionally or physically or both? It may be a medical condition or a psychological condition. I would evaluate my symptoms and then seek the help from a licensed professional individually or as a couple whichever is more comfortable to you.
2006-07-17 02:25:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are far more many things you two can do to help. You don't feel anything, probably he feels the same but if not, he is enjoying you.
Now, I don't know what you two do on your free time. I suggest, you should be taking baths, you know doing things together can help.
Go out to cinema and kind.
2006-07-17 02:33:06 · answer #10 · answered by Bif 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have reached the stage where your marriage needs a vitamin pill. I don't need customers but speak to me through my 360 and I will try to help you, I have helped many couples with this problem, If you are shy, then let me speak to your man.
2006-07-17 02:29:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋