my husbands ex will not have a conversation with him without argueing, makes the kids lie about thier dad and uses them to hurt him. I am stuck with the emotional fallout. anybody else?
2006-07-17 02:09:53 · 7 answers · asked by 2shrrp4u 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This happened the other way for a boss of mine. Her husband would call and argue and argue, and tell the children lie after lie about her. He had beat her so bad she had to leave for the children's safety. She swore she would never tell her children until they were 16, she had to give in and tell them when they were about 11 years old. Since then she talks to him no longer except over email. She won't talk to him on the phone, and refuses to read words that would be used to anger or hurt her. Sometimes you have to put your foot down and say that until their behaviour changes, you will have nothing to do with them anymore. When you talk to the children, don't spend it trying to defend yourself. Just love them, and show them that love, and if they have questions, answer them honestly. Children can tell when a bull answer is given. They may judge you at times, they would do that even if they lived with you allt he time and believed in you explicitly. But if they think on something very wrong, don't be afraid to ask them questions to get them thinking on things right. Questions instead of lectures tend to work much better with children. Her husband also stepped in and shielded her from her ex. Good luck, ex's can be unreasonable and impossible. Where their senses go, if they ever had them, I will never know.
2006-07-17 02:22:00 · answer #1 · answered by Kendra 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is not my husband yet, but soon will be. His ex-wife is a real *****. They argue and she says hateful things about him to his son. His son; however, thinks the world of him. She tries to buy the son "love". She has had my fiance is court more times then I can imagine. Right now he is sitting in jail for 20 days for nonpayment of child support, which is not his fault. He is unable to work due to an injury that occurred at work. However, the judge sided for her. He has worker's compensation cases going. She is just hateful and out to grab all she can grab. She has quit her job and her new husband is in Afgan working with the police over there. He went by choice not recruited.
2006-07-17 10:20:12 · answer #2 · answered by fhockey1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer and explain what is happening.Shes using the kids or turning them against there dad.If your husband wanted to pursue this tell him to go in and file for full custodt.Sounds like ex is a psycho and needs to go down hard core.She wants to play a nasty game speccially using her kids turn the tables and snatch those kids away from her
2006-07-17 09:23:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, while this is not happening to me, it happened to my older friend/co-worker. What wound up happening is he actually moved to austria last year with his new wife to escape it, now he sends support via money order and doesnt have to worry about it. While he misses his kids, he sends them a letter every month with no return address label just telling them how he is doing and how he misses them. It's quite sad but she brought that onto him and his children.
2006-07-17 09:15:05 · answer #4 · answered by Drew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't assume the ex is crazy. She may have a good reason for being that way. You got to remember he chose to be with her at one point in time.
2006-07-17 13:50:09 · answer #5 · answered by lisamadd1979 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try this one................my ex had her new husband threaten to kill me if i saw my kids, sent them presents, or letters or if any member of my family contacted them.then she kept me from seeing them for 8 years while i was paying c/s. and the courts would order her to let them see me she wouldn't follow the orders. then she divorced her ex and brought them back to me to have a father figure in thier lives,at this point she has taught them to play me for money and to give them whatever they want.as this progresses i eventually begin to ween myself from doing this and she convinces them i dont love them because i dont give them everything they ask for so now they have no desire to be around me.... even go so far as to tell them both now that thewy are 18 and 17 that i am not thier biological father.........the moral of this story.............dont feel bad because women suck!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-17 09:22:43 · answer #6 · answered by wizendwizard 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yep , my husbands x wife is pathetic too..
2006-07-17 09:13:17 · answer #7 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋