question of intellectual LOVE?

Question

IF U FALL IN LOVE..what shud u do...the case is tht u like a person whom u dont even know fully but ur intellectual level matches with him ....u like everything of his...and u also know tht this relation can never tranform into marriage...major reason 4 never meeting is tht he does not belong to your country...and horoscope readings say something else...shud u just try to not think abt him and pray and surrender or sacrifice ur feelings coz of destiny....huh another online relation....plz dont make fun and try answering in not 2 or three words....but i was thinking tht how wud u settle for someoneelse ( the person u r destined to marry -he may or may not b like him)..i mean how can u even think abt settling for a person lesser than his level...when u find something in life and its up to a great level u dont feel like settling 4 a lesser thing...make note the love has not been confessed as yet but u know tht u cant get a better person than him.hes more intellectual than u( me)

Answer 1

is it realy that dificult for you two to meat? that sounds a bit strange!

Answer 2

This would be a lot easier to read if you did not use the email abreviations in such a long question.

Secondly, dump that stupid astrology bit. The horoscope is a scam. Anyone who believes in a horoscope is being scammed. They are letting their lives be directed by some nut who claims to have some special knowledge of the stars and planets zillions of miles out in space. What a crock.

Now, about your question. I am not sure EXACTLY what you are asking. Are you asking IS there such a thing as intellectual love? If you are attracted to someone on the Internet, that isn't exactly INTELLECTUAL love.

No one here can tell you what to do. Your life is your own and 99.9% of the people on the Internet do not KNOW you nor your life, so they will give you what THEY think you should do, but--they may be as unreliable as a horoscope.

Only YOU can make the decision about what to do. I would suggest talking to a man of the cloth (preist, rabbi, cleric...whatever) and ask for guidance.

Thirdly, if this person is someone you have never met, be aware that very often when people meet, they find the actual in-the-flesh person is not the same person that was conceived in the brain. Love is more than an intellectual attraction. That should be an obvious observation.

Your problem is not an easy one to answer, and a decision cannot be made hastily. Seek advice from those wiser than yourself and older. Because someone is older than you, they have seen and experienced much that you have not--yet. Give them respect and some credit for their advice.

I could go on, but--it would be a very long answer.

Answer 3

I fell for my hubby because of his intellect so I can see where you're coming from. Anyone else just feels dull, boring and dumb to be honest. You can't settle for anyone else.

As far as horoscope readings...I really wouldn't read them anymore. If you want this to work you have to be able to believe that you make your own destiny. Things don't happen unless you take the steps to MAKE them happen.

Even though this very intellectual man may be from another country it does NOT mean you can't meet. You can travel, he can travel, you can meet somewhere in the middle. I don't see a problem there. I also do not see a problem with an online relationship, long as you have a common understanding that at some point you'll attempt to meet.

Profess your love, why not? All the guy can say is no and then maybe he can say he loves you too. You've nothing to lose and much to gain here, don't you?

I don't settle, I don't believe in settling. If you settle...that's when later in life you'll experience regrets and anguish. Go for it!

Answer 4

First, U get what you deserve. If you do not have the courage to go after what you want, in this case, tell him of your love, you will never have it. You alone are then responsible for not getting what you wanted.

Second, There is always the chance, that he may not entertain the same feelings. In that case, you only do not get the guy, but you would still have got Love - ur love for him, tht's something even he cannot take away from you.

So go ahead, make your feelings known. DO not have the regret of not trying. If destined, He will be yours. Even if not, He is destined to be loved by you.

Answer 5

Intellectual level and love.
It doesnt seem you re really in love and what you say about settling confirms it.You know a person who is only half of it,
if this intrigues you it doesnt mean that meeting him up is
gonna be heaven, after 3 weeks have passed.
And you can share intellectual stuffs whit ppl that you barely
know, but you cant live with one who doesnt match other needs,
more unconscious than else. Or you ll break up.
best whishes

Answer 6

i know EXACTLY how you feel, but it doesn't take two whole paragraphs to explain it. You have to let things run there course, dont be afraid of what might happen, JUMP into it, and pray you land on your feet. No one will ever be able to fill his shoes, its impossible to think so, and if you dont put forth your all to help the situation you'll waste your whole life trying to find someone that can fill the spot. Screw horoscopes, theres always a glich somewhere in the stars.

-Tayy

Oh yeah and have u tried talking to HIM about this, trust me if he's that intellectual, together you will fing your way.

TRUST and COMMUNICATION.. the two keys to any relationship

Answer 7

Matching intellectual levels don't mean that you're in love. Heck, it doesn't even mean you're in a relationship. Double heck, it doesn't mean you're destined for each other. It just means you found someone who thinks like you.

And that you are one heck of a desperate, lonely person, to think that the two of you are soul mates.

By the way, love is about emotions, and intellect is about rational thinking. "intellectual LOVE" just doesn't make any sense. You're better off saying "I'd like my steak rare well-done," or "The one in Iraq is a peaceful war," or something stupid like that. No offense.