2006-07-17 01:59:30 · 9 answers · asked by kipa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ok this is arranged marriage, he didnt like her til the last minute it was a no then he calls up and says he is engaged, he leaves to come back to kenya a day after his engagement goes back a week before his weding comes back 5 days after his marriage- no honey moon and answers his phone at2:30am on his wedding nite.does that sound like love.his parents forced him in this one as everyone of his friends think and we live in 2 different towns and have never dated each other we found out we were in love with each other, but we didnt tel each other until our friends passed the message.do u stil feel like he is cheating on me, he doesnt show any affection towards her, he goes out partying without her and he has only been married for 2 months.
he finds every excuse to contact me, and i do my best not to call him coz he is married - what do u think now
2006-07-17 03:58:25 · update #1
well.....no...not okay
2006-07-17 02:02:54 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, have you told him how you feel? If not then that is when you worry because if his feelings are mutual then he got married for other reasons maybe it was income( money changes people) maybe it was status (social ranking controls people) or maybe she was already pregnant- some men and women have morals that a family should be together - kids and biological mom and dad and so on. Check with it and see what he REALLY feels without disrespecting her to get a better understanding. If your right - his marriage would work. If you are wrong let it go.
2006-07-17 09:09:52 · answer #2 · answered by Tired of lies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, When youre married, one tends to think its the end of their freedom. But you do get attracted to other people. However, if you're married, then you gotta love your spouse and no one else, coz thats the vow you take when you get married. If he loves you then he is cheating on his wife. And then again, you become the Evil Mistress. If you have no problem in being one then go ahead. But it wont last for long. If he can have feelings for you after getting married to the one he loved, then he could have feelings for others too!!!!Take care and all the best!
2006-07-17 09:11:35 · answer #3 · answered by quixotiksoul 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come on now you really think he doesn't have feelings for his wife?
Signs he is playing you!
-When he talks to his wife he is rude and hangs up on her.
-He calls her names and says he doesnt want to talk to her no more
-Talks sh it about her to you
-tells you how bad of a wife she is.
-you dont see him every night and cant call him during certain hours
-you cant call his house phone or doesnt have a house phone
-he doesnt pick up his cell phone or randomly hangs up on you
basically he got you, when he is not with you he is at home sleeping in bed with her telling her how much he loves her. While he has you sitting there thinking he loves you more than her. If he really hated her or didn't have feeling for her he would have gotten a divorce already!
Why would you want to be with someone who cheats to be with you. Do you really think that you have what it takes to make him not cheat on you? RIGHT.... LOL.....
GOOD LUCK and I hope she doesn't find out!
2006-07-17 09:15:00 · answer #4 · answered by Jessie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is NOT OK for one reason only.
You are perhaps deceiving yourself.
If this person has no feelings for his wife why did they marry?
If you continue to pine over him you are going to overlook the next great guy. You can't watch where you are going while looking back.
He is married. Move on with your life. It will come to no good end if you just keep wishing your love would come to his senses.
Only you will be the looser.
2006-07-17 09:11:00 · answer #5 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is definitely not okay. he does have feeling for her or they wouldn't be married. guys say that to get others girls to feel sorry for them, and then use them for sex. cut him off and demand he separate. if he doesn't he did not love you.then move on to someone available.
2006-07-17 09:20:10 · answer #6 · answered by 2shrrp4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes but if someone you love get married they love their wife and is telling you there's no feelings.Unless you know its not love and is for the money.
2006-07-17 09:05:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Never trust these kind of people.
2006-07-17 09:05:06 · answer #8 · answered by GS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! It is not o.k.! Get a single love!
2006-07-18 20:41:34 · answer #9 · answered by jenny2tone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋