Mi lili girl and lil boy are his kids and he's know it. My kids are not the problem and i not saying that my boyfrined is all i saying is i need more from him. I think me and my kids deserves more and i think he's scare of commitement. How do i ask him if he ready to take the next step. I'm ready to marry him but i want him to want the same thing. I dont ever want to second our lvoe for one another. I want real love and passoinate.
2006-07-17 01:50:22 · 6 answers · asked by meka 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i cant tell u what guys think, because their strange creatures
2006-07-17 01:54:37 · answer #1 · answered by kaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. The two of you already have two children together so some sort of commitment is already being made. If you feel like he isn't giving you what you need then you need to tell him that and let him make the choice on weather or not he can really give you what you seem to need.
You should never have to second your love with another ... if you do then its not true love. What you do need to know is if your boyfriend is capable of giving you what you need. Also if he's not what steps are you willing to take.
You need to be true to yourself first and go from there. What will you do if he doesn't want the same thing you do or if the real love and passion are never there? Work with him ... make sure he knows where you stand and go from there. He can't know what you are thinking or how you are feeling without you telling him.
I truly hope that things work out of all of you, that you get the kind of love you are seeking.
2006-07-17 09:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's an old saying you probably heard before . Why buy the cow , when you can get the milk free. After two kids , do you really think he's going to marry you ? When you were pregnant with the first he should have done the right thing and married you . Too many people are doing it backwards these days . Then they wonder why the guy won't marry them after all the kids and all the years . The guy usually takes off with another women who has a dozen kids to someone else and ignores his own . Its shameful
2006-07-17 08:55:04 · answer #3 · answered by vpsinbad50 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wise to allow a man full access to you without physical and emotional/mental protection. Always seek commitment first. He's gone if not commited by now, but make him pay support by using the courts. Let this lesson be a learning experience and remember, there are a LOT of good men out there, you just got a rotten one.
2006-07-17 10:05:30 · answer #4 · answered by V Remember Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have 2 of his children. if he wanted to spend the rest of his life with you , you would already be married. he doesn't want to marry you.
sorry for being so blunt, but it's the TRUTH. just ask your mom - she'll tell you the same thing.
does he even have an idea of what life without you would be like? take a weeks vacation without him and the kids to let him know.
he might change his mind.
2006-07-17 08:55:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask you can't sit around waiting forever for him to grow up
2006-07-17 08:53:39 · answer #6 · answered by luvinmybabies2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋