I love my boyfrind and he's been in my life for 4 years but sometimes i think he don't wants to be with me. We stay together and it's like we'll a happy family but i can't seem to wrap my finger around why sometimes he rather be in the streets then cuddle up with me and the kids watching t.v. or having family night. He say he loves me and that he has to make time to spend with his homeboys and i understand that but it seems he be with them more then he' s with me. What should i do? Should i let him hang out and not think he's really out there whoring around or the trust i have in him keep it and let it go?
2006-07-17 01:25:03 · 11 answers · asked by meka 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is my motto....maybe it will work for you.....dont suspect anything until you catch him with someone else....it decreases worry and stress...although I know it will stay in the back of your mind...always think of it that way.....or you could always contact cheaters (the tv show) if you are that suspicious.
2006-07-17 01:29:20 · answer #1 · answered by lildevilchild_87 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every one needs a little time to themselves to get away from stress.Everyone is entitled friends.I would start worrying if it became an every night thing and he has no time with you and the kids.After all family does come first.I would talk to him and ask whats going on and let him know how you feel.Tell him if he wants they can come over once a week for poker night or video night or something.If he thinks you are trying to control him by not letting him see his friends things will get bad.Or tell him since he hangs with his homeboys so much and you are always with the kids thay you want to hang with your girls sometimes to and let him stay with the kids for awhile
2006-07-17 08:31:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel. Let him know that he's messing up something good. You should still trust him though. You have no proof that he's cheating, so don't accuse. Just let him know that you love him very much and that you don't want to lose him to his homeboys.
2006-07-17 08:31:40 · answer #3 · answered by babyjay_babyjae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For men, dealing with kids is frustrating. Does he come home drunk? Is he a drug user? Maybe he's stressed out and just needs to get out of the house. I wouldn't worry about it to much if the answers to my 2 questions are no. I don't believe that guys deliberately go out thinking, "i'm gonna cheat on my g/f tonight". But if drugs or alcohol is involved, it's very easy to get into that kind of a situation by accident. Just calmly talk it out w/ no yelling. Just seem interested in his life outside the family and that might persuade him to talk to you about what he does while he's out.
2006-07-17 08:41:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-07-17 08:33:32 · answer #5 · answered by Prashant Pathak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't given you reason to believe he is cheating you need to let that go. He needs to spend time with friends and family and you should understand that.
2006-07-17 08:27:56 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, from a mans point of view, if he is spending more time with his "homeboys" than he is with you then there is something way wrong. what can you do?
2006-07-17 08:31:22 · answer #7 · answered by jjjwww07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u trust him let it go but if u dont trust him well i would be asking him some more ?
2006-07-17 08:37:52 · answer #8 · answered by shell4678 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he doesn't love you at all... Everything's that simple, no need to go far
2006-07-17 08:31:11 · answer #9 · answered by Yurik M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me get this straight:
you want to be with someone who doesn't want (to be with) you.
what's wrong with you?
do you hate yourself that much?
i love myself. i would rather spend time with me than with someone who doesn't want me around.
i don't understand. i just don't 'get it'.
2006-07-17 09:05:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋