My 18 yr old daughter has always wanted to run to the streets. When she was 12 yr old I had problems with her not wanting to be home cause she knew I was not having the disrespect. Now that she has grown I am proud that she recently graduated and had me a beautiful granddaughter. But my concern is what is going to happen to me when I get older. Will she be there for me, cause right now she is not.
2006-07-17 00:48:49 · 12 answers · asked by ressie re 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She is obviously very immature by the little bit that you've said. but lots of people "grow up" later in life and are able to be very responsible adults when they realize what changes have to be made in themselves. If she's 18 and already has a child, she is in no way ready to even think about taking care of a parent. She is probably extremely self centered (even the normal straigh-laced teen is totally self centered). There will hopefully come a day, perhaps in another 5 or 10 years when she wakes up. Don't lose hope. But in the meantime, don't worry too much about what will happen when you get old. If you are forseeing some poor health conditions for yourself, then start seeking another alternative just in case.
2006-07-17 00:54:12 · answer #1 · answered by paintgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her. If you haven't before, begin now.
Does she need help with the baby? Does she need a baby sitter? Focus on her needs. Get out and volunteer to help people who are elderly and have no one.
I understand your fear, but being needy with your daughter will move her further from you. It may be an effort on your part, but you can do it.
Perhaps seek some help for your insecure feelings. There is no shame in that. Keep it private from your daughter, for now.
My mother was a very needy person, and I had a difficult time
dealing with her. She was manipulative and would be hurt when I ignored her manipulativeness.
I was a nurse and had a low tolerance for manipulative patients. This was a short coming on my part, that I had to deal with. But, when my mother got sick and died from cancer, I was with her every step of the way. She died in my arms, knowing she was loved.
I hope this is helpful for you. Don't voice your fears to your daughter, it will only drive her further away. Be there for HER, and if she won't let you, then find a way to be there for others. Check out help agencies, and use your talent to be there for others. You'll be surprised how this will make you feel better about yourself. Your daughter will see your attitude change.
Hang in there, and take care. I'll be thinking of you and your daughter.
2006-07-17 08:39:54 · answer #2 · answered by Orchid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't put all of your eggs in one basket. Remember that your hope for a blessed future lies in the hands of God and His Son Jesus Christ. She is only 18 and I believe that when her daughter gets older she will probably go through the same thing that you are going through now and will turn around and embrace you, but you must keep your heart and line of communication open to her even when it seems she is not reciprocating that love
2006-07-17 07:55:44 · answer #3 · answered by Ilovechristjesustheking 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grandparent at 18? you are a screwed up single mother arent you?
oh theres the problem. your daughter will be just like you
her children will have 20 different surnames
close your legs in your next life. now that shes 18, the father isnt responsible for child support
2006-07-17 07:51:51 · answer #4 · answered by ! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing in a relationship is love, then there will come understanding.
My children are all very young, under 17. I have always driven a path of love & understanding between us. They know no matter what happens I will always be here for them.
I have also created a retirement plan for myself, so I will not have to rely on them for my elderly years.
You can not rely on your daughter to care for you later in life, you can only hope she will be there for you, when you need occasional help.
2006-07-17 08:01:17 · answer #5 · answered by eyes_of_iceblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This what happens when you breed. You are paying for what YOU did and she has NO responsibility to take care of you when you're older. You're PROUD that she had a kid so young? I'd said what goes around comes around and if you'd both been in church and ask God to forgive your sins, neither of you would be in the position you are now, which seems to be on your back.
2006-07-17 07:59:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the 21st century and children no longer believe in 'extended families' (3 generations living together). You sound still young yourself, start making plans for your future without depending on your daughter, for example, start looking at sheltered home units.
2006-07-17 07:54:21 · answer #7 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plz man don't worry.
You need to live your life now. But if you feel that your daughter is so far from you, try to ask for her why it's happening.
I think that this is the best way to solve it: with a great chat!
2006-07-17 07:54:18 · answer #8 · answered by felipechagalopes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How selfish of you!
Dont you think your daughter has a duty to her own daughter?
She is entitled to a life and is probably not even thinking that far ahead.
Stop whining and get on with your life
christy
2006-07-17 07:53:25 · answer #9 · answered by freerange00720002000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why worry about such a thing? Be there for you how? Live your life tor now and not worry about whats going to happen when your older.
2006-07-17 07:52:02 · answer #10 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋