My grandmother never stops to hurt me ....she is my grandmom but is very biased towards me ...she never talks to me nicely and always scolds me for nothing ...i hv got too much manners to get even wid her....i just wnt to knw how how i can be more deaf to such people and start taking decisions of my life....till nw i hv involved my family in all my decisions ..tht was out of my love and respect for them but they think i cant take decisions on my own ......i hv had enough.....i wnt to change myself .............and i wnt to change one habbit of mine to stop bothering wht others say about me...........look ur all strangers to me so u can give a fair answer to this question ...................i wnt to take my own decisions and nw wnt to spend some time for me
2006-07-17 00:29:20 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well it sounds like you are already ready. If you have a job, start preparing to leave because in that enviroment you cannot win. To do all you set out to do you must have your own place. Let your family know that you are not a person to be push around anymore. Let them know you love them with all your heart but you can't stay if they continue to treat you so. Sounds like you have a lot of respect for your family. If you feel that they are wrong tell them. And be strong about it.
2006-07-17 00:44:17 · answer #1 · answered by vhat40 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whenever they yell at you let it go in one ear and out the other, you shouldn't have to take this, I know that i'm going through a pretty rough time of my own because the people I live with don't treat my family right they're always abusing us, I just never listen to them and when they try to abuse I try to walk away you should do the same! and if that doesn't work just tell them how you feel if they really care about you then they'll stop hurting you, if they don't stop then just walk away from them and just don't talk to them and everytime they come near then go somewhere where they are not!
2006-07-17 00:46:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to decide to do it. You have to decide to take time for yourself, to make your own decisions. Just look at it this way, if you've taken care of people for so long, then you are capable of looking after yourself. Just decide to not let them bother or hurt you, and stick to it-oh yes it will be hard, but worth the work and pain you will have to get through to do it, at the end is a life of your own.
2006-07-17 00:35:36 · answer #3 · answered by whatelks67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In relationships everybody have such hard times you are facing, and in my opinion it pays more to be a little bit selfish for your own self, and learn to ignore the hurting attitudes of others. By ignoring them you deplete the negative energies of such people , who do not learn in their lives to appreciate the other person loving feelings towards them.
2006-07-17 00:39:15 · answer #4 · answered by zahida367 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with wanting to live your own life. You've been kind, you can't change these people, you can only change yourself. Go off and do what you want to do, don't feel guilty, and if they don't like it, it's too bad. You cannot live your life for other people.
2006-07-17 00:39:14 · answer #5 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thought the bible say honor thy father and mother (and grands) nothing says submit to their abuse. Politely tell them you'r enot going to listen to it any more, and then the next time they do, repeat that you're not putting up with it and leave, or hang up. You teach people how to treat you.
2006-07-17 00:36:54 · answer #6 · answered by mt_hopper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋