How many of you think you are perfect parents?

Question

I just responded to an interesting question posted by cutiepie81289. The question was,"Why are parents teaching their children not to be bullies?"
I found the responses even more interesting. The parents were going on about how it's all the parents fault, as if society doesn't have a hand in it. So, basically, there are two questions I would like to set before you, first is "How many of you think you are perfect parents?" and "When a child goes bad despite any ones best efforts, whose fault is it?"

If any one could take the time to read the responses to cutegirl8129 concerning bullies and give me your feeback about that as well I would appreciate it.

Answer 1

Far, far, far, from perfect and carry plenty of guilt because of that. The child is the responsibility of the parent--they can't escape that burden. On the other hand, you do the best you know how and, at the end, you must let go. This is a VERY interesting and important question. Having volunteered as workers in children's homes (is that guilt working?), we've come to the conclusion that there is almost no telling what the long-term cost is to this society because of abuse and neglect of children. The parenting that many of the kids in foster care and children's homes have had makes what I did look very, very good.
We think every child has a built-in, basic NEED or unquenchable thirst for parents, love, approval, guidance (discipline), and more love. To the extent that children don't get that from babyhood up, their behavior is likely to be dysfunctional and self-damaging. Very good questin.

Answer 2

Hi, I'm not a parent yet, but I could say that no one is perfect. Parents try to be the best parent they can be to their child but sometimes children misbehave no matter what they do. I asked a question about a situation and at the end I asked is it the parents fault and 1 out of 18 said yes, its the parents fault. Most say that its just a stage the child is going through.

Answer 3

Kudos for the parents here for admitting they're not perfect. I'm not perfect either. FAR from it. But, I'm doing my best and it's all I can do.

As far as "when a child goes bad" there are so many factors involved it's ridiculous. One could say you could blame the parent, but if the parent has been doing their best, who do you blame? Society? Environment? There are too many different contributing factors to determine conclusively whos fault it actually is. Assuming there's even a fault to begin with. It is, however, the parents responsibility to BE a parent to kids gone awry, even if it means "tough love" (rehab, juvy, jail, etc). The kids have got to learn one way or another.

Answer 4

I am a single mom of a 3 yr old and 1 yr old triplets. I am by no means perfect, but I am doing the best I can. There is no such thing as a perfect parent anyway, as each child has individual needs. I also think people are too quick to place blame and not quick enough to seek out a solution for kids behaviour. Just address the problems ASAP and work on them!!!!!!

Answer 5

Not perfect, never have been, never will be.

Who's fault is it? Not quite sure. To evaluate that you'd have to study it on a case by case basis. I'm sure not everybody is the same and there could be mental issues involved. i really dislike making blanket statements condemning one or the other.

Answer 6

Nope, not a perfect parent among us.

Children don't "go bad." They don't spontaneously become little rotters! But they will test, and test, and TEST because that is how they learn.

You are your child's most influential teacher, if you choose to be.