2006-07-17 00:18:59 · 27 answers · asked by tina s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If he is a close friend then talk to hi, openly & try to help him ...actually yhe best way is to find the real reason why he is drinking 7 try to remove it !
2006-07-17 00:20:43 · answer #1 · answered by Nihilist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very hard thing to do since he is a close friend. I believe in tough love. Telll him you will help him as much as you can, maybe ask why he feels he needs a drink, keeping in mind that alcohol is definitely a physical addiction and depending on his level of alcoholism, may need to detox under a doctor's care, before he begins rehab. I feel you will do the right thing, you sound like a sincere friend. Good Luck. Oh, if he's not ready to quit and doesn't recognize his problem, he will resent that you even brought it up, so be prepared, but don't take it personally, its his addiction also a disease.
2006-07-17 00:28:57 · answer #2 · answered by ginger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What an extremely difficult thing to do, I wouldn't know how to start that conversation, just make sure they aren't drunk or hungover at the time, or they will go off. Maybe you could find a way to get that person to examine whether or not their drinking has caused them grief. I've had drug addicts and alcoholics in my family, and I still can't think of a way to have that conversation without some real fireworks. Just be prepared, make sure you are both safe, and possibly involve family and friends.
2006-07-17 00:33:33 · answer #3 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
direct but lovingly. Anticipate the way they are going to react and don't take it personally, be prepared to forgive them not just for the pain they have already 'caused but for what will come after the talk. Be willing to do whatever it takes to support them, this may include going to an AA meeting or sitting on the phone at 4 am because they want a drink
No matter what love them ( i am thinking brotherly love here)
There may need to be more than one talk
2006-07-17 00:32:22 · answer #4 · answered by Star 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first step is to make sure that your not a drinker yourself. Because you cannot clean up someone Else's house if yours is dirty also. The second step is to make sure that they are sober when you approach them with your concerns. If they have been drinking and you try to discuss the matter with them, then yes you will have a very angry and heated conversation (alcohol impairs the judgment). Thirdly, always pray for God's guidance before you began steps 1 and 2.
2006-07-17 00:27:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them that you care about them and that is the reason you want to talk to them about it. Alcoholism is a medical condition. They should know that so that they understand their own condition. let them know that you want to help them stop for their health on top of you caring about them. You also might want to ask them what they think about it. He/she might know that they have a problem, but are to embarrassed to ask or doesn't think they can stop by themselves.
I have a family member who has been drinking for many more years than I have been alive. I understand. Good luck.
You also might want to try calling an AA clinic, and ask how to approach the subject, it is probably also on their web site. Blessed Be.
2006-07-17 00:25:25 · answer #6 · answered by singitoutloudandclear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them out for a drink and have a chat....Don't forget the drink.. They will be a lot more relaxed if you take a good approach..
2006-07-17 00:21:45 · answer #7 · answered by pixi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would go to some Al-anon meetings in your area, they are for family and friends of alcoholics. It's quite a great resource and they can help you onto the next step.
Good luck!
2006-07-17 00:21:28 · answer #8 · answered by mickeycushman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a hard thing to do because they are usually blinded to it and protect themselves from any talk about it that htey have a problem about it or with it. the first thins is get them to see that they have a problem with it not sure how youwill do that ecept to go on about it in ways that make sense to the person then go from there with dealing with it. Good luck with this I hoope that you keep your friendship
2006-07-17 00:21:54 · answer #9 · answered by sarell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i used to be a boozer, but i dont like people who straight away condemnd my drinking habbit. once a friend came up , she never got drunk herself before. she came up and said she wantged to drink just for me...she took much of the liquor and threw up. she told me- "honey, there r so many good things to eat and drink ...why alcohol?...i dont get the logic what appeal can tingy bitter things can have?...since then i just drink occassionally in parties.
2006-07-17 00:24:29 · answer #10 · answered by saurabh k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋