I am 14 (almost 15) and I am going into grade 10 next year. I have known for sure that I am gay for 3 years now. I was wondering is it worth coming out to my family. My best friend knows and she is so caring, I was just wondering should I tell my family. If I should how should I? Everytime I choke up and just change the subject. I am afraid that my dad might make gay jokes too, he is caring but his sense of humor isn't that good.. I was wondering what should I do?
P.S. Please don't tell me that being gay is wrong. We both have our opinions and if you say that I will just ignore it.
2006-07-16 22:57:23 · 15 answers · asked by watson w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i am also the youngest child in my family i have two older brothers
2006-07-16 23:26:19 · update #1
Tell Them!!
You'll be much happier knowing that they support you... rather than keeping it from them and constantly wondering what they might say... Your family will love you no matter what.
There is *nothing* wrong with being gay at ALL. I hate the way society has turned this into such a big thing, that people feel like they need to hide it from their family or worry about what people might say.
Go for it!
As for how to tell your family... I can't give you any personal experience or advice for this! Just do what you think would be best, you know your family a lot better than we do... what sort of situation would be the most comfortable place to tell them in? Would you rather sit them all down and tell them (I think that might be a bit nerve racking...) or just casually mention it at dinner one night?! Go with what ever makes you feel comfortable =o)
As for your dads sense of humour... him making jokes might be his way of dealing with a situation where he doesn't know what else to say... some people feel more comfortable to make a joke about it than to say nothing at all. As long as you know that he cares for you, don't worry about what jokes he might make... or just find a whole load of 'straight' jokes to respond with!
You could start a 'joke-off' like a dance-off... only with jokes... ok that was lame.. I'm gonna go! (but it could be fun hehe)
Good luck!
2006-07-18 00:07:21 · answer #1 · answered by * 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a gay bashing male I am a straight guy but I do have a few friends that are gay and if you think that comming out is not the right time for you right now then wait until you feel more comfortable about the subject and approach your family in a comfortable setting when you are ready I am however a firm believe in everyone has a right to choose their own sexual preference and no one in the world has the right to abuse or belittle them for their own choices in life
2006-07-17 06:06:29 · answer #2 · answered by flying_eagle_72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u could wait for a few more yrs. Come to terms with ur sexuality... There's JUS NOTHIN wrong with bein gay. If ure feelin bad abt it, the least u can tell urself is that it is genetic... not something u decide... But telling ur parents might evoke unexpected responses. I'm sure there'll b a day when u'll know urself, whether it's time to say it. But that day, I'm positive u'll feel a load lifted off ur head... So hold on for now pal...
2006-07-17 06:19:18 · answer #3 · answered by Satish N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being gay is not wrong and dont listen to people who tell you this.
Your family may take the view that its a teenage thing.
If you know for sure you are gay and you get the courage you need to tell your family.
Dont blame your dads humour,he doesnt know whats going on through your head,if you told your dad you are gay you would probably find his humour would change and he would respect your views.
You may be suprised that your family may already know you are gay and are waiting for you to tell them.
Your growing up now,nearly 15,maybe its time to take a stance and believe in your convictions.
Find it in yourself to tell your family,im sure they would understand.
They maybe shocked in the beginning because dont forget its probably not what they invisioned when you were born but everything changes.
The only thing you know for sure is that you need to get it out and tell your family.
Good luck and remember to get your timing right,ie:dont tell them at a family bbq or at a family function.
You need to sit the people down who you want to tell and be gentle in your choice of words.
christy
2006-07-17 06:12:20 · answer #4 · answered by freerange00720002000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell your family. You may be surprised at how much they care. And when your dad realises that this is a serious topic for you, he's not going to make jokes and mock you.
Congrats on being true to yourself, now share it with the world, starting with your family =)
2006-07-17 06:04:46 · answer #5 · answered by L ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No do not inform your parents if you thing that jokes will be particularly by your dad. I believe you should take time to virtually accept who you are without having any doubt at all. Beside everyone will think you are too young and your hormones are just confusing you.
2006-07-17 06:03:47 · answer #6 · answered by ngina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are the sole person that will know and decide when are you really ready to come out.being gay is not wrong.it is your preference and that should be respected by everyone including your dad.free yourself but dont hurry ....wait for the right time and allow them to adjust with the news....men specially dads will not be happy to have a son who's gay...but eventually they will understand that even you choose to be gay....they can still be proud of you and there are nothing to be ashame.
wait for the right time....when it comes dont hesitate....free your spirit!!!
2006-07-17 06:24:48 · answer #7 · answered by strawberry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's gotta come out sooner or later.Which ever time it does there will be alot of mixed feelings,hurt anger,sadness.but it will help you in becoming who you choose you want to be.No one can make your choices for you or live for you,and you can't be what others want you to be.Just be happy,that's usually what the end result is.
2006-07-17 06:35:20 · answer #8 · answered by rosie w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have talk to a gay friend on myspace and he told me that he came out to his family and close friends when he was 13 and it was the best thing he ever did. people were shocked at first but they accepted it.
2006-07-17 06:03:03 · answer #9 · answered by ::Hannah:: 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your family is your family.they will love you nthrough anything.your dad will be shoched,enraged,dissapointed ect..but in the end will still love you.just tell them and give them time to deal with it.it may take awhile but you are thier son and in the end thats what counts.good luck.
2006-07-17 06:02:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋