well my parents divorced in January because my mom met someone online and now they're getting married in september.. but my dad is all alone and all he has is his kids his house his truck and his divotion for triathloning.. he has been training more and more because hes depressed about my mom leaving him. my dad being depressed is making me depressed....
is this feeling normal..
*edit... my mom moved half way across the country to AZ from WI..
2006-07-16 22:40:26 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
well i'm caring about my own feelings but my dad and i are so close that we are like one person... my dad is my best friend and and when i'm sad hes sad.. and when hes sad i'm sad.. i can't help it........ but i'm caring about my feelings and i forgave my mom, i'm just sad that my dad hasn't found NE one to make his life happier except me and my brother..
2006-07-16 22:53:58 · update #1
I'm sure your dad wouldn't want you worrying about his problems. He has some grownup issues to deal with, but you should worry about your own feelings. Let him do what he needs to to get over it, and you do the same. Try to stay a family, but in a positive way. As for your mom in 6 months or so she may see the error of her ways and come crawling back. I say forgive her, grown ups make mistakes too.
2006-07-16 22:50:20 · answer #1 · answered by 5cent Frog 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is normal sweetheart! Iam sooo sorry your family is going thru such a hard time- and Im sorry your dad is hurting as much as he is! Sometimes marriagfe just doesnt work out. if you are close to your dad of course you are going to feel bad when you see him feelings bad. its called compassion and its great thing to have! Let him know u love him and u r there for him! That will mean the world to him!!!! Try to get him involved in something he can do with all of u kids! Get him out of the house into fresh air and have a great time as a family!!!
2006-07-17 09:23:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's pretty normal and human to feel this way. Just as long as you know that you can't solve your dad's problems. You can only be there for him. You mom sounds like she is a b*tch and very confused. It is nice to know you have such a good relationship with your dad. At least you get emotional support from one of your parents. A lot of kids don't get much support from either.
2006-07-17 00:15:48 · answer #3 · answered by Brenda J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's normal to have empathy for your dad. Your mom kinda sounds like a nut-job, no offense.
I'd recommend trying to get your dad to socialize and meet people. I lived in Wisconsin for 6 years, and I know you can always find a decent Friday fish fry. I'd also recommend bars (after all, it is Wisconsin), but I'm not sure how that would fit in with his training.
2006-07-16 22:46:19 · answer #4 · answered by smokingun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to feel depressed when being left in this way. It is not good though - after 6 months not to try to get over it. Maybe he needs help by some grown person, to talk to and get support. It is good that you children stay with him and are there to support him, but he is the grown person and he needs to support you too. You are also mourning your mother. Talk to him about this.
2006-07-16 22:45:24 · answer #5 · answered by Tones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure it's normal...it shows that you really care about your dad and his feelings...your mom leaving not only hurt your dad, but hurt you also..just continue being there for your dad, maybe help out in his training, and believe me, he will find someone to be with when the time is right...until then keep your spirits up and that will help keep your dad's spirits up...good luck
2006-07-17 01:57:41 · answer #6 · answered by kissesandhugs36 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is normal for you to be depressed too. i went through the same thing only like a month ago when my mom started talkin to other guys online...my paents have been divorced for 11 years now. and i havent seen my father for about 11 years. i am now thirteen and i am trying to get in touch with him but he doesnt call back. but yes it is normal. and i am really sad for you.
2006-07-17 21:11:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom sucks. It would be normal to feel depressed for your dad in that situation.
2006-07-16 22:46:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is normal. you just want the best for your dad. it was a hard break for him. just try to keep him happied up. joke around with him. he'll lighten up and it'll get better. good luck just make sure you're happy and he might e happier just because you and your brother are. good luck. just pray for the best for your mom no matter what she did.
2006-07-17 03:08:57 · answer #9 · answered by musicfish93 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents are divorced, life sucks, my dad is a dick.
2006-07-17 04:58:59 · answer #10 · answered by korson90210 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋