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my mom really dislike my girlfriend, she once spit on the ground mentioning her name... she told me that the way she is but never went into detail, she just keep sayin that she doesnt like her. i dont know what to do, we have been together for 17 months. one example, one day i went to the airport because my girlfriend was going out of state and i wanted to see her. so i went from my work to see her from the airport which is 2 hours away, and when i got home. my mom called me a stupid person, and how could she raised someone to be so stupid, to go see his gf for a while. what should i do help??!!!

2006-07-16 22:31:31 · 11 answers · asked by hlalnls 2 in Family & Relationships Friends

i know that my mom isnt dating her, but i would really like my mom to be in good relation with my gf because i am plannning to get married with her...

2006-07-16 22:36:43 · update #1

11 answers

It's sad that your mother doesn't like the girl you love so much but if you really love this girl and you want to marry her I can only say follow your heart and be with the one you love.
Your mother is your mother and she will always stay that whatever happens. She should have known when she gave birth to you that you someday you would be a grown man making his own decisions and no longer be under her protective wings.
Your Mother is behaving very disrespectful towards both you and your girlfriend because she doesn't give you both chance.
It's sad she does but your are a grown man and you have a right to your make own decisions. She has to respect and accept that and if she has a problem with that it's mostly her problem which she unfortunately tries to dump on you. You can try to talk to her about it but I have my doubts whether she will listen.
All I can say is if you truly love your girlfriend and you want to build a future together with her then go for it and follow your heart and make a life of your own together with the girl you love and try to make it a beautiful one no matter what your mother says.
I understand that it's hard on you because things would be a lot easier if your mother would accept and respect your girlfriend but your mother doesn't do that now and I doubt whether she will ever try so in the future. Who says that your mother is right and your girlfriend is not good enough for you. Your mother hasn't given her a chance to show her who she is. I have a feeling that your mother is jealous of your girlfriend and is afraid of loosing you, but the way she behaves is making her loose you. Start living your own life and don't be afraid to make the wrong decisions in life everybody makes mistakes and we learn from them.

2006-07-16 23:38:46 · answer #1 · answered by aysha 4 · 1 1

I feel your mom is an unreasonal woman. From the way that she spit on the floor, i know it. Or she is loely educated?
Or is it possible that your gf did somethings which she really hates? But the problem now is that your mum refuse to tell what she does not like about your gf.
It takes time.. I think what u can do now is just to wait and ignore all those rude comments from your mum about your gf. Let her be. U love your gf, it has nothing to do with her anyway. U are not going to marry your mother in the future anyway.
Comfort your gf and let her ignore your mum also. Tell her u love her and u won't care how your mum feel and she will not affect your feeling also.
Let time decide and wait and see.
Best wishes for u 2! Really!
PS: Me & my bf also almost 17 mths le (;

2006-07-17 05:38:18 · answer #2 · answered by a V a 4 · 0 0

talk to your mom, tell her you love her girlfriend. It doesnt sound like mom has given you a good reason for her feelings. Tell your mom that you are open to talk about it and this is her chance to express her feelings, after you talk about it, tell your mom you appreciate the fact that she cares but its your life and your decision (Im assuming your an adult) and she WILL at least be nice to your girlfriend or else you won't be around very often. Tell your mom that this is the end of the matter. And you wont tolerate her being rude or saying bad things about your girl anymore. Take a stand and be a man, if you plan on being with this women forever, than you better kick this problem in the butt NOW.

2006-07-17 05:43:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

ok, first of all, how old are you? 5?
tell your mother to either tell you why she doesn't like your gf or else drop the subject. tell her you love her, but you also love your gf and she needs to get over herself and respect the fact that you are a big boy now, you make your own decisions.
tell her you want to marry this girl and she needs to be nice and polite or else she won't be seeing much of you in the future, or any children you may have with this gf later on.
then you and your gf should do your best to ignore your mother's rudeness and just carry on your relationship.

i had a great relationship going a few years ago. we were totally in love, planning to get married, we had our future all figured out. then his mother decided i wasn't good enough to marry her son. her reasons for feeling this way:
- i slept with her son (after months of dating). this, naturally, made me a slut, and no better than a whore, though he was my first lover.
- i worked the late shift at a restaurant, and often didn't get off work until 3 am, as 4 of us had to close up and clean up the whole place. evidently, this meant we had daily orgies after the restaurant closed.

he knew full well what was going on, but decided that because his mother had a hissy fit, we needed to break up. guess what? after i had talked some sense into him, i broke up with him. no self-respecting woman wants a man who lets his mommy make his decisions for him. he could have been the love of my life. instead, he caused me to lose all respect for him. you can't love someone you don't respect.. at least i can't. so that was it. all over. two years later, he was still calling me, sending me text messages. too little too late...

2006-07-17 06:04:03 · answer #4 · answered by gwenwifar 4 · 0 0

Well go quietly and seriously looking and ask your mum what does she have against your girl and why she is acting the way she does towards her.. Tell your mum that her opinion counts but you would really want to know what she has against her and explain to your mum that you really love this girl and want to spend your life with so she better tell you is something is wrong.. Does your mum know something you don't know? Does she just dont like her because she has a certain character? Does she think she keeps you away from her ?Did you change after being involved with your gf which makes ur mum acting like that? Ask her what is wrong and tell her to be honest with her.. Maybe she is just worried but doesnt really have something against your girl..

2006-07-17 05:57:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Just respect your MOM!

2006-07-17 05:35:57 · answer #6 · answered by Mahbub Mark 1 · 0 0

Your mom isnt the one dating her, you are.

2006-07-17 05:34:16 · answer #7 · answered by DL 6 · 0 0

Listen to your mother

2006-07-17 05:48:04 · answer #8 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0 0

FIRST OF ALL YOU NEED TO TALK TO YOUR MOM TO FIND OUT WHAT IT IS ABOUT YOUR GIRL THAT SHE DOESN'T LIKE. HAS YOUR GIRLFRIEND BEEN DISRESPECTFUL IN ANYWAY.

2006-07-17 10:30:19 · answer #9 · answered by confused 5 · 0 0

women have sixth sense and they know eachother better. be sure u find out she was right in future.

2006-07-17 05:34:52 · answer #10 · answered by manalonedubai 5 · 0 0

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