here goes. i was unfaithful to my b/f with Mr X. Mr X and I had a connection, which turned sexual for a time. We resolved it without anyone finding out, and went back to our original set up. There is no way I'd return to a sexual relationship with him, and the set up was one that cannot repeat itself without a long, long set up. It won't repeat, or happen with anyone else. We were fine. In the final stages of resolving all this, my b/f found out.
That guy and I hadn't done anything wrong in either months or years (we recall things differently?) but the b/f was very hurt, threatened to leave. He has treated me pretty much normal, except he's asked that I end ANY situation with Mr X. While I understand what he wants, I must try to convince him the situation CANNOT repeat, would not repeat. So how do I help my relationship heal, but not sever connection with Mr X?
2006-07-16 22:11:50 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If your boyfriend is prepared to be with you at all times that you are in contact with Mr X - then you can reconcile your dilemma. Otherwise, to heal your relationship you need time and the resolve to accede to your boyfriend's request.
2006-07-16 23:01:31 · answer #1 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cheated in a relationship, that's just wrong and totally unfair of you. Your b/f has every right to be upset even though your situation with Mr.X is over but they thing is you CHEATED and was unfaithful.
The only way to solve this is to break it off with your current b/f. The damage is done and its only going to get worst. You can't trust a cheater even if you said you won't do it again. Tempation is always going to be there and only the strong will survive.
2006-07-17 08:17:23 · answer #2 · answered by Yoruba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as long as Mr X is there ---since he had to find out and u never told him--- trust is broken u can either hope trust will rebuild... but my advice if u really love him break the connection with Mr.X since u all ready betrayed him once... i believe he has every right to ask that.. at least for a while say for however long u were ******* mrx or however long u kept it secret from him.
2006-07-17 05:35:25 · answer #3 · answered by american_stallionn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends one how much your b/f loves and trusts you. If you still have (or a least did have) a VERY strong relationship w/o any other jealouslys on either part, this may be do-able. But, it's really up to him at this point. No matter what you say now, it will all fall on how the relationship was beforehand. Sometimes saying less is more. Good Luck!!
2006-07-17 05:28:53 · answer #4 · answered by myANSWERS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guess you are not sure your you wont return to any sexual relationship with Mr X. who is more important in your life? X or Y? Theory is like this....once zooked always will be zook again...its a matter of time.....you are unfaithful once.....you will be again so long as X is around or even A, B, C or D!
2006-07-17 05:18:18 · answer #5 · answered by waterdancer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant have the cake and eat it too. Im surprise your bf did not dump your a$$ already....plain and simple you cheated!! you broke the trust in a relationships...if you truly intend to be faithful and make it up for your screw up the very least is to severe all tie with Mr.X.......I doubt your relationship will last anyway..given you ignorant attitude of what you have done.....the only way you can understand is when you get cheated on in your future relationships.....
2006-07-17 14:14:36 · answer #6 · answered by sstooc2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yah, this all seems pretty convoluted, but continuing a relationship with someone you cheated with will never help you to put back the trust in your main relationship. No matter what you say. You can't have your cake and eat it too.
2006-07-17 05:16:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Your boyfriend found out and DIDN'T LEAVE? All he's asking for is for you to avoid Mr.X?
Leave your BF. You're not good enough for him and he doesn't see it yet. Do him a favor and leave him. That way, you can still have your precious Mr.X. I mean, you were willing to risk it all to date him in the first place!
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
2006-07-17 10:27:45 · answer #8 · answered by Songbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who do you care more for x or boyfriend?
This is why I am g0y. I don't have the moral dilemmas that you gay guys have. I can have as many guy sexual relationships as I like and not have to worry about jealousy or STD's. LOL
2006-07-17 10:31:40 · answer #9 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
huny, you cant have your cake and eat it. if you want to stay with your boyfriend who i must say you're lick to have if he still wants you after you cheated, you gotta let mr x go. coz everytime your bf sees the two of you chatting or a msg from him he'll think, they're still going at it. u dont need that. he doesnt need that. and if it happened before, it can happen again. be fair to your boyfriend and make up your mind.
2006-07-17 05:16:45 · answer #10 · answered by rumbz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋