My lazy no good hubby drinks and likes to get violent when he drinks, at what point should I say enough is enough I don't need another black eye and I am leaving you?
2006-07-16 21:58:35 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
slap him with french way, slap face then leaving him
2006-07-16 22:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋
It is 4:05 AM here, sweetheart, and I would say you should be leaving by 5:00 AM.
You cannot change violent, abusive behavior. Your husband is an alcoholic. That can change through inter-mediation in a 12-step program like AA, or a clinic (like Betty Ford), but it's a long road back.
Abusive, violent behavior (hitting you) is not something that goes away. Best to leave now. You will not find love here. Get out and find a mature, stable person while you can.
I wish you worlds of good fortune in closing the door on this bad relationship and finding someone who will treat you with the respect and love you deserve.
2006-07-17 05:10:13 · answer #2 · answered by jalfredprufrock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This relationship should have been done the second he gave you a black eye. What was his excuse? That he didnt know what he was doing because he was drunk? If you tried to change him in the past and he is still doing the same thing...then girl, he doesnt want to change. There's no point in trying to change someone if they dont want to change. Give him an ultimatum. If he still acts up and drinks all the time...give him so time alone, let him miss you for a couple of months and see what happens from there
2006-07-17 05:09:49 · answer #3 · answered by Carpe Diem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you sticking around for this? I am in an emotionally abusive marriage and I am ambivalent also but for different reasons. You say he is lazy and no good and an alcoholic. He's not even a good provider and do you have any kids? I don't know what you're even confused about. I would've been gone from that mess.
2006-07-17 05:13:11 · answer #4 · answered by Veronique 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
should have left the day u realized he was a drunk and violent----------another words THE FIRST TIME----or from the way everyone else puts it , in ur case, A LONG TIME AGO. and do not pass go, do not collect $200, and definatley DON"T SAY ANYTHING TO HIM. in fact it is easier to leave when he is not home, when u know he will be gone for a while, get out. take what u need and worry about everything else later. get out of the house, then file paperwork-don't give him a chance to get pissed when he finds out u want a divorce. trust me on this one, u need to do it fast and catch him off gaurd, this will also not allow u time to second-guess yourself and back out or go back to him.
2006-07-17 05:43:53 · answer #5 · answered by ebabsto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is no love and understanding between both of you and he never cares of what you say , then i have an advice for you, you should send him to a rehabilitatition centre. Dont worry if he is not willing to go . no problem. Just give them a call and the people from the rehabilitation centre will take him away by their own and he will soon be alright.
2006-07-17 05:07:05 · answer #6 · answered by jinnie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa, if he is violent towards you in any way (verbal, physical, emotional) leave right away. No one needs that kind of abuse.
My mom was abused by my dad for 20 years. He almost beat her to death 3 years ago. That's what it took for my mom to realize that he wasn't going to change. Get out of this relationship now.
2006-07-17 09:09:24 · answer #7 · answered by save_me_now 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your own fault for getting married. You obviously knew he had a drinking problem before you got married, so don't blame anyone but yourself.
If he started his drinking problem AFTER you got married then it is probably your fault for driving him crazy to the point he has to get drunk. Could you be anymore selfish? Just go ahead and get a divorce and become another miserable statistic.
2006-07-17 05:04:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first black eye was when you should have left.
If he isn't willing to go to counseling, I would leave immediately. You are not a punching bag.
2006-07-17 06:46:37 · answer #9 · answered by PATTY H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have tried that in the first place. You can't change people, people change them selves. You need get out now. and don't look back.
2006-07-17 09:51:37 · answer #10 · answered by ray d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sam is def. back. How many times do you have to hear leave your husband before you even consider it. You keep complaining about your husband but you stay so I call stupid
2006-07-17 05:04:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋