yesterday was my birthday and i came to a strange realization, noone but my sister, aunt, and grandma contacted me to say hey. anyways lately i have lost contact with my friends family and acquaintances since i moved in with my bf. i go back to college and i dont know if i should stay here with my bf or stay in contact with my family and friends. blood is thicker than water, but if i want to be with my boyfriend, should i worry about losing everyone else?
2006-07-16 21:49:18 · 17 answers · asked by ancient_code05 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Your family should love you and accept you regardless of your sexual orientation.
If your friends are TRUELY your friends, they will do the same.
Follow your heart. We don't choose our family.... but we can make choices for our future happiness.
2006-07-16 21:54:04 · answer #1 · answered by Primrose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blood is thicker than water and your b/f or your family and friends shouldn't make you choose. I think its yourself that choose not to stay in contact them and now its come to this. You don't have to move back home, stay with your b/f if you both love each other. Get a part-time job so you can suppose your studies or do the course part-time. Be responsible for yourself. Call your family and friends. Afterall they are the people that's going to be there for you when your b/f breaks up with you.
2006-07-17 08:21:19 · answer #2 · answered by Yoruba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Noone should ever make you choose, because yes you love your family, but you accept their BF's, GF's Spouses and so on so they should have the same respect for you.
If you have a good relationship with your BF I would suggest staying with him, and contacting your family and letting them know how you feel, and that you do want to have a good relationship with them.
But I would not sacrifice your relationship with your boyfriend, because what is going to stop them from doing the same thing with the next BF? So are you just suppose to stay single to keep your family happy? No that is not fair so do what makes you happy, you can't please everyone, just let them all know that you love them and you want to keep a good relationships with each of them.
Good luck, it may take awhile but it will work out, just keep the communication open.
2006-07-17 04:59:10 · answer #3 · answered by ak23boi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family is the most important thing in everyones life!Your boyfriend might left you for other but your family will never leave you for other person!But if you think you can stand your own decision to be with your BF and live happy and enjot those things that your family can't give you, that is your choice,but it doesn't mean you lost your family!Maybe they have their own reason not to contact you anymore because you have a relationship and live with same sex!And that is unacceptable to your religion and culture!Go visit your family and friends but find your own real happiness!But someday you will have your own life and another sets of family and friends and decides to choose your ultimate happiness!
2006-07-17 07:03:39 · answer #4 · answered by tutax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you kind of summed it up. Who contacted you? Members of your family. Definately keep in contact with your family. You don't necessarily have to move back with them, but at least stay in contact.
As for your friends - this could go either way in my book. Have you been so involved with your boyfriend that you have neglected them? Maybe they thought you didn't want to be bothered because you were so busy with your boyfriend? If they are true friends then stay in contact with them. Your being gay should not make a difference to them either way. Also - life goes forward not backwards. You've moved in with your boyfriend and gone to school and done a lot of changing. Are you naive enough to believe that life has stood still for your friends and that they are not busy growing and changing too? Catch up with your friends. Life is too short. Don't you want to know what is knew with them too?
2006-07-17 09:35:55 · answer #5 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your lover is your family.
Blood is thicker than water is a made up moral story -- it is not real.
Family is chosen. Perhaps you have a wonderful family -- perhaps you don't -- but the idea that it is more important than what you want is false.
My blood family is all dead. My chosen family is with my lover and I always -- and I feel no lack.
Do as you will, however, is the whole of the law.
Kind regards,
Reynolds Jones
believeinyou24@yahoo.com
2006-07-17 10:25:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With all that this guy does to put one over on you...I'm surprised you're still there (I've answered some of your past questions)!
Do you know why your family have stopped contacting you? Is it because of him or because they're not accepting of your being gay?
If it's the former - then you have a decision to make. If it's the latter...
2006-07-17 06:21:53 · answer #7 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even if they dont like you bf if they are family or true friends they should still call to say happy birthday, it not like they have to speak to the bf or anything. i would be mad at them and asking them what their problem is. how rude.
2006-07-17 05:25:39 · answer #8 · answered by burrowthroughanelephant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who are my brothers and my sisters, are not the ones that do the bidding of my father who sent me my brothers and sisters? or something like that... your TRUE friends and family are those people that care for you, love you and accept you unconditionaly. Blood related or not.
2006-07-17 05:04:02 · answer #9 · answered by ddiscostu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in college..grow up. What did you want for your birthday, a clown and a pony ride maybe a little pointy hat too?
2006-07-17 04:55:38 · answer #10 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋