Are women only after what a man can offer finacially. I don't think there's such thing as true love any more

Answer 1

i don't agree , its materialism to go out and fall in love with someone for financial security !
i was once earning allot of money per week , not bad now but landed on my feet when 19 . anyway i met a lovely man who was homeless and basically lived in a skip , he was special as he looked after his self and though out the beginning of our relationship he fought to get a flat , job and live of his own means he didn't do this with my financial help , he did it on his own .
i stayed with this guy for years , money didn't matter to me or to him . this surly goes to show that true love is still out there ! i wasn't attracted to him for what he could give me , it was a true attraction for him being him ..... were not together anymore and hes married with children but i often think of him and the courage it took him to pick his self out of the gutter when he could easily be still there ....

Answer 2

I'm not ONLY looking for the financial picture, but I don't want to be in a relationship with a guy who doesn't know enough to get up off his duff and get a job if he doesn't have one. (Been there, done that!) As a person with three college degrees, I would appreciate a guy of similar intellectual level, no matter what job he happens to have. The guys that can offer the most financial security aren't always the best to be in a relationship with, however. The kinds of jobs that have the best pay sometimes also have the worst hours. (Think some kinds of physicians and surgeons, or lawyers, for example.) And if he's going to be away most of the time, that would still suck even if the income was good. So I'd say a compromise is the order of the day: look for a guy with a decent, steady job (it's virtually impossible to live on one income these days) who's a nice guy, too. Love is a great thing, but it can't pay your bills...but money without love leaves everyone missing something big, too.

Answer 3

Children....

A man and woman can start out financially equal. But sometimes it is decided that the woman will stay home or work part time to take care of the home front. Men naturally tend towards the provider role...and woman nest naturally. So hence you end up with men who make the money and women who make the nice home.

When I work out of the home full time the house goes to crap and nobody gets their vegetables...so it works best in our family for everyone involved if I work part time. Everyone seems to be happiest that way in our home. It puts me in a bad situation though if the family were to break up as while I have been nesting and taking care of the home; hubby has been excelling in his career. I guess that is where trust comes in.

So in answer to your question...in my case I am not after a man for his money. There is a pay off for my husband by me working only part time. I look after his stuff he works hard for and his kids, which causes less stress on him...also less stress on me as I don't feel good when things on the homefront are not taken care of the way I like. I am not super woman who can do it all the way I would like it done.

Answer 4

True love does still exist...you just have to be ready to embrace it because it is so pure and simple. Most often we look for it in tangible qualities like beauty and finances, but the truth is that's a wrong turn!

A woman definitely needs a man who can support her and give her financial security...no one wants to suffer. When she realises you can give it all to her, she will reciprocate by telling you exactly what she needs. The problem is that you may look at her as a "gold digger". This is only so if she makes demands that she knows very well you can't meet.

You may be the one who is just too conscious about all the money you have. Don't flaunt it, be as simple as you can, then maybe you can be a better judge of true love.

All the best!

Answer 5

Men and women want the same thing in the long run, to be with someone they love and care for.They seek companionship and fullfilment in each other. Your partner should also be your best friend, able to share the highs and lows of your life. Superficially women might seek out a man for his finances ( those women are also called gold diggers) but in the end a reltionship cannot work if founded on money alone.

Answer 6

Women generally want 2 things in men...looks and money. When they say they want honesty or a sense of humor or some other trait, that is really their 3rd choice...a very distant third choice. A comedian once said that if women cared about a sense of humor in a man, then Buddy Hackett would have all the women. If they cared about honesty, then they would flock around Ralph Nader. Sometimes they say they want intelligence. I doubt Bill Gates was very popular with the girls in high school. Looks and money...not much else matters, if the truth be known.

Answer 7

Well, here's my thoughts on this... I think it IS ONE of the components that women may look for, but I like the term RESPONSIBLE. Rather then what he can offer financially. Not all men are going to have Hollywood type incomes/salaries. It's also not fair, as many (women are guilty of it too... or least this one anyway...) put a value upon themselves by how much money or lack there of they may have.

You can miss out on a great thing otherwise! To me it shouldn't matter, as long as he can be responsible enough with the amount he/she has!

As far as the latter part of your question, in this day & age it may not seem like it! All we tend to hear is another divorce or couple splitting up!

I notice I am commenting to people about this also... people just don't seem to relate/stay together anymore!! It makes you wonder where people's loyalty lies too!

It seems even HARDER now for couples to survive, or rather easier for affairs to happen... like for instance, the internet... makes it soooo easy to have emotional infidelities, turning into full blown affairs!

I am about ready to give up too! So, I can relate to your comment! Still baffles me that something that is a common thread most of us strive for, is so difficult!

I hope this was helpful to you! I can't speak for all women, but I wanted to give my thoughts!

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Answer 8

I've been with the same guy for over 12 yrs and when we first met I was working and he was not. He got a full time job when we moved in together 10 yrs ago. We have never had a fight about money because we made a rule that no matter how broke we get we love one another. We have had some hard times financially and never has it interfered with our relationship.

Answer 9

I know women who won't date men who make less money than they do and I know men who won't date flat-chested women. At least there is a logical reason for the former. The latter hardly matters in scope of things beyond a personal preference.

Everyone is entitled to their opinions and personally there would probably be less divorce if people put a little more thought into preferences before they enter into a serious relationship.

Answer 10

Oh you're so wrong. I love my man to bits and we earn the same, my girl - friend earns 3 times more than her fella and they are in love. You're watching too many movies. Some women will initially go for a guy with a big wad but then in the end they fall in love with the loser.

Keep you're chin up. At least you'll get laid!

Answer 11

I would never allow myself to fall in love with someone poor, i don't associate myself with them so wouldn't have the opportunity to fall in love with a poor person. People should go with there own class. You can mark yourself on looks and wealth and personality, combine your score then see who is in your league. For instance Catherine Zeta Jones 10/10 for looks 7/10 for money and she seems fairly nice so she gets 8/10 giving her 25/30. Michael would get 6/10 looks, 10/10 money and 8/10 personality so he gets a total of 24/30 allow for a 5 point range they are a perfect match.