my mother was married to who i thought was my real dad .she was married to him for.29. years .i am.19. years old and she told dad that he wasnt my real father.she said that .19.years ago she had had and affair with another man andthe other man was my real dad. i love my dad even he aint my real father he was always there for me and when she told him he cried i hate my mother for doing him like that he has worked all his life and mom done him like that i hate her and never want nothing to do with her the rest of my life he told me i was stil his child and always would be and she got pragnet my a mormon missionary .19. years ago i over heard her tell him i hate this missionary as much as i hate her can i keep my name given to me at birth i am going to collage and dont want her in my life never as for how she did the man i still all dad who raised me and told me no matter i would always be his child he filed for divorce from her over what she did and i cant blame him
2006-07-16 21:24:17 · 12 answers · asked by wildcat_2021 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
they was married for.29. years and i am.19. years old mom got pragnet my a man while married to my dad a mormon missionary .she i hope will burn in hell over doing him like that as well her mormon missionary bedbuddy both can go to hell on my part i love the man who raied me as a father not a tramp like thm both
2006-07-16 21:28:10 · update #1
this is a veey hard time on you as well your dad what your mother did i dont agre with for one moment she ought to have been more of a woman in my opion to do this and really it is best you know who your real father is the reason why i say this you could have married your own brother i know thev mormon ulcure very well i am not mormon so lets get this straght they belive in different things that otthers do be there for the man who raised you like a father and talk to your mom aas far as your real dad well he wasnt there for.19. years why worry about him your mom lacked [morals] as a wife as well her marrage vow to read the links below god bless you and your mom as well dad to on this matter my opion. ?www.mormonniomore.com www.exmormonnomore.com www.ldsbloodatonement.com www.packmasnteleport.com www. the_tanners.com teaching of the church as well doctorines as well based on fact.
2006-07-16 21:53:06 · answer #1 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 8⤊ 0⤋
dear ,
after u got this known to u i can understand the fustration u r going through.
i am really sorry for what happend to u.
its been 29 long years they hide from u.
As far i am consider any child would hate his mother when she do that thing.
U r a luckey one u r farthe still loves u and consider u as his own blood.
I REALLY NEED TO APPRICATE U R FATHER FOR SUCH A LOVING STEP.
Now
1.normaly a child is named after his father who is marryed to that women leagally.
From u r information u r father whome u love is there when u have born.so u have nothing to worry about u r name.
2.from u r extra information we cannot judge any human but can hand him over to the real judge our lord where his true judgment is done.
so u got nothing to worry about but keep pactience and watch what the lord is going to do .
2006-07-17 04:57:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how you feel as it happened to me too.I just found it to be easier to forgive and forget as you will only have one mother in your life time and to never want anything to do with her is possibly one of the worst things in the world.As for the guy you have always caled dad he has a reason to feel bitter and angry.But you both have to remember all the godtimes and the bad times with your mother obviously there was something that you both seen in her to keep you both there and as a family for all those years.Maybe you haven't really grasped the situation in it's entirety as she has suffered enough for al those years just keeping from you both.Try and talk to her and see if she can enlighten you on how it all came about and how badly she has suffered. Her sentence has been to suffer for all those years she has had to keep the terrible secret from you both.
2006-07-17 04:34:50 · answer #3 · answered by flying_eagle_72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she was out here a week or so ago?! Man this sounds familiar....
She made a mistake. Yes she was wrong for lying to you two for all of these years. Yes your dad is upset and you are too. You both have a right to be. Just remember that your mom is human and makes mistakes too. She needs to be forgiven....
2006-07-17 06:54:53 · answer #4 · answered by PATTY H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our parents aren't perfect. We tend to think so when we are little but they are only human too. Yes, she did make a huge mistake. But did she raise you, love you, take care of you? Can you give her some credit for what she did right? Wounds are raw right now. Let things heal a little. Dont disown your mom. She is your mom after all. Listen to her and try to understand. If the Lord can forgive her...so can you.
2006-07-17 11:06:55 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. Mom 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are just angry and hurt. you are right to love your dad but you are wrong to hate your mother. she made a mistake in her marriage and she lied but it was not you she made vows to. she wronged your dad not you. she could have aborted you, but she didn't. she gave you life. not to mention if she blabbed when she was pregnant you may have grown up with no father at all. you are lucky you have 2 parents. let them work out their own issues and be a good daughter.
2006-07-17 04:35:55 · answer #6 · answered by mypurpleelephant 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let this go, if you hate her i hope she isnt paying your way thru college. You have a dad that loves and a mom, most dont have that.
2006-07-17 04:31:49 · answer #7 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like something str8 from the Maury show
2006-07-17 04:29:20 · answer #8 · answered by Carpe Diem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
K! Take a deep breath.Friends are here for you on the computer.Tell your dad that You want your name changed to his.Ask him to be there for you so he can take you down with him.Then he will be happy to hear.
2006-07-17 04:33:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nooo..after everything she is ur mom...lots of ppl 4get tht thier pasrents r normal living breathing human beings tht make mistakes...u have to make her talk to u about it..try to conversate wit her...u deserve a reason as to y shses didnt tell u
2006-07-17 04:30:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋