I have posted a previous question so please refer to this. I just want to say that my daughter is my whole world I would never do anything to hurt her or put her in harms way. She is the only family I have and I would always put her safety and life before mine. It has been pretty upsetting reading some of the posts on here in reference to my question. I acknowledge that the hard shoulder is not the best place in the world to stop...I didn't need another 60 odd people in the world to tell me that. That is why I tried for a good 20 minutes to distract my daughter. I have never experienced her crying like that before and as time went on with me driving it just seemed to get worse. I became increasingly distressed and unfortunately I did start crying too because my daughter wouldn't stop. I would not allow my daughter to pass out if she was that upset...why would you think I would let that happen? I cannot be sure I was driving safely (continues in details)…
2006-07-16 21:11:54 · 12 answers · asked by bottle247 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
and when I did see my daughters face had turned bright red that was when I decided I had to stop as I panicked. I think if it happened again I would still do the same as giving my daughter feed did calm her down a lot. The police did request I drive off at the next junction which was nearer than the service station to continue to feed my daughter. The whole experience was humiliating to say the least. I took my top off for no other reason other than to feed my daughter. There was mention by the police of indecency but this was not reflected in the charges I had when I had to go to the police station and be charged (as well as finger printed, pictures taken and interviewed). The charges related to the offense of non-emergency use of the hard shoulder. My biggest fear now is to go through the humiliation of being in the press. I don’t want this and the thought of this is very distressing.
2006-07-16 21:12:41 · update #1
For those people who think it is ok to e-mail me with abuse please stop. I am trying to be the best mum I can to my daughter.
2006-07-16 21:12:47 · update #2
People who put their comments and answers to your question in e-mails to you do not have the courage to have their stuff on display for others to judge. Maybe they were afraid of the 'Report Abuse' button.
It seems you asked this same question six times, so you opened yourself up for more feedback than you needed to. Your e-mail can be blocked so no one can e-mail you, but it restricts your ability to send messages too. Maybe you can leave it off for a while until this passes, as it always does, then put it back on. You could turn it on to send your messages and then turn it right back off, but you can't filter. All e-mails are turned off, good and bad.
Twenty minutes of trying to distract your baby on the highway might have been your charge, if they had seen you doing that. I think you have learned a good lesson from the mistake, as good mothers do. No one is perfect, but good moms make these mistakes and learn and next time I'm sure you will start finding a place to get off the highway after only 5 minutes of fussing from your daughter. You will feed her and be on your way. Being late while you have a newborn is an easy excuse for people to accept, so just be late and do the best thing for your daughter.
Good Luck being a good mom and here on answers too!
2006-07-17 01:15:10 · answer #1 · answered by Ken C. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Putting the law issue aside as thats very dependant on country and state anyway (and also to the discretion of the officer involved) - being a mother myself I just want to say that when your in a situation that appears impossible its not always easy to know what to do. In this situation you have a young children screaming and your driving - if you didnt help your daughter that would have made you become more aggitated and therefore your mind would be less on you driving than on your daughter which obviously is a dangerous thing. You did what you thought was the best option at that moment in time and NO ONE has the right to judge you on parenting skills when you handled such a situation as you saw fit. If you had left your daughter screaming that would have been neglect!
The chances are most of the people who judge parents are either not parents themselves, or parents who don't spend a great deal of time with their kids so dont know what parental stress is all about or they are fortunate enough to have raised angels personified!!! I am betting on either the first or the second myself. Ignore them they need to experience it first before they can judge.
2006-07-17 04:30:38 · answer #2 · answered by LifeChange 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is really too bad that people would e-mail you in an abusive manner. The whole situation is very sad for you. If you can imagine being on the outside of the situation and try to see that maybe these people think they are protecting your child and not see it as an attack on yourself, you may be able to find something positive in their thoughtless actions. Everybody makes mistakes, has an error in judgment, as you yourself have found out. Maybe this is theirs. I hope you and your baby come through all of this just fine, and I am sure you will. Give your angel a hug, and know in your heart whose judgment matters in the end.
2006-07-17 04:28:07 · answer #3 · answered by eeyoreshunni 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remove ur Email addy from your profile then.
You don't need to justify yourself, you know what you done was stupid and dangerous - bottle, breast whatever you don't feed a baby on the hard shoulder at ANY TIME.
That issue aside, you sound stressed and anxious. Seek help, confide in your family a friend or ur GP - Post Natal Depression is a horrid thing to experiance and you need support.
2006-07-17 08:12:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't read your other question. I think it is ridiculous that the police did that to you.Although I have to ask... why did you have to take your top completely off? And couldn't you have covered yourself from prying eyes? Nursing a baby is completely natural but being modest is too!
2006-07-17 04:19:27 · answer #5 · answered by Jo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I AGREE WITH PUMPKIN,YOU DID WHAT WAS BEST FOR YOUR CHILD AT THAT TIME...GOD IF WE WERE ALL TO BE DONE FOR DOING WHATS BEST THEN EVERY PARENT WOULD BE PUT AWAY.THEY,D BE DAFT TO GO ANY FURTHER THAN THIS.KNOW THIS LOVE MORE PEOPLE THAN NOT ARE ON YOUR SIDE ALL OF WHICH WILL PROBERLY BE UNDERSTANDING PEOPLE AN PARENTS.XXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
2006-07-17 04:35:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I sympathize with you. But I'm likewise welcoming you to the club! Just a little cheering up there.
2006-07-17 04:27:55 · answer #7 · answered by Willie P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I LOVE stupid questions.......which this is not!
I've read previous answer and they all seam to be on your side!
As far as the nasty people go, either ignore them or tell them to
fu(k off!
2006-07-17 04:19:49 · answer #8 · answered by honky550 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you hide your email address so that people can't send you abusive emails? Then you wont have to worry about it!
2006-07-17 04:16:44 · answer #9 · answered by Bratfeatures 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow...you seems pretty upset...sometimes people can't differenciate a serious question and stupid questions...
2006-07-17 04:16:12 · answer #10 · answered by belle_chocolatiere 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋