Ive had a best friend since i were in school (about 12-13years).When it comes to friends i am quite trusting. Last summer I went away to europe travelling,my best friend wouldnt come with me as he didnt think id last doing it,although this wasnt his excuse at the time.Instead i went with his cousin he i knew but we were not brilliant friends.The trip ended up lasting three months and since i have come back the my best friend seems to be the most bitter and jealous person imaginable!Even to the point where he is occasionally having a go at me. He has done a number of things to prove he can do something just as goodbut in his attempts made a lot of mistakes which just seems to add to his bitterness.The other week he flipped out in me because i couldnt afford to go for a drink with him as I had to save my money for my graduation,now he wants to be mates again. Should I reform the friendship?(part of me feels i have to coz he is my friend from school,part of me is sick of bein a pucnchbag
2006-07-16 21:05:31 · 17 answers · asked by P 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell him how you feel.
Dont just take it because you have known him for years.
He can either be a riend and support your decisions of he can get lost and regret not having you as a friend
2006-07-17 02:17:10 · answer #1 · answered by passion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he didn't have the money to go it makes sence, but this doesn't sound like the case. Maybe something happened over the summer he hasen't told you about, the real reason he stayed behind or what happened to him. If he needed you and felt abandoned then the other night when he needed you for a drink it trigered something. Sorry, just dime-store psychology, probably not helpful. Talk to him, if you cut him loose because things have been rough foor a few weeks or months then you are the bad guy. When you confront him use I statments and don't say always or never. This might help a bit more.
2006-07-16 21:15:17 · answer #2 · answered by me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems that your so-called friend is a sick person with a doubtful gay attitude and tendency that is manifested by jealousy and unwarranted picking on you. You are starting a new phase in your life by going to college so just dump him forever and forget that he ever existed, also dump his cousin and start fresh with a new batch of trustworthy friends, preferably girls this time.
2006-07-16 21:14:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it. Tell him you are tired of being a punchbag. Tell him you still want to be friends with him (Only if you do!) but he has to change in the way he is treating you. Ask him how he felt while you were a way and try help him get through his feelings.
2006-07-16 21:10:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first I was gunna say cut your loses but as I read futher I think you should make the effort seeing as here is a long time friend!
2006-07-16 21:11:04 · answer #5 · answered by honky550 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really should be a limit to all this fine print.
Everyone deserves a second chance, someday you will too.
Slowly ease yourself into a better circle of friends, you owe it to yourself.
2006-07-16 21:10:37 · answer #6 · answered by Peach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he feels left out that he did not come travelling with you and feels bitter that you enjoyed your time without him. Keep trying with him you have been friends along time and he maybe just feeling a little left out. good luck.
2006-07-17 02:14:12 · answer #7 · answered by I~Love~Baileys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are being abused emotionally by someone who is jealous. jealousy is irrational hence your pal's wacky behaviour but there is nothing you can do. being around you will make him feel worse. leave him alone and move on..he may come round when he gets a grip.
2006-07-17 01:00:54 · answer #8 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him another chance. He may be changed a lot during this period. good luck
2006-07-16 21:09:20 · answer #9 · answered by manalonedubai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes give him 1 more chance
2006-07-16 21:29:10 · answer #10 · answered by andy p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋