i haven been answering his calls or sms this few days. my mind is in a blank now... he wants to know y i'm avoiding him. i don know how to put it across to him. can any one help?
2006-07-16 20:26:39 · 25 answers · asked by journey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i wanna know how to go about telling him ..
i know of the situation and what to expect.
i just wanna know a good way to put it across...
2006-07-16 20:59:15 · update #1
most married man have affair just for the thrills of sex. Perhaps hes only interested in your body. This shows hes very selfish. I guess its better you tell the truth to him. Let him decide la.
Never ever get yourself involved in such relationship in future. Both of you of made a very big mistake.
Its best you leave him now before matters get worse. Think about his family........Imagine such a thing were to happen to you.
Advise him tactfully and put a stop to such relationship.
Make him understand his family needs him more than he needs you.
Problem with we humans, we take things for granted.
best of luck. Pray for the best gal.Be strong.
2006-07-20 18:58:30 · answer #1 · answered by yah o 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dun know how long you have been with the married man, but I supposed this could be a wrong relationship in the first place but wat is done cannot be undone.
I think you should let him know the actual reason why you are avoiding him coz the problem in never solved by avoiding him. He had to come to a decision on this matter. I dun know the guy background so I can't really tell you much on this.
In the worse case where he decided to leave both you and your child, I hope you can be brave and move on for the sake of the child. Dun let your relationship affect the child development after he/she is born.
One final and most important is that does your family members jnow about this? I feel that their support is the most important than everybody else at this critical stage even though we have given you alot of suggestion.
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2006-07-17 01:27:15 · answer #2 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell him, but don't be surprised IF he doesn't leave his wife for you or if he starts ignoring you. He may be happy and take charge of the situation, but in relationships where you're the mistress to the married man, you usually get left in the cold.
Sad but true!
Of course there is abortion, and they are more likely to go towards that as a choice. Because who honestly can support 2 families!?!?
2006-07-16 20:42:08 · answer #3 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, my dear...to give an answer like tis but yr ONLY TICKET out of tis mess is ABORTION. UNLESS yr man wants the child of his inside u and carry on the affair with u. it will also proves that he LOVE u and the child too.
tis is a wrong relationship in the first place but wat is done cannot be undone but to move on and look forward to the future.
be prepared for d worst to come in the near future bcos is a living thing u r talking about.
dont jump into conclusions by yrself as this is a serious matter that he Must know too.
how to tell him??? well, u know him best than everyone of us here in yahoo. believe me! telling him is easy but he accepting it is still a BIG question mark.
good luck! and take care...
2006-07-16 20:58:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him.. wish i could be a fly on the wall when u do.. but be prepared .. because all is going to change after you do.. "S**T has now hit the fan" .. but u need to tell him.. i mean he's going to eventually find out , doubt he'll fall for u swallowed a watermelon lol.. But be prepared for him to freak.. and he'll more then likely hope that u'll want to get an abortion ( i pray u dont baby shouldnt have to pay for yours and his stupidity) or he's going to vanish out of fear that his wife is going to find out.. and even if you have it.. more then likely u can bet this man isnt going to stick by u.. and you mine as well prepare yourself for being a single mother.. Sux because you and him are complete idots.. now 2 families have to pay the price.. his wife and if he has any kids with her his poor innocent children.. and now your innocent child... See this is why u dont MESS WITH MARRIED MEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!..
2006-07-16 20:48:11 · answer #5 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How stupid, first you become a worthless person by dating a married man, then you act stupid having intercourse without protection, now you reached the top of the s*** by bringing a kid toyour mess.
What do you expect us to say? Everything will be alright?
I hope you can start to do some right things from now on.
2006-07-16 20:47:18 · answer #6 · answered by joseclaudio2001us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know about it, see what he can do. Any good solution or answer. The last resort is that you have to go for an abortion because keeping this baby is definitely a problem for you. Please do not avoid him, I think he will avoid you should you tell him that you are pregnant.Do it fast before it too late for abortion. Think about it!
2006-07-22 03:46:54 · answer #7 · answered by James Louis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that u already pregnant.Nothing 2 b aware.Ask him what u should do.B'cos in this situation only he n u can settle it.Nobody can help u now.Don't get yourself in trouble b 4 the big trouble coming to u.
2006-07-16 21:38:08 · answer #8 · answered by gen2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u shud tell him b4 u cut him out if he tells u that he wants the baby and he is willing to help u financially then let him help but if he wants u to have an abortion then he is being an asshole.then stop seeing him.
give him a chance. dont cut all ur option without trying for others
2006-07-16 20:33:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st Choice: GO N HAVE AN ABORTION!!!
Tell u someting, he wont be responsible for it (I can bet u.!!) If u ever were to tell him, trust me, he will start avoiding you calls/msgs. Or he will persude u like CRAXY to abort it. If u r lucky, he will pay for the abortion. If not, u bear it...thats how married men play the game... they have affairs to ease their mind with family issues (nagging wife, noisy kids...blah...) they wont want anyting 'family' with their mistress / gf....
2nd Option: Leave him (NOT TELL HIM) and raise the child by yourself (HIGHLY NOT RECOMMENDED!!!)
Email me at kateolsen04@yahoo.com.sg for more information.
2006-07-16 21:51:07 · answer #10 · answered by Ida 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋