no body in my life gives me any support in anything I do.. (I know your probably thinking that there has to be someone that does... but nope, no one!!) I have a boyfriend but whenever I want to do something like go to college or loose some weight he just ignores me.... am I just whineing and blameing everything that is wrong in my life on other people? or do people really need support from others to accomplish anything? It feels like my parents have totally given up on me.. so I dont even bother trying to do anything good for myself anymore cuz it feels like no one cares!! HELP!!!has this happened to anyone else and how did you work thourgh it??
2006-07-16 20:05:11 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sweetie, I have been where you are before. Think about it this way..... you have to take responsibility for the way your life turns out. You make the decisions, good or bad, and you have to pay the consequences. Do something that you want to do for once. Don't try to make anyone happy. Separate yourself from everyone for a while, and figure out what it is that you want to do FOR YOU. Sometimes when you're around negative people, you become negative. I wish you luck, but remember, do what makes you happy, and don't worry about anyone else right now. Because honestly, in the end, they really don't care what happens to you. It's your life, they can disappear, most people do that. Make sure you have something to fall back on next time. God Bless you.
2006-07-16 20:18:51 · answer #1 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you sound like your environment is not a comforting one.
You seem to me to have a good head on your shoulders. IT's in you. The answers and motivation is in you. It's like this, take an orange and put it in a basket of apples. take that same orange and put it in a basket or grapes. Either basket, in any environment....it's an orange right? SO, you are not within a good supportive environment. BUT you are still YOU and you know what you want. you have to be your own best friend for now till someone comes along. here's something that might help. hmm. wait. email me if you choose.otherwise, try a family member, neighbor, teacher *current or former* or distant relative for advice. I hear in your question that you know what to do and what you want. You just need to be verified. We all do. You are not whining or blaming others. You have a right to be upset. AND you have a right to NOT be upset. Pick and choose what to be upset over like we PICK and choose our fights throughout the day. Good luck and don't mind emailing me. I'd love to help out.
M
2006-07-16 20:16:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey don't worry.. I dont believe that your loved ones gave up on you .. Maybe you are just in a difficult phase rightn ow where you only see the negative side of things.. Talk to your boyfriend ask him to do something nice together.. tell him that you miss him and that you want to do something nice with your relationship..Talk with your parents as well and tell them how u feel..You just need some attention and thats all.. Go out with your friends for shopping or do something fun.. Spend time with your bf and explain to him that lately u feel down and rejected..Im sure everything will turn out fine.. Just be positive and do something u really like..Go for a pedicure! watch dvd with ur guy.. Buy some candles and cook something nice for you and him.. It will make u feel better ..
2006-07-16 20:12:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a fact-unless u know,very strongly, what u want, no one wil support u...and even then the support may not be visible. know ur own mind first then act on it..and dont wait for the rest of the world to tell u if college,or that dress or an outing is what u can do, jus do it!
2006-07-16 20:10:09 · answer #4 · answered by El-rene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion you don't have much faith in your own forces. Everything you accomplish in life, is for you, not for others. To loose wight, to go to college, is for your own benefit. For your personal development. I am on diet also, but I don't ask for anyone to help me. It helps me a lot, watching kilograms go away, it gives me self confidence. It helps me to evolve. You look better, you get a job easier. Same with the college: you have any superior school, you get easier a job. And you get more confidence in you.
So go for it, help yourself, because anyone else can't help you, beside yourself.
2006-07-16 20:18:49 · answer #5 · answered by m_kiss2010 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
beleave in yourself sometimes its nice to have support from others but you dont really need it if you beleave in yourself and follow your heart, hopes and dreams, you can do anything if u put your mind to it
2006-07-16 20:11:17 · answer #6 · answered by eyes_kitty_green 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋