What are the negative effects of a woman having more than one sexual partner?

Question

Limits: serious answers (no "it makes her trashy"); please don't preach from a religious standpoint (i.e. God says it's wrong). Please provide logical reasoning for your answers.

Exceptions: if the woman is not spreading disease or giving birth to children that she cannot afford/support/treat well/etc., then what are the negative effects?

To blackdragon079, blueprincess_90: please read the above exceptions.

Answer 1

That is a loaded question. There are negative effects for anyone having more than one sexual partner.

The prevailing myth is that if a man has had many sexual partners, then he is a "stud" and the label "whore" is applied to a woman who has had the same experiences.

However, this is false. The reason being that advertising along with cultural and social pressures have stamped into today's youth that sex is good, it feels good, it carries along with it no consequences and that if you are not getting any, then you are a "loser" (watch any major sitcom and count how many times that people who don't have sex on a regular basis are viewed in a negative light).

This is mostly residual societal bias leftover from the sexual revolution of the 60s and the feminist movement. Of course, we are much less inclined to be so outspoken about it today (STD's being a primary reason), but the fact of the matter is we are indoctrinated from day one to be sexual creatures.

However, this doesn't mean it's healthy. Just because Hollywood bombards you with something doesn't mean that it's good for you. They can glamorize anything, hell, even Tarantino made heroin look cool.

The thing is, the only real source of opposition to this movement are the religious groups, who are usually written off as ignorant zealous cretins living their life based on an archaic text. Unfortunately, this is the worst example of ad hominem in our society and a really good message is being lost as a result.

To examine why it is bad, it is first necessary to see why women think they should be able to bed whoever they want to begin with.

The modern feminist movement is to blame for the concept of the "disposable sex object." Along with advances in women's careers and legal status, feminists believed that women did not need to be tied down in the "oppression" of marriage. They also believed that women were entitled to whatever self-gratification that they wanted to go along with their newfound legal status. Of course, this meant that men no longer had to sustain long term relationships because sex was readily available. This led to a huge decrease in marriage, rise in divorce, and a plethora of single moms.

Having no fathers around meant that men were not raised with the notion that a woman was meant to be respected and adored, but rather she was a commodity to be used and consumed. Hell, if a man's own father left his mother, than why couldn't he just use and lose any girl off the street?

This is where the notion of the "sexual conqueror" comes into play. Now that men are not raised into believing in relationships, their only gratification comes from sleeping with many women, and not with settling down and raising children.

Now, combine that with women being in the workforce, an incredibly high divorce rate, and a very bad social outlook on marriage, and you have the most desirable institution in the world becoming very undesirable almost overnight.

Again, we've examined why men are this way, so we must look at the women.

There are a significant amount of families without fathers. A lot of families with fathers still aren't quite desirable; the father works late, has emotionally abandoned the family, or is too interested in obtaining material gain to properly raise the child. Teenagers attitudes are seen as "adolescent" or "juvenile" and they are left to themselves, even though they obtain these feelings well into adulthood, becoming very dysfunctional in every aspect of life, especially relationships.

Women without this strong father prescence have difficult relationships with men. Feminists have brainwashed them into thinking men are oppressive, abusive, and neglectful, which is often the case. But what they fail to mention is that this is their own doing.

So with no father around, the girl grows up feeling empty and insecure. This often plays out in the "asshole" relationships. Any guy who shows geniune interest in a woman is often labeled as a "loser" and women often go for the "confident" type because that's what they grew up with. The geniune guys get left behind because women think that if their fathers didn't show them any interest then they must be worthless, and if a guy takes interest in a worthless thing then he must also be worthless. "Assholes" score lots of points here because they most resemble the type of relationships many teenage girls have with their fathers: distant, abusive, and empty.

So why sleep with so many men, then? Well, it all comes down to one thing; desire for love. A healthy relationship is impossible because of the above listed reasons, so what's the next big thing? Sex. If a woman gives herself to a man willingly, then that man automatically gives her attention. And sex in our society happens to be very profitable, so we are bombarded with it on a daily basis, and as a result, is a socially accepted norm.

You don't want to sleep around with a lot of men because it really truly shows that you are carrying around a lot of emotional baggage and that you are "damaged goods." The healthiest and happiest people are those who find a fulfilling relationship with another person who cares about them for them and that the feeling is reciprocated.

Do yourself a favor and stay away from sexual situations until you are married or are with someone you truly love. Until then, it is never a good idea, no matter how many people say it is. It comes down to that old cliche: "If they all jumped off a bridge, would you?"

Monogamy is a beautiful thing. I guess beauty is just in the eye of the beholder.

Answer 2

I am assuming you mean like dating more than one guy at the same time and sleeping with all of them, but not having group sex.

There are only two things that really make this situation different for a woman and with negative effects that men don't have to experience.
1. The risk of getting pregnant and not knowing who the father is for sure (which can be minimized).
2. The social stigma.

The negative affects for a woman or a man, assuming that they let all their partners know the situation and the risks they assume
1. The partners think they can handle the jealousy or embarrasment, but really they can't
2. unanticipated guilt or annoyance in trying to manage all the feelings and logistics of the sexual partners (avoiding each others presence, competition, wanting to turn down sex with one because you already had your fill, or no time to see one because you are still having a fight with another, etc.)
3. the risk that you have to keep an emotional distance, knowing that you can't be with all of them forever
4. if you fall in love with one of them, then they might not psychologically be able to get past the historical arrangement
5. if you meet someone you are really interested in, they may pass once they find out your situation and never give you another chance

The benefits are that you have a lot of sex, lots of variety to keep your interest, and no one has power over you by withholding sex. For guys, there is the benefit that the more women that are interested in you the more other women find you attractive, and the more other guys admire you. I think the opposite would be true for women, but that falls under social stigma.

Answer 3

It's a very interesting question.

The main problem is that there is a double standard.

For men, it's fine and dandy to have as many sexual partners as they want and they are looked upon as real men and BRAVO!

For women, if they have more than one partner, right away she's looked upon as a whore, prostitute, etc.

It sounds very old-fashioned, but I believe society still thinks in this way.

Also, I have found with women - I am talking about women I know - it's impossible to have an honest conversation about sex and about this specific issue. Women are so busy trying to show that they are "good", "nice", "ladies" - that they almost never say how they really feel about sex - like it's a dirty secret that they enjoy it and want to do it or that they also would like to experiment and discover and be with more than one partner.

The other problem is that perhaps it will be hard for a woman to handle having more than one partner emotionally because usually for a woman sex is not just sex - it's emotional and feelings of love can come into the sexual act. Then perhaps it would be harder to handle.

However, I, unequivocally, do not say it's wrong for a woman to have more than one sexual partner. She has the right to have as many partners as she wants, if she feels good about it.

Answer 4

Limits: this would be the person's choice to exploit herself actively it would be a strain for her because in the long run too much of this wears you out physically as well as mentally. Even if its by 2 women no I don't see it as trashy.....Look I would be seeing it from my point. I would also have a talk with a female Specialist concerning limits they will help in guidance how and what are the ways for you to conduct your sexual activity at a controlled manner. Sex is to with living....its also life.

Answer 5

Actually a nastier person is one who judges someone in comparison to a dog without knowing anything. Not that we even know your definition of what "a lot of sexual partners" is. Are you this disgusted by the men who are doing it to them? And I hav eto ask, if women are these easy creatures that just "stand there and take it like a *****" how is that a feat or an accomplishment by a guy. They are praying on easy targets. Way to go!

Answer 6

ok no religeon. Besides the physical health which really matters mental health suffers too. U have to develop two sided personality treating two different persons with different mind set and different behavaioural patterns. So in the end what happens u yourself is divided into two persons & u have a split psychological mind which keeps drifting in two. Just like a passanger of two ships at the same time.

Answer 7

I don’t accept your limits. It does make a woman trashy to have several sexual partners. This is not based on religious beliefs, but on my personal opinion.

Answer 8

If NO disease or anything is wrong then there are NO negative effects to having sex.

Why would you think that there are.

Sex is a natural pleasure.

Ironic when everyone wants to be natural they want artificial insemination LOL

Answer 9

I can only think of one main idea. When you sleep with someone, you collect baggage, whether its a serious relationship or a one night stand. The more people you sleep with, the more baggage you carry, and in turn, it makes future relationships that more difficult. This is true because I have been there and done that.

Answer 10

She will come to aswers.yahoo looking for validation while everyone there will know what she is doing. I know girls that do that and everyone looks down on them. They do seem sleezy and who the hell would want to touch them after that. You might not be spreading disease yet but how do you know what youre getting by taking facial blasts from all those guys?