My dad's cheating on my mom!!!?

Question

My mom found out that my dad is cheating on her yesterday, and my mom told me they had been together for about a couple of months. This is not the first time my dad is cheating on my mom, and I don’t know if they should divorce or not. For me, I don’t care about my dad anymore as long as my mom is happy. Anyone plz help me out cuz im kinda confuse here!

Answer 1

Stay out of it.. let them handle their own lives...

Answer 2

Sorry to say. This is a problem between your mother and father. You shouldn't treat either any different. Just make sure if you are in their custody, that you let them know at the same time and up front you don't want to be used as leverage by either of them against the other. Men don't cheat with out some form of justification. The should see a counsler or have a trial separation. Cheating isn't serious unless your mom makes it as such.

Answer 3

I told my Dad when I discovered my Mom was cheating on him and he refused to believe it. Then after I moved out, they got a divorce. He hasnt spoken to me since 1993 and I can only believe that he is this way because I am the one that confirmed to him what he didnt want to believe and therefore its my fault and he wont talk to me now. Be careful of the choices you make and what you get involved in. Some things have no place for the child of the marriage. I am terminally ill now and have tried to contact my Dad several time and he just wont talk to me. I regret getting involved and telling him something he needed to find out on his own.

Answer 4

I'm very sorry to hear of your situation......... I was in this situation a year ago, except it was my mother cheating on my father (and probably not the first time) Ultimately....... it's not your decision if they divorce or not, I initially wanted my parents to work it out.. but a year later, I'm happy they aren't together. It was heartbreaking to see my father fall to pieces after 26 years of marriage, and make a fool of himself trying to hang on to my mother while she walked all over him.... I hated her for that. My relationship with my mother still isn't the same and probably never will be again, that was her choice.... not mine. She ultimately left the house (which is around the corner from mine) which means my father is the more active grandparent with my children. The only advice I can offer is try not to get into the middle of it (easier said then done I know). It's very easy to be pitted against one parent or the other (naturally you're more upset with your father given the situation) but you really don't need to know all the "specifics" of why their marriage is falling apart........ just be there for both of them, and try to understand the decision they come to. Again, I'm very sorry for what you're going through........ no child (grown or not) should go through this EVER.

Answer 5

Give your mom love and support but I hate to say it,they are the adults and have to deal with it for themselves.You are affected in a different way than they are.As their kid you need to stay out of that.

Don't let them make you choose sides.It is still ok to love your dad and not respect him for a choice HE made.You will be hurt and angry for a long time and want to blame your dad for the hurt you and your mom go through but try not to too much.
I went through it at 14 and it was hard,but in the end my folks didn't split and I always wondered why.
Myself,because of it I looked at all my relationships from then on differently.I can"t tolerate dishonest people in my life in any way.
Talk with someone you trust about how YOU are feeling and how it affecting you.But try not to choose sides.Don't keep it bottled up.
You need to know you are going to be ok even if they do split.You didn't cause this and you can't fix it for them so try to make sure you are getting emotional support for you.

Answer 6

Some men are just cheater's. If he treats your mom with respect, and pays bills and takes care of y'all sometimes that more important. At least your mom is getting a break. People can work through unfaithful relationships. However, you may need some counseling and maybe talk to your dad about how it is bothering you and that it is an embarrassment to the whole family. Maybe he will care more about how you feel. I don't know it just depends on the type man he is. If you can not talk to him talk to a pastor or school counselor, you need to work through this now or it could cause you long term issues.

Answer 7

Divorce is a decision that your mother will have to take. She can decide to divorce or not, it depends on many factors. Stay close to your mother, that's the best thing you can do now.


PS: tons of dads and good fellas end up cheating, it's wrong but pretty much natural, so try not to judge your father for what he did.

Answer 8

I'm so sorry. That must be such a tough situation. It's not up to you to decide if your parents should stay together or not. Don't let yourself take on too much of this. This is between your parents. It's so easy to create so much hurt for yourself by trying to watch out for your parents' happiness. Recognize that it's their job to get through this, not your job to get them through this. My parents divorced and although it wasn't because of cheating, I dealt with the issues I mentioned. I highly recommend talking to a therapist to help you get through this. If you don't want to do that (even though there's absolutely nothing wrong with it), find a really good book to help. I read "Adult Children of Divorce". It helped me recognize how I needed to deal with the problems between my parents in my own life and I found it to be an amazing tool in reclaiming my life and freeing myself of my parents' pain. I wish you luck in figuring all this out.

Answer 9

If it is really true, I mean, if it is no longer an allegation or a fact that your Dada did it, talking to your dad man-to-man is the best action at this time and attempt to ask him why he did it. Another angle is that there may be a problem between your mom and your dad, and that this action of your dad is just a escapegoat or something from what happened between him and your mom. If indeed there is a problem between your mom and dad, invite them to see a counselor or a faith minister to hopefully try to patch things up. Who knows what may come up? At least you did something and not let your hopes up to try to save their marriage.

Answer 10

i like the respond thqt expresses that all of us do undesirable issues. it relatively is so genuine, we are all sinners and proceed to do undesirable and egocentric issues. this does not make the harm circulate away, and easily saying that he could be forgiven does not make your coronary heart gush with forgiveness. however the certainty is, you have each precise to be offended and you have each precise to withhold forgiveness via fact the worldwide sees it. I propose, it is not adequate that your Dad cheated on your mom... you in addition to would sense cheated, precise? Justified anger and justified harm would be as undesirable as unjustified harm and anger, possibly even worse via fact there is not any set off mechanism that ought to sign you to appreciate while , "adequate is adequate." Does this make experience? reality is forgiveness is this variety of blessing to the only being forgiven and to the only doing the forgiving. Jesus reported in what we call "The Lord's Prayer, (12) And forgive us our money owed, as we even have forgiven our borrowers. (13) And lead us no longer into temptation, yet grant us from the evil one. Do you notice the reward in this prayer, or a minimum of the typical for forgving and forgiveness. it is, we are asking God to forgive us in the comparable way that we forgive. So in a notice, via withholding forgiveness, that's utilizing you loopy, "figuratively." (Your no longer likely loopy....) considering i do no longer understand, indexed right here are a pair of questions that must be solid to appreciate. what's the condition of your Dad precise now..., nevertheless in the affair? searching for forgiveness from you/ from mom? nevertheless in Sin? How is you mom... bitter? Forgiving? notice: this tips can be powerful for you mom. Bitterness in straightforward terms festers and grows. it is the devils stronghold..., that's gripping. Prayer and forgiveness releases this stronghold. I pray this facilitates, that's a coronary heart condition. that's spectacular how one persons sin continuously spills over and motives plenty havoc. genuine coronary heart felt forgiveness by Christ is the only treatment. A prayer has been despatched forward for you, your mom and your Dad. reward! God cares!!!

Answer 11

Aw that sux bad! Uh well tell ur mom to do what makes her happy not anyone else. If I were her I'd get a divorce and get ur dad for everything he's got. He may not like it but I wouldnt give a fluck! She shouldnt either, its not like ur dad gave a fluck about her obviously. As long as she's happy is what matters.