I used to be in love with my boyfriend, but now I'm having serious doubts. I'm 70% sure I don't really love him anymore. But what really sucks is that he cant stop talking about how in love with me he is. I'm terrified of dumping him because I don't want to break his heart. Please help me.
2006-07-16 18:42:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You have to do what is best for you. I know it sounds simple, but what, are you going to marry the dude and then twenty years down the road be miserable.
He'll live and he doesn't really have a choice, does he.
Sorry.
2006-07-16 18:44:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that if you have a 70% doubt of your love it is already over. I think it is very kind of you to not want to break his heart. However it will happen anyway, and be a lot more hurtful to him if there is anger or jealousy combined with the hurt. He no doubt considers you beautiful and he is proud to have someone like you to love. That is why he tells you and others how much he loves you.
Perhaps you could introduce him to someone else that considers him a desirable person, I realize there may some feelings of jealousy in you about this (30%) but if it is him that comes to you for a break-up you have accomplished what you are considering doing, without hurting him..
You should understand that you will not be happy in a relationship where you are loved by someone else. Unless You love them. They could be the worst but if you love them you would be happy. When most people are asked what would make them happy, they say "i wish I could find someone to love me" but what they really mean is " I wish I loved someone" Good luck to you in future and to your soon to be X boyfriend. Please be kind to him no matter what you choose to do.
2006-07-17 02:18:48 · answer #2 · answered by eudaemon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're hurting both of you more by staying in the relationship when you don't really want to be in the relationship. If both people aren't involved in the relationship, its not a good/healthy relationship. Its better to break it off and let his heart heal than to fool him in thinking you love him too. Its not fair for either of you...
2006-07-17 01:47:12 · answer #3 · answered by fayelynn1986 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, if you're that sure that you don't love him anymore, either break his heart now or do it later. There's really no sense in delaying the inevitable. The longer you wait, the harder it will be for you to make the move.
2006-07-17 01:46:02 · answer #4 · answered by supafrogg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell him exactly how you feel about him . if he loves you that much he will respect your answer . i had this prob before . he loved me but i didnt have really strong feelings for him . soo i told him && he said he understands . maybe it would be bettr off if you told him the truth . than it wont haunt you for the rest of your life . me && the guy who is still madly in love with me are best friends still . just ask him if you guys can be reall good friends . good luck .
2006-07-17 01:47:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey if your heart isn't into it you need to get out.. it will be a lot better then letting it go on and dumping him later and it hurting him worse. you don't want to live a lie.. that just ends up hurting you both
2006-07-17 01:47:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be mature & wise since you both are adult being in love.Before is too late, it is better to call it a day than to prolong it which hurt him even more.
2006-07-17 01:46:09 · answer #7 · answered by Goosters 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your only hurting him even more by being with him and not loving him. would you like to be with someone you are totally devoted too and in-love with that did not feel the same way bout you?
2006-07-17 01:47:35 · answer #8 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the classic way out of this!
Tell him you need some time. During your time, find someone else and when he asks if your ready tell him,
"Sorry, but I am seeing someone!"
2006-07-17 01:46:03 · answer #9 · answered by Jima 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It totally depends on how old you are and how long you guys have been dating....
If you live your life just to appease others, you will never be happy. Do what's best for your happiness.
2006-07-17 01:45:29 · answer #10 · answered by Nita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋