I am a guy struggling right now with the feeling I might be gay or possibly bisexual. I am definitely sexually attracted to girls although there have been guys that I have been sexually attracted to as well. I have been raised all my life in a fundamental protestant home so I cant go to my family for advice because they will not understand. I tried doing things the "biblical" way of pray real hard and god will change you but this is something I have felt for a long time. Is there a website or a support group that I can go to so I can get advice as to whether I am gay or not and support if I am. I cannot go to any of my friends or family because they will ostracize me and I have no one else to turn to for companionship.
2006-07-16 18:41:58 · 7 answers · asked by West Coast Nomad 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
check under the phone book for gay and lesban community listing...there are various support group.....assuming you are in US go to gay.com
2006-07-17 07:28:51 · answer #1 · answered by sstooc2001 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
As a fundamental Christian, I suppose my thoughts aren't too welcome, but both of my sons deal with what you've described. Both are definitely attracted to girls, but now and then find themselves interested in a guy they get to know. I had the same experience as a teen and young adult. It seems fairly normal to me. You can decide if you want to act on those feelings or not, of course, whenever you have feelings for another person, whichever gender that person is.
I wasn't comfortable with the idea of homosexual relationships, so I never had one, and I'm happy with that choice. Both my boys have made the same choice. Is it the right one for everyone? No idea. Will my boys stick with it for life? I kind of hope so, but I'd rather they make the right choice, than the choice Mom likes best.
There's plenty of gay and bi Christians out there, so apparently it's not all that uncommon. There are churches that are more welcoming, even those whose membership is primarily of homosexual orientation. Maybe such a place would feel more comfortable to you, maybe you would find friends and "family" there to support you as a person, rather than feeling the need to support or denounce your orientation. And, I'm sorry people told you that if you pray hard enough, God will change your feelings. That's not how it works, even for those who believe it can be changed. Sorry you had to go through that.
http://gaylife.about.com/od/religion/a/gaychurch.htm
Here, pick your denominational flavor, find a church in your city or nearby, and give them a call. They'll know where to find the support and information you desire, and since they understand your friends and family, and their beliefs, they might be able to help you tell those people, and learn how to deal with them.
2006-07-17 03:14:18 · answer #2 · answered by Gen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that.
Your situation is a common one.
The bad news is this. Fundies, and other jerks of stupidity and insanity, are not going away any time soon.
Fortunately, now days, there are resources available to help inform, console, comfort, and accommodate.
There's more good news
If you are Gay, you are okay. Now you can start accepting and believing in yourself.
There's still more
Prayer will NOT turn you straight. Now you can stop wasting time and energy.
Continue working on your good character and credit rating. Continue working on your career skills. You don't need your Bible for those things.
There is so much more that you can know. I invite you to contact me via yahoo 360 if you want any further inputs from me. Below, I've listed some website you might find helpful.
2006-07-17 01:48:57 · answer #3 · answered by My Big Bear Ron 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you can be gay and a christian. I am! I am in church EVERY SUNDAY! but you have to find a support group in your city...off line ;0)
Look at homosexuality in the bible. You will be surprised!
hint : Ruth and Naomi
David and Jonathan
Daniel and Ashpenaz
2006-07-17 02:10:35 · answer #4 · answered by Vell g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you *are* bisexual, you can stay in denial well into your 30s... but it kinda eats away at you. Much healthier to accept who you are.
There are bi groups in many cities where you can meet people and talk.
2006-07-17 09:07:17 · answer #5 · answered by metavariable 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many of your religious questions can be answered at http://g0ys.org go there first and then you will be able to decide what the right course for you to take is.
2006-07-17 11:22:24 · answer #6 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to try the guy thing. You'll never know if you like it or not until you try it
2006-07-17 10:19:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋