How to get over the loss of my dad?

Question

my dad died may 2 2006 and it is just starting to hit me and so i do not no wat to do so do yall have any advise for me and my step my took every thing and now i have nothing to remember him by

Answer 1

first of all, you have more right of his stuff than anyone else...you are his child, his legacy...i lost my dad when i was 15 and it is not easy, especially when you are an only child and daddys little girl. dont try not to think about it...talk to him. out loud. i still talk to my dad 7 years later and i cry. my dads favorite songs were desperado and unchained melody. to this day, no matter where i am or what i am doing, if i hear either song i stop, listen to the whole thing, and think about him. when it first happens you go through the shock, the denial. my dad was my rock, my familiarity...everything in life he did for me. then a month or so after, you realize...hes gone...forever. cry if you need to. its hard. i know right now you feel like your world is in pieces and will never be the same...but it gets better. i promise. just let yourself know he is always with you, and misses you too.

Answer 2

You do have something to remember him by... the memories...

The loss of any loved one is difficult, But the loss of a Mother or Father is one of the hardest things you will ever have to do in your life. I understand your pain. From someone who knows, Time will heal your pain.

I know right now you feel like nothing will ever make the void go away. I know you try to have fun, and for a split second someone tells a joke or tries to make you laugh... You smile... Then you remember the fact that it Did Actually happen and you cant help but cry.

You almost start to feel guilty for smiling, laughing, living.

First things first. Figure out if your religious or not. (being religious is easier LOL) sorry. If you are religious, remember that beautiful angels took him home. If your not then remember everything happens for a reason.

May Second, You havent even truely began greiving yet.

You need to Mourn the loss, Cry your tears, Smile at the memories, and when you are ready to take a deep breath and remember You are still here and you HAVE to carry on... Then you start to pick yourself up.

So when you think you have cried every tear, and you have had enough sleepless nights and those nights you do sleep you cry yourself there. When You get done... Then Take a deep breath and pick yourself up.

Thats when it is time to Keep those memories and start living.

Live you life. You only have one. He brought you into the world, he has completed all of his need here on Earth, Now he is up there to watch you complete yours and watch over you.

So... Youll never truely get over it. But the Deep Dark cloud will start to leave and you will begin to not cry when his passing is brought up but smile and celebrate the life he did lead.

Good Luck
and
God Bless.

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~jessica~

Answer 3

Sorry about your dad, but its not all over , you have memories and the little time you spent with your dad was the best for him nothing makes a parent more happier than seeing thier kids smile and be happy. Im sure your dad would want to see you happy so turn that frown around! Sure there are going to be times that you will miss him greatly. Its okay to cry just remember that your dad loves to see a happy girl. Do the best you can to be strong this is something you will never let go so don't try to repress it, try t accept i know its easier said than done

Answer 4

Sweety there just is not much anyone else can do for you when you loose someone you love. I don't think your father would want you to cry over him everyday however. You should not focus on "getting over him" but more with getting on with your life. He would want that for his child. As for nothing to remember him by, I am sorry that happened. I am not sure if you are talking pictures or more household objects but -- hopefully you knew your dad. What was important to him in life besides physically - Morales values wise. Carry those traits on in life & you can make memories for both of you.
Bad things dont last forever & niether does pain.

Answer 5

It is really very painful to lose someone dear to you but life should go on for that is something nobody can change. Remember him in your prayers. Take to heart all the things he taught you and implement them in your life. In that way, you can still show him how much he means to you.

Even if your stepmom took everything that could make you remember him, you could just remember him in your thoughts for your love for him would always show you his face and personality even just in your mind for memories linger and never die.

Move on with your life because I'm sure that could be what your father wants you to do now that he is gone. And as much as possible, every time you remember him, say a silent prayer for the repose of his soul in the hands of God. So many things await you. Be interested in many things to help you cover up your loneliness for him. God bless.

Answer 6

Dear Friend,

I understand the situation you are put in now. But any creature that is born will have to die one day. Nothing is premenant in this world. No words can console you now. But still this few words becuse I too have gone through this state of mind once.

The only advice I can give you now is " Pray for the departed soul to rest in peace and try to keep yourself happy". Because the for the departed soul to have peace they should see that all they loved when they were living are in good sprits. So try to keep youself constantly in touch with God who is the cause for every thing.

Answer 7

I LOST MY FATHER ON JAN 27,2005 TWO MONTHS PIER MY SIS NOV,17 2005..IT WAS OF THE HARDEST TIME OF MY LIFE. STILL IS....I KNEW THERE WERE DYING (CANCER) I HAD TIME TO SAY GOODBYE....DID YOU?....YOUR STEP MOM MAY HAVE TOOK STUFF...BUT SHE CAN NOT TAKE THE ONE THING THAT U HAVE THAT SHE WILL NEVER HAVE....THAT IS YOUR DAD'S LOVE AND MEMORY'S
BE GLAD OF THAT...THE PAIN WILL BECOME LESS AS TIME GOES ON..BELIEVE ME I KNOW ...SOMETIMES FOR NO REASON I WILL GET A WEIRD FEELING AND I START THINKING ABOUT HIM AND I USE TO CRY...BUT KNOW WHEN I THINK OF HIM MY HEART WILL SWELL WITH LOVE AND MEMORY'S....THE MISSING IS AND WILL ALWAYS BE THERE BUT LIFE WILL GO....AND GET BETTER...
REMEMBER THAT YOUR MEMORY'S ARE ALL THE THING'S YOU NEED. THE OTHER DAY I WENT INTO THE BACK YARD WERE I HAD SOME GOOD MEMORY'S OF MY DAD AND SISTER...I STARTED TO LAUGH I REMEMBERED A FUNNY THING THAT HAPPEN OUT THERE ONE SUMMER...MY SISTER STEPPED ON AN OLD RUSTY NAIL....MY DAD WENT TO PULL IT OUT (I WAS STANDING BEHIND HER )SHE LANDED ON TOP OF ME AND I FELL BACKWARDS AND LANDED ON A BOARD THAT HAD 5 NAILS IN IT.AT THE TIME IT WASN'T TO FUNNY BUT IT IS THE ONE THING THAT THE THREE OF US HAD THAT NO ONE ELSE WILL EVER HAVE...

Answer 8

If you do not belong to a church, go to the largest one you know of that is close and ask to speak with one of their counselors. They do not charge for the service and they can help you go through the grieving process. There are several stages to it and it is important that you realize what each one is. You will experience anger at your father for dying and leaving you behind and that is ok, that is normal. Get some counseling they will pray with you and remember that you can pray also on your own and the Lord will be right there to comfort you. He will not let you go through this alone.

Answer 9

Im sorry for ur lose my grandpa just died novber 12 2005 and im not over that and i never will be but i have his picture in my heart and i will never forget him you will never forget ur dad either u have him with you everyday of ur life ok hun like i said im sorry for ur lose

Answer 10

its ok to miss him but always remember and he is watching over you and he probly doesnt want you to be un happy parents never like to see their children unhappy so thats all the advcise i can give you!!:))