I lost custody of my girls because my husband & his parents lied what do I do now? he refuses to cooperate?

Question

he and his parents got on the stand under oath and lied , they told all sorts of lies it was almost like it was rehearsed, how can someone use a chils against it's mother. I have been their primary caretaker simce they were born seeing as he really didn't want either one and now they are with him and he won't let me or my mom see them or talk to them on the phone, what can I do I am going crazy knowing they have my girls?????

Answer 1

People don't lose their children over "lies" people lose children over the evidence. Who seemed the most convincing? He must want them to fight so hard for them and win?

If he is refusing to allow phone contact then what kind of judgment was set in place? If you were given "rights" of visitation then HE is in the wrong. If the court is not supporting you in this then apparently YOU did not prove yourself worthy of visitation?

The court would support some level of right to YOU, if you displayed a sense of desire to parent the children. Apparently the court saw something that you are not revealing............

Answer 2

Hire a very good lawyer or have your current lawyer work to uncover proof that this is what happened and then file a motion that a new hearing is being requested because your lawyer has reason to believe that the witnesses for the plaintiff purgered themselves under oath.

This may be very difficult to prove but if you want your girls back as much as you indicate, you will have to work to prove your case because having already lost custody it will take stamina to regain credibility. Once the purgery has been proven beyond a doubt however, your lawyer can approach the Judge and arrange to have the case reopened and re assessed. Gather up your credibility witnesses, those who can vouch for your stability financially and your character. This can be employers, friends, even creditors by way of financial records. In order to prove yourself as more or equal to your husband where providing care for the children goes, you have to have everything in spotless order.

Sounds like he has taken the children on behalf of his parents...sometimes grandparents involved in custody battles can be even more dangerous than with just the parents.

Fight for what you want but keep everything straight and up and up...you do not want nor need any infractions against you. Bide the time, work to correct what you see as a wrong, get good people on your team and if it is meant to uncover an injustice...you'll have it.

Good luck and hang in there, if the going gets tough remember what you are working for and increase that by 3 because that's how hard your husband and his parents will work to make sure they do everything to slap you down. For the girls sake tho I certainly hope the right person does indeed win this because it isn't the adults that need to win this for themselves because of hostility, but to win it for the safety, future and security of the children.

Best one win.

Answer 3

Where were your witnesses?
It isn't just what they say --- somebody had some proof against you - sorry you are suffering but it's also time to get yourself together - take a parenting class --- or any other class or course that is needed --- whatever the court found wrong that applied to you - work on those things and become a better mom and then approach the court about getting visitations. If there are no charges against your mom have her apply for grandparent visitations.....if you need to contact their father do so through a lawyer not you or your mom --- if you do have visitations and he's not allowing the visits - then you have to take him to court.

Answer 4

I know for a fact that the court will not take your girls away from you unless you did something your not telling us! I have full custody of my daughter, my ex has domestic violence against her and has some mental problems. She dose get to see her 3 weekend a month. For almost 6 months I had a restraining order and she was not allowed to call or see her accept for supervised visits with a court supervisor. If in deed you did nothing you need to get a good lawyer! Good luck!

Answer 5

Well first thing is first you have to take care of yourself. In most states there is a right for parents to see their children. If CPS thinks you are a danger or a threat to them then they can prevent it. Talk to the CPS and ask them for supervised visitation. That will let them know that you really care and you just want to see your children. Unless you have committed some awful crime they cannot prevent you from seeing your children. Don't bash the father in front of them it will make them wonder who is telling the truth and who is lying and it won't solve anything. You have to prove to them that you are the most stable and responsible person for your children to be with.

Answer 6

~*~ First of all, take a deep breath.. . Analyze the situation.. Your goal is to get your girls back.. Forget about your ex and his parents.. You need to focus on how you are going to get them back.. You need to get custody back as soon as possible.. If they are capable of lying on the stand to get custody then they are just bad people... Think clearly.. You know your situation better than anyone else... You need to prove to the courts that they lied... You also need to prove to the courts that the girls are better off in your care.. Do things the smart way.. focus on what is important and work as hard as you can to get them back.. Best of Luck~*~

Answer 7

i know what you are going through because i am going through the same thing with my ex husband. I would just get a lawyer and fight for the kids and i know that it is hard when you are financially in trouble. Do what the judge says to do and it depends on who the judge is.

Answer 8

Look on the black market for some one willing to take them. You should be able to get this done for around 10Gs or so. Once you have them back hi tale it to Mexico.




Make a run for the border....