Im gay and I believe I am attracted to my straight friend?

Question

He was the first person I came out to. I am extremely confused about what I feel for him. Am I clinging to him as emotional support or what?

Answer 1

I don't know it depends on how u act with him??

If you: Cry to him for everything! Get mad when he doesn't give u his undivided attention, get jealous when he is flirting with girls, try to stay at his side 24/7, call him everyday like 3 times a day even though you see him, and complain and vent to him when ur always upset then YES.

-but-

If you: Cry to him only when it's really important, r cool when he wants to talk to his other pals, call him once a day or everyother day, talk to him only when ur feeling super down then NO NOT AT ALL ur just going through a rough time, and give it some time and effort and things will start to look up on their own.

And as far as cruching on him goes, I think u should resist ur feelings because he's sraight and it could really ruin your guys friendship. It's really amazing to have a friend like that so don't let ur feelings ruin something that is already perfect because u'll really regret it!! PLus there is probably a perfect guy out there somewhere 4 u. U just haven't found him yet and u will because u seem really sweet!!

I hope everything works out for u!! If u need anymore help just contact me
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Answer 2

Look we all have feelings for our friends especially when we confide in them. It brings you closer together in an emotional way, and we all need that. But try not to confuse that with attraction. At this time you need some support, take your time in sorting these feelings. Try talking to your parents or an adult you trust. good luck to you.

Answer 3

Let me be frank about this.

Keep it real, or risk losing a valuable friendship.

Your friend might be flattered that you are attracted to him. He might even be a good sport about it. He might even, in good faith and for the sake of good humor, act gay a moment or two -- limp his wrist, give you a kiss, or whatever. He might even accompany you to a gay bar (or the like) and even dance with you (I had a straight friend that would). Still, he's straight and THAT's how you should know him, pure and simple. He should be as confident about you as you want to be about him.

Answer 4

it's quite common for gay guys falling in love with their straight friends. It's also a fantasy that will never come true....you just have to separate frienship from romance....rather have a close friend in time of needs than ruin the entire relationship because of your fatal attractions...its not worth it...he seems very attractive to you right now because sex is not part of the equations at least from his part....

Answer 5

I've been here. It never is worth it. He might tap that for you but he will freak out cause he has feelings for you and he will run away. It would be better for you to leave now. Tell him that he is cute on the sly. Let him know that you would never try anything with him because you know he's not gay. and enjoy your friend. lovers come and go, but your friends are for ever!

Answer 6

Wel you might just be holding on to him because you told him first and you know that hes not going to be like ewww your gay or something like that. I dont know. Well I like my friend, I told him and then he felt weird around me. But I told him that since his not gay im not going to hit on him or anything. Im just going to like him. But not tell him what I would love to do. Because then yeah that would be the weirdest thing in the world. So yeha its just depends what type of friend he is.

Answer 7

Simply, throw him a football, Make him not catch it, when he bends over to pick it up: WHAM!!! You bake him a cake.

Answer 8

perhaps

but you doing this will further alienate him/her