After the guy that you thought would be with you forever breaks your heart how do you ever trust again? You thought this guy loved you and would never hurt you but he did mostly emotionally and is being a complete as***le acting like he never cared.
2006-07-16 17:43:26 · 16 answers · asked by JustWant2B 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It takes time to mend a broken heat and trust is even harder to get back but it will come in time... And you will find someone that you can love and trust..
2006-07-16 17:49:56 · answer #1 · answered by nclonewolf1962 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How sad it would be if you never took a chance again like you did with this man who tore you in two? You probably cannot imagine what it would be like to never take a chance, since you have already . . . when you fall for someone else in the future you won't have the opportunity to NOT trust your heart, your heart will be leading the way. Past experience can help dampen your heart's desires but when it comes to finding someone you feel so strong about, you just have to trust in what you feel . . . some people NEVER take the chance(s) you have and that's the saddest thing in the world.
Time will heal your feelings just do not let it keep you from trusting once again . . .
2006-07-16 17:50:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ultimately, you do. You will find someone you will feel a close connection with, to share your feelings with, and you will once again allow that special person your heart.
It sounds like maybe you are still grieving the loss of your relationship, and that is a very healthy, normal thing to do. Surround yourself with good friends and family to support you during this time. You can be mad, angry, hurt, upset, ticked off. But at the end, when you've run through the course of emotions, you will see that there was a reason to why this relationship didn't work out.
You will find that special person that you will feel you can trust with your heart. Just whatever you do, don't build up walls so high no one can penetrate them. Take things slow, and you will be able to see who you can trust your heart with and who you can't.
2006-07-16 17:52:14 · answer #3 · answered by jerkygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to realize your heart wasn't the person who betrayed you. All you did was want love, so as anyone would, you followed your instincts. To let yourself trust again will be hard, because you'll be skeptical about everyone and everything, but time heals all wounds. Except your past with an open heart, and always look forward to the brighter tomorrow.
2006-07-16 17:53:05 · answer #4 · answered by outlandsishlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I weighed the two options. I could be alone the rest of my life, never get married and have children. Or I could take some time out for me, find out what I want in my life and move on.
Some guys are just retarded when it comes to emotions - remember the hair pulling in school. This could be like that.
In the end I like to think they will look back and be Damn, I messed up with that one.
I wrote long angry letters too, and burned them and would watch the smoke go into the sky and visualize my feelings for him as well. That seemed to help too.
2006-07-16 17:47:42 · answer #5 · answered by s_walker1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was with my ex for 6 years,we had 3 children and like your ex he was emotionally abusive and sometimes physically.......i had no where to move to when things ended so we both ended up living in the same house for 4 years,i stayed at home and looked after the kids,he went and did what ever it was he wanted to do.
he eventually moved out after meeting someone,much to my relief.....he never moved far away tho and came to the house regularly to see the kids,or atleast thats always been his excuse.
he split up with his g/f after 2 years of abusing her and now lives just down the road from me and the kids,which means he turns up often.
i have now been on my own for 9 years in total and was certain that i would stay that way,that is until just 5 weeks ago.i know its possible that it will come to nothing,but i have met someone on here who is very special and he says i am to him to.....we chat on web cam and on the phone and have a great time....we are planning to meet in a couple of months time.
i dont know if this is real or if it will last,at the moment we are both hoping that it will.we only live 70 miles away from each other but we both have issues with ex's that need sorting.
we think the same way and laugh at the same things....and alot of our likes and dislikes are the same....if i didnt know better i'd think we were each others soulmates,but i'm trying to keep my feet on the ground and be realistic
i know this isnt the same as your problem,we dont live thousands of miles away from each other....but alot of the reservations i feel are the same as the ones you are probably feeling......i cant talk to any one about it as no one would understand unless they've been here themselves...if you have the same problem,feel free to contact me....we may not be much help to each other,but just having some one that understands what your saying can help........i think lol
2006-07-20 10:15:01 · answer #6 · answered by julie w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The simple passage of time does nothing to heal hurt. It just makes the original incident further away. The first step is forgiving yourself for making a mistake and understanding what may have contributed to the situation. Once you are able to heal the hurt, you will be able to reopen your heart to the possibility of a new relationship. The advantage is you will do it with a fresh start and wiser choices. Above all, please be patient with yourself.
2006-07-16 17:48:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all make mistakes P, we all get hurt too at some stage, some worse than others... we cant let the past rule our futures, you have to learn from your experiences and move forward... life's too short, so if you see a chance for happiness you should take it and trust your heart....
2006-07-17 11:22:17 · answer #8 · answered by engineer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive yourself and move on. Ask yourself what attracted you to him in the first place. Were there clues to his behavior. If he's acting like this, ask him why. If the answers aren't good enough, get on with your life, dear. You will fall in love again. The human beings are very resilient. Good luck, dear.
2006-07-16 17:47:08 · answer #9 · answered by sacredmud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you from experience. I have stopped putting my faith in people and put it into GOD. I trust that GOD will send the right person for me. What I have to do is let GOD choose and stop trying to choose for myself. I have been in relationships that the guys cheated or were just stupid. My current situation I'm married but separated heading for divorce. But I have the faith in GOD that I will find that one man who will love me completely.
2006-07-16 18:56:24 · answer #10 · answered by punkin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋