As i said I let him look & get on singles sites,talk & even help him write to them(just for fun) how many new happily married women would let him talk to other women,& eventry to find a female to have a 3sum for his b-day?(a lifelong fantasy)& help write his profile.& even be willing to go through with it if we find someone willing.He was married 4,14 years.& she would have a fit if she even thought that he had looked at breast or ***.I don't mind much cause I know he loves me & is only window shopping(not looking 2 buy)& I know hes going to be with me Cause were both retired & R always together(havnt been apart for more than 30 min) He always points out women who he thinks R beautiful & gos on about it. He even has women on the net he talks to.& always asking about 3sums He says he only wants to do it 1 time.So I go along with it.How many wives would do that & not worry about him cheating? I love him very much & want to make him happy he thinks 75% of wives wouold do this Is he rite?
2006-07-16 17:28:51 · 24 answers · asked by jaguaramaria 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
no not too many wives would. you are very secure in your relationship. even though that sort of lifestyle is not for me many are happy with it. I dont care if my man looks at other women but it is a little on the disrespectful side for him to be doing in quite frequently.
2006-07-16 17:32:58 · answer #1 · answered by donna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll say this about you , you are a much better woman than I. I personally would not put up with such foolishness, fantasies are just that, things that are never going to happen, unless it takes place in you wildest dreams. Your husband might be window shopping for a sexual partner, but answer me this how are you going to have a threesome ,unless you are going to become sexually active with the female involved? Now if you are fond of humiliation I say full steam ahead, if you have any self respect I say put an end to this craziness now. I would not allow my husband to have sex with another woman, nor is he brave enough to ask.. If you feel this is the only way to keep your man , then you pick the female, I suggest you look towards a professional woman for the task at hand , this way you are in control of the situation. If this is really a one time thing it will be , the final proof of your love for him. Good Luck with that.
2006-07-16 17:50:55 · answer #2 · answered by TWINKLES 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're kidding, right? Having a 3some will eventually end your marriage. He might be window shopping right now, but he WILL find someone he likes better than you if you let it continue. Did he cheat in his first marriage? As far as I am concerned, sexual conversation in person and on the net is cheating. I have many married and single friends and we have actually talked about this very situation. NONE of them would allow this behavior to continue. NONE OF THEM. EVER. If you let him have a 3some, you will begin to worry that he enjoyed it too much. He has NO respect for you. If he did, he wouldn't do things that make you uncomfortable and are hurtful. Looking at other women may be a "guy thing", but going on and on about them is completely disrespectful A marriage should be built not only on love, but trust and respect. He seems as though he doesn't inspire either.
2006-07-16 17:35:29 · answer #3 · answered by Starry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think 75 percent of wives would do this no. I dont think 75 percent of the people reading your question would do this.
While I've never participated in group activities from my understanding through friends and what I've read here and there is the only safe position in a three some is being the third one.
I agree that you can't be too comfortable if you are asking this here, if you don't feel comfortable doing it then don't do it. If he finds someone else to do it with, divorce him and get all you can :)
2006-07-16 18:01:35 · answer #4 · answered by s_walker1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, your playing both sides of the fence, you know that he is looking to buy, yet you say he is window shopping. It sounds like both of you are looking for something else, which you've found, but he hasn't yet, so he is still looking for something else, but not EXACTLY you, only because the wife is there & she probably already has someone else anyway while he's with you. He sounds like a real buet, honey. Evidently, you haven't heard that fantasy is better than the real thing!
2006-07-16 17:44:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am more adventorous than my husband but I have never been with another man since we started dating. I have never been with a woman in my life but sometimes thought that maybe it would spice up my life. The reality of it though is hard to swallow. I don't think I can do it and if you question it, I am not sure if you are ready either.
2006-07-16 17:38:49 · answer #6 · answered by Donna M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, no they would not. But if it floats your boat, ok. I have a hard time believing he is just "window shopping" or that he will always be happy with just "window shopping" but you know him better. I would say less then 5 percent of wives would do this.
2006-07-16 17:33:34 · answer #7 · answered by psycmikev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you lost me a long time ago.
Are you asking if it is OK to bring another chick home for him to bang? If your cool with it and He's cool with it than go for it.
In a couple of weeks are you going to write a question on here asking how to get your man back after you let another woman into your bed?
2006-07-16 17:34:26 · answer #8 · answered by deefrost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure how many would, but I do...we both do..he looks,I look and maybe someday we will actually act on it. The whole thing is great foreplay for us, and it's cool to think other women want your man....you should get a web cam, and make it real fun
2006-07-16 17:35:22 · answer #9 · answered by ndussere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm changing my answer because I was informed I misread a part.
In any event, he's incorrect about his "75%".
Tell him that you want to find guys to bang, while he's banging other women, then watch how he reacts.
2006-07-16 17:38:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋