Ladies only! How can I get the man I'm with/my husband to stop getting on dating sites? It hurts me that he gets on those dating sites. He is even giving those damn girls/women my phone number. And they are calling my phone just to talk to my husband. And when a woman called today she asked for my husband and I told her this was his wife and she said (ok) and then she hung up!
2006-07-16 17:21:12 · 32 answers · asked by boray 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's a real piece of work. He will do as much as he can get away with apparently. He's exhibiting no regard for your feelings or marriage commitment. If he has other nasty habits, why would you want to stay married to him?
2006-07-16 17:30:37 · answer #1 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You aren't going to stop him.. he has to do that himself.. but he has to have the motivation.. There is a reason why he is doing this.. either something isn't right between the two of you.. or he has issues he isn't dealing with. If he is being that blatant about giving out the number, then he is crying out for attention.. yes, just like a child.. most people really don't know how to articulate what they really want, so they act out.. just like children. You need to sit down with this man and have a long serious talk.. don't hold anything back.. tell him EXACTLY how you feel. If he is unresponsive to your feelings and concerns, then maybe it is time for an ultimatum. Either he stops or he is out.. but don't give any sort of ultimatum unless you are willing to follow through.. He MUST see that you are serious, or he will always do whatever he pleases with no concern for you. Good luck.
2006-07-16 17:31:12 · answer #2 · answered by Nancy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you leave him, ask him why he's so interested in getting on dating sites, when he's married to you. I'm seeing a lot of disrespect here, especially if he's giving out your phone number! And be glad that woman hung up when you identified yourself. Some women wouldn't have done that.
2006-07-16 17:28:33 · answer #3 · answered by kellygirlaj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you already threatened him youll leave, you know, hes caught, etc & he doesnt care, you cant stop him, you trick him. Sign up on the same sites as a fake person, contact each other thru email (sign up for a free new one), tell him you'll call him (from a phone # hes not familiar with), set up a place/time to meet, wait for him there, if he shows, have divorce papers ready & serve him on the spot. Im not crazy ;) but if hes looking for a replacement, which is a possibility, trick him girl & trick him good!!!
2006-07-16 18:05:05 · answer #4 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him, if he doesn't stop you will put him out of the house. I really think that men once they start doing this it is addictive. Women on these sites don't care if the men are married or not. This is a serious addiction, you both need to go to couples counseling, if he won't go consult a lawyer for a trial separation. I think this will let him know how serious you are. I think you should also,get rid of the computer....
2006-07-16 17:31:29 · answer #5 · answered by Katherine C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is looking for a way out and that's his way of doing it. Therefore you need to give him the talk or an ultamatium he either gives it up or you are out. It doesn't matter anyway because he can find a new place to surf the net. So you just would be better off talking to him and if he doesn't want to stop then you know what you need to do!
2006-07-16 17:28:03 · answer #6 · answered by SAMMIE K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if it were me I would give him the ultimatum you stay off the sites or I am gone. But if you love him this may be hard to do. I would maybe try to watch him (without him knowing and see exactly what he is typimg on these sites, he may need counseling or something some men are totally addicted to having more than one woman.. talk to him and see what he says plus still spy, that is what i would do
2006-07-16 17:27:55 · answer #7 · answered by Leslie Loves Tommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yours too? At least he isn't hiding it from you. Put youself on them and maybe the two of youcan email back and forth, don't ask questions that could hurt you though when it's time to set up a meeting time there you'll be! I started to do this but just didn't have the time to follow through, guess that just answered why mine is on there. Men are babies and need alot of attention,poor things
2006-07-16 22:30:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it is a turn on for him, or he is insecure, talk to him...perhaps he is feeling neglected by you...either way, you got to tell him how you feel. And stop him from giving out your number, if it continues after you have has an open, honest conversation about it, then think about your options....leave him or threaten to, but be prepared for him to call your bluff! If it is a turn on for him, try chatting with others together. It might be a fantasy worth looking into.
2006-07-16 17:37:42 · answer #9 · answered by two_4_one77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel so sad for you, but don't even bother trying to stop him. He's not worth the trouble. Any decent husband wouldn't even visit a dating site. Even if you got him to stop, you're just changing his behavior, not the kind of man he his.
2006-07-16 17:29:52 · answer #10 · answered by violindiva72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, let me say HELL NO that **** wouldnt even be happening with me. Unplug that damn computer! When you leave, take the keyboard with you! Or better yet, tell him if you catch him on another dating site that he can just pack his bags and go and you damn well mean it. No one deserves that kind of treatment.
2006-07-16 19:31:54 · answer #11 · answered by lost_carolina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋