Would you care if your college roommate was gay?

Question

Would you care if your college roommate was gay? I am about to go to college and I don't know if my roommate would be ok with my being gay.

Answer 1

I wouldn't personally care. That is half the fun of college is experiencing new things. I would talk to her before hand to tell her just so you both don't get there and be surprised. I don't know what I'm trying to say other than "I wouldn't care if she was." I hope you have fun in college and remember to enjoy everything.

Answer 2

Shoot, I'd love it. Actually I've been through college (I'm lesbian/TG) and my firsrt year roommate was straight and didn't mind me at all. I lived alone my second year, so everything was cool there, then took an apartment with a lesbian the last year. I never got romantically involved with either of my roommates (even though I kind of had a crush on the last one that I never told her about). I had girlfriends that passed through, and chatted casually with my roommates about their partners and mine. I never met anyone who wasn't okay with me, but my college had a pretty gay friendly atmosphere.

I think you should be up front with your roommate right from the beginning. Don't surprise her with anything. Heck, let her know before the first time she wants to change her clothes so she has the option not to do it in front of you. Your roommate might be as cool as mine were about it. If she's not okay with it and you foresee a problem, then there should be some kind of student affairs office you can visit. Explain your dilemma to them, and hopefully they can switch your roommate or get you a private room before you even get too much unpacked.

Happy college life and good luck!

Answer 3

Freshman year, the first thing I knew about my roommate was that he was uber-republican. I spent half the year saying nothing of substance to him, but then I got all stressed and went outside, had a cigarette with him and told him about some guy I was stressing over, and he ended up being really cool. I've heard from other people it can be better to get it over with relatively early on; if nothing else, you are not likely to develop any serious kind of friendship with your roommate if you don't (not sharing that tends to keep you distanced from people). I wouldn't worry too much about it until you get there and meet her. (Her? Just guessing). Go to the RA if any problems arise, and if worst comes to worst, she'll PROBABLY be the one to have to move out if she just cannot live with a gay person.

Most colleges tend to be pretty accepting in atmosphere (which doesn't say anything about individuals, don't get me wrong, but there's probably a higher concentration of cool people). Statistically, there ARE twice as many GLBT people on a college campus than in the larger society.

Answer 4

Be yourself. Sexual orientation aside, sharing a room with a stranger can be a bit intimidating. If she's awkward at first, recognize that she's nervous, too, and may have some things about herself that she's worried about sharing.

Any school that takes grants or other funding from the government cannot legally discriminate. This includes state schools and most private universities, so disregard that answer about being expelled. Most schools have LGTB groups. Seek one out for friends and support adjusting to college life.

Oh, and if your roommate is a jerk, you should be able to trade rooms.

Good luck!

Answer 5

As a girl I don't think you have to worry about your roommate caring about your sexual orientation. I think girls are socially allowed to be more lax with their sexuality, and as a result have less issues with other girls who are gay. Mention it to your roommate after you guys are moved in if you feel like she needs to know, and if she's an idiot, assure her you wont hit on her or anything.

Being a guy is different. Personally I wouldn't have issues with a gay roommate, but would probably be annoyed if he was a stereotypical or effeminate gay guy - which is more of an issue with their personality than their sexuality.

College is an experience that is meant to broaden your horizons and push you out of your comfort zone. By living and learning with different people you are becoming a more well-rounded, educated person.

Answer 6

I would not care if my college roommate was a lesbian, bisexual, straight, or gay as long as they were a good person and nice to me. I did have somebody in a class once that had a roommate who was a lesbian and whenever her girlfriend came over she said it made her uncomfortable. But you cannot lie about who you are or pretend to be someone you're not just to make someone feel less uncomfortable. You should be proud of who you are. It could open some minds to see a lesbian (or whatever) in their world. You're here, you're queer, they can get over it.

Answer 7

Maybe she will be an open-minded individual like my room-mate is. My room mate has never had a problem with me being gay. She's a spiritual person and used to say that it was wrong, but after getting to know me, and the two of us going to church together and everything, her entire perception of gays has changed, and she has realized that no sin is greater than the other. She has no problem with me having my friends over, as-a-matter-of-fact, she's cool with all of my friends, and I'm cool with hers. I think she loves having me as a room-mate cause she tells everyone that I'm gay.

Answer 8

I wouldn't care, but it depends on the person and the place. Some schools are good with it, but some are bigoted. They way I deal with things like that is I let them see that I am a good person and I look for signs that they are ok with it. If they are, come out and it should be all good. If they aren't, after they learn you are a good person, tell them. Some times thats all they need to change their feelings about it. Good Luck!

Answer 9

I had 5 different dorm roomates in 3 years in the dorms, and one did walk out on me for being gay.

All I did was live honestly (rainbow on my door, gay friends around, watching queer as folk=QAF) but I never forced her to hang out with my friends or watch my shows with me. I never even brought anyone home or had a date in the 3 months we lived together!

However she secretly moved out over Christmas and left me this note saying she couldn't live in a room with all the sin and hoped I would find Jesus.

And it was HILARIOUS. Good riddence to bad rubbish. She made everyone uncomfortable, myself included, and she had this bizarre fascination with being around my gay friends or watching QAF over my shoulder. I would even let her know that "Amy, I'll be watching QAF with some gay friends tonight from about 7-9 if you need to be elsewhere". Instead she would just sit there are stare/glare/gawk at us. It was creepy. Once I walked in on her hosting a bible study, which was awkward because I always tried to be polite and inform her of anything that might make her uncomfortable, but she definately did not recipricate that.

So as someone who has been there, don't worry to much about it. Be honest with your roommate upfront and keep communication open, but if your roomie has a problem with it, it is their f*cking problem, not yours. When mine moved out on me it was so weird and secretive that it became a running joke amongst my friends, and I actually look back on the whole 3 month experiance as something that made me stronger because I didn't sneak, skulk, or lie about who I was. I didn't change a damn thing to accomodate her issues, I just lived.

And after evangelical Amy moved out, I got paired with a wonderful Incubus-loving Buddhist that was completely gay friendly and loved to hang out with me and my gay friends. She was the best roommate I ever had!

Answer 10

No I wouldnt. I mean they could do all the cleaning. Lol. I know thats mean huh. But I know from experience because im gay and i hate dirty things. And maybe if your down they could help you get happier.