I used to have lots of friends and now all I have is my two little kids for company and my x husband for company which isnt saying much the x i mean isnt much. the kids are great. but I think it would be better for them for their moma to have friends. I dont know what happened. but about 6 years ago i just stopped being socialble, I know i need to get out there and meet people but i just cant, how can i start, baby steps? maybe Ive been let down too many times but thats not a good excuse is it? for one thing i need to get out in the world, eaiser said then done,
2006-07-16 17:08:16 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just get out there and mingle, girl..You'll be so much happier...and so will your children.
2006-07-16 17:11:40 · answer #1 · answered by annastasia1955ca 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you sign up for some kind of class at the local YMCA that has free babysitting for you while you are doing an exercise class? It's somewhere to go once a week and meet some new people and not have the expense of finding a babysitter too and you might be able to get a subsidized membership at the Y depending on your income.
If the Y isn't your cup of tea, what about joining some service group in your city? volunteer work? night school classes? all places to meet new friends.....good luck!
2006-07-17 00:12:35 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a job? You could go out with the girls from work. You could also try to find a group of single parents that gets together for meetings or whatever. Sign up for a play group with your kids and get to meet other parents. Start talking more to your neighbors. Just start by saying hi to people.
2006-07-17 00:12:08 · answer #3 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, after being hurt, its hard. But treat yourself to a spa day, get a makeover, go shopping, or buy new makeup, you're worth it. Then, when you feel better, take baby steps. Go to a club, go swinging, go dancing. I'm sure after a night of fun in a bar or club, you'll feel a little more sociable. Theres no rush, but take little steps to meet new people. You could even join a book club, a church group, or a craft meeting. Join a class where you need to interact, like tango classes, or yoga. Eventually, you'll break out of your shell. You just need to try. Good Luck!
2006-07-17 00:15:42 · answer #4 · answered by blondie_879 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to a therapist and find out what happened to you along the way. Maybe call up some old friends and catch up. Also, it wouldn't hurt to take the kids to the park or a playgroup.
2006-07-17 00:17:37 · answer #5 · answered by mergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you realize how you got into this rut, thats good, no phychologist needed! LOL, you just have to do it because you deserve it for yourself and the kids, so no easier said than done, start enjoying life again, and if its baby steps thats good too, it took you 6 years to get in this rut it will take awhile to get out of it step by step, but you will, God Bless.
2006-07-17 00:21:08 · answer #6 · answered by sidekick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your kids into some playgroups! Moms have lots of things in common and even if you might not see the others as friends right away, you'll already have things to talk about.
2006-07-17 00:11:03 · answer #7 · answered by Kate C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get back with some old friends. Get a new hobby to meet new people.
2006-07-17 00:12:01 · answer #8 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start drinking,get a baby sitter,put on some hoochie clothes and have a one night stand with a bum.
2006-07-17 00:11:35 · answer #9 · answered by tom g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you're afraid to go out and socialise.being in a relationship that long can lead to different behavior patterns.plus you are probably worried about the impact on your kids.
2006-07-17 00:13:24 · answer #10 · answered by sublateralist 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call me!! i'm a single male parent of an 11 yr old boy and have had custody for 10 yrs so i can relate with just exactly what your talking about
2006-07-17 00:12:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋