and im not talking about lust... have you ever met someone and in that very second known that you want to spend the rest of your life with them regardless of the fact that you guys are still young and supposedly "small minded" and unaware of the real world.. have you ever looked into someones eyes and seen there very soul and known that they were looking into yours.. like you can be yourself around them.. and like any pain you've ever felt completely diminishes when your around them... or is it just me ???????????
2006-07-16 16:57:18 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Psychology. The love that you experience at your age is not adult love, and the way you experience love will change as you grow and mature psychologically. That is not to say that what you're feeling is not love; it's just not the kind of enduring, deep love that you feel for someone when you are grown up. There is always the chance that what you feel now will mature as you do. But how often does that happen?
2006-07-16 17:03:51 · answer #1 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You make no mention of your age. Are you 13 or 23? Both are young ages but mean completely different things as far as ability to accept responsibility.
There are a lot of married couples who met when they were in high school and are still married to each other after many years. Yes, it can happen that this could be the guy you spend the rest of your life with. However, forget the Hollywoodesque, sappy, dreamy, idea of love where Prince Charming appears and sweeps you off your feet and you live "Happily Ever After".
You can keep that wonderful feeling of adoration forever with this person, but love isn't all about looking longingly into someones eyes forever. It's also about hard work, sacrifice, and commitment. Are your old enough to be up for that? If not then keep the relationship but don't let it move faster than you can handle.
2006-07-17 00:12:39 · answer #2 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've read everyone else's response before mine, and I think that most of them are bullshit. Granted, everyone is entitled to their opinion, but I NEVER think it's right to tell someone,
especially someone you don't even know, that their feelings aren't valid. I don't necessarily believe in love at first sight, but then again you didn't exactly mention that. I don't believe that there is an age restriction on love- anyone can experience it at any time. No, it's not just you. If everyone could experience what you're feeling, this world might be a better place no matter how fleeting or "small minded" the feeling. Love, in all it's many
forms, is a great feeling and I think you should blessed to feel so alive. F the psychology and anything else these people might spew at you- even a book or a well researched formula cannot predict the outcome of a relationship. Two quotes, however cliche, apply- "To thine self always be true"- Shakespeare. "Age ain't nothin' but a number"- the late, great Aaliya
2006-07-17 00:25:02 · answer #3 · answered by bijoux7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love at first sight doesn't happen. Love is a connection between two people, a deep desire for one another and a willingness to do anything for the other person. You can fall in lust, or infatuation at first sight, and this can later develop into love without the person in it even noticing, but what you feel in that very first second isn't love, it's raw desire.
What you describe sounds like the fuzzies. Real love isn't always seeing someone's soul, always being yourself around them, always being without pain. You're in the first stages of love, where everything is wonderful all the time. Love is compromise. Love stands the test of time. Love is there when everything goes wrong, when everyone else turns against you, when nothing goes the way you thought it would. Love doesn't chase away all your pain, it helps you deal with it, and it helps you conquer it yourself.
2006-07-17 00:06:59 · answer #4 · answered by Tim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can be in love.
But just remember, you will change very much before you are "grown" and so will the person you love. He may still be someone that you can love, once he is grown, but he may not be. You really don't want to take that chance.
If you really love him and he you, waiting will not lessen that feeling.
Most likely you will meet a lot of boys along the way that you love just as much as you love your friend now and once you are older you will know that you have met the right person.
Who knows, he could still be the man of your dreams 10 years from now, but he'll be making lots more money then.
2006-07-17 00:14:00 · answer #5 · answered by judy m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to chuckle. The simplicity of the young! So you can look into a total stranger's eyes and tell immediately what he is all about so that you would be willing to marry him and live with him happily ever after. OK, I cannot tell you differently. You wouldn't believe it. However, you will gain experience and find out life is not that simple.
You will learn that the only way to know someone is to know them for a time through the vicissitudes of life, to see what they are really about. Right now I hope your simplicity won't get you into trouble. There are slick vultures out there who come on as nice guys to slay the simple. That is a poor way to gain experience.
2006-07-17 00:08:32 · answer #6 · answered by pshdsa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY! I was 12. Almost 13.
I am an adult now and I have never felt a love as strong as that one was ever since.
I think, the older people that say that you're too young, just never experienced it when they were that age, so they think it doesn't exist.
When we find true love at that age, it is the most powerful love on earth.
It's a shame that they never experienced it. You're lucky, like I was. There's nothing else like it. You will probably never feel that sensation again.
We lose the strength of that love as we mature. Don't listen to them. They have NO idea, what you're talking about.
How could they? They never experienced it. So they should leave their unexperienced opinions to themselves. You are getting advice from people who are clueless.
I know what you're talking about.
Treasure every moment of it and take lots of pictures of your love.
You will want them later on in life to refresh your memory of how you felt.
I have pictures of MY love from that age in my scrapbook. Sometimes I get them out and just stare at them for hours. It brings me back to the way I felt, when we were together.
There is not another feeling like it and it is the strongest of all my emotions.
YOU ARE NOT TOO YOUNG. THEY ARE TOO NAIVE.
Don't let them try to take it away from you. It's yours. Keep it.
2006-07-17 00:18:56 · answer #7 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 14. And yes i have experienced tru love. But only once and its gone now. But i think we still love each other deep down. But just because you Think you are in love doesnt always mean that. I went with this guy for 2 years and didnt do nething more than kiss. Even though you think you are really in love it wont last forever. So don't loose it to this guy unless you stay together for at least 4 years and no its REAL.
2006-07-17 15:22:01 · answer #8 · answered by kirstar17 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 23 and my husband is 21. We had been dating for 6 months before we got engaged an had known each other for about a year before as we worked together. It was on our first date that he asked me to be his girlfriend and on the second that he first said he loved me. We've been together since and quite happily married. I certainly wont tell you that because you're young you can't experience love, sounds like you have. Just take your time and you wont get hurt.
2006-07-17 00:07:59 · answer #9 · answered by Ash 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by the way, how old are you anyway?
its not true that teens like you cant experience love..only its still called puppy love and its far from being TRUE love. u see, when you grow older, your ideals change. what i mean is..now you may like a guy but when you're older you may not like the same guy. thats because when you get older, you will learn a lot of things and your idea of love will be more mature and more real...and your ideals will change also (believe me, this is a fact). when older people (like your parents) dont allow you to have boyfriends/girlfriends at that young age, thats only because they want to save you from all the pain and grief that you may experience because of the same reason that who you like now will not be the person that you will like when you're older.
so its not that you cant experience love..but its just that its still far from real love and you will still experience alot of things and you still have a world waiting for you. so dont hurry up and live life one day at a time.
"youth is quick in feeling but weak in judgment."
2006-07-17 00:06:29 · answer #10 · answered by Jacqueline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋