I have rage problems, every 28 days for 5 to 7 days I fly off the handle at everyone and everything?

Question

I think its more than the usual PMS because I have absolutely no control over it. My friends no longer want anything to do with me, even my husband is tired of dealing with it. What can I do to get a handle on it?

Answer 1

don't worry about it... everyone gets it, both men and women. For gals is called menopause and with guys its called andropause. (we have our ups and downs too you know). Although ours tend not to last as long.

You can't hide behind that excuse anymore. (not saying YOU personally but gals in general). We just have the ability to take it in stride more because we are guys. We get to do more of the stuff that lets us blow off steam.

If you know about it and can almost predict it comming, stay away from your friends and let them know.

btw.. you can get back at your husband because we all go through with something similar so he has to get used to it. After all aren't you living with his mood swings. --- fair is fair

If however you want to go to a counselor/psyciatrist/etc. to find out if there are other outlying problems to see if you have a form of depression or hate for someone or something, that could be deepseated and needs to be delt with. You may be thus lashing out at others unknowingly by not taking care of something that should be dealt with.

Answer 2

If its really that bad you really do need to talk to your doctor. My daughter has the same problem and it was really wrecking her life. We'd try to talk to her about it any other time of the month because we learned that trying to discuss it with her during her menses was just asking for a screaming, crying, fit. She finally saw her doctor who put her on 10mg Prozac (which is half the dose they usually prescribe for depression). She doesn't take it all month. She starts taking it one week before her menses and stops taking it as her menses tapers off. I has made a new person out of her. I'm not suggesting that is the answer for you; merely pointing out there are treatment options to alleviate the situation. One other thing. I don't know if you are on any kind of birth control but if you are receiving Depo Provera shots you might want to look up the information on how it can cause increases in depression and rage attacks. Most doctors won't tell you that but the information is readily available on the web by doctors who have researched it for years. Good luck....don't give up....there are answers.....

Answer 3

It could be PMDD- pre-menstrual dysphoric disorder, which is a severe version of PMS. Try researching it online- if you show you're getting help, then your friends and family may feel less frustrated. You also may want to talk to them about it during a time when your mood is stable... let them know you think you have a problem, and while you love them, that it might be better to spend some time alone when you feel anger coming on.

Answer 4

I sometimes think the same...but its PMS. Sometimes I think I am bipolar or something. I've learned it has a lot to do with what I eat also. Take a good multi vit. and drink plenty of water..limit your caffeine at this time and HFCS its in everything....good luck and hey just take a deep breath and tell everyone you don't want to be ugly and you need some space for a minute.

Answer 5

It's PMS, just an extreme version of it. I had the same problem. Two drugs helped. The first is a diuretic (you hold water on your brain as well as your fingers, ankles, stomach) and the second is an anti-depressant. Find a doctor in your area that specializes in PMS. Good Luck!

Answer 6

When you feel you're about to fly off the handle, go do something that will keep you occupied (ex. exercise). If nothing seems to work, go see your doctor to discuss other options. Do, however, tell your husband how much you appreciate him putting up with you on your angry days and that you're going to make a serious effort. It'll make him, and you, feel better.

Answer 7

Simple. Change. You know it's wrong, why do it? Challenge yourself to change. Educate yourself on ways on improving self control. If you love the people you get mad at, do something for them and make the switch. You don't want to end up alone.

Ultimately, you are in charge of your emotions. Also, check or change your diet. Poor nutrition can effect emotions. Vitamin B Complex is good for the nervous system. Eat right and exercise more. Incorporate daily walks for 30 minutes or more. This will help eliviate extra stress and you may find you may not be as angry after your walk. Try it, it works for me. Good Luck.

Answer 8

You sound as though you have frontal lobe epilepsy.
You will also see the future in small glimpses.
Rage comes on, then depression sets in.
You have to go to a doctor. ( neurologist )
They can find out by giving you a brain activity test. It will show up after you have been stressed, by staying up all night and then the test in the morning.
They have drugs that can help you with the problem.
Tegretol is one of them.

Answer 9

Sounds like it is PMS, and you should visit your doctor so he can prescribe meds to get you over this 'hump' every month. PMS can be mild for some women and violent for others, and it is all normal but there are medications available to control the violent feelings. Please call your doctor for an appointment. Bless you for recognizing you can't control these symptoms and are asking for help.

Answer 10

Hmm, sounds like maybe you should look to a Psychologist for some help. What you are describing is not normal at all. How did you ever convince someone to marry you in the first place? Recognize that you likely have a mental problem, and that you need some help to deal with it- I guess posting this question is a good first start, as long as you followup.