its about my friend. i m starting to feel uncool to him cuz i have alot of integrity and i try and do right & i get nothing out of it.he does so much wrong like lying to me, maniplative,gets a tantrum when things dont go his way, and having sex with same sex and ive done it b4 and im stopping and not lying or nothin and im wondering why when im doing right i seem so lame and why dont i have all the friends he has and why am i getting the short end of the stick and nothin good is happening to me when i do the right thing and it makes me feel like going back to wat i was doing and im try to help him stop and do right but hes too lazy and does watevr it takes to get wat he wants, follows the crowd and basically my opposite cuz he does so much wrong .what should i do.
2006-07-16 16:30:18 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
of course you are seeming uncool to him my friend......he sees what you are becoming and doesnt like it........for a time I had a so called friend that was the very same way......did all the bad stuff and for awhile I thought she really was my friend but as it turned out she was manipulative, tried to take over my life and get me to do what she was doing, took drugs, drank, she was bisexual .........everything you can imagine this person was.......and she wanted to drag me into it and i was so blind for that time I was almost drug down into it, but Praise God my mom stepped in and prayed for me and God saved my life.....this woman is no longer in my life nor do i wish her to be.
You dont need this so called friend in your life. All he will do is try to bring you back to the things you left behind and gave up and that isnt where you want to be again or you wouldnt of taken those steps to go ahead and be the person you are today......noone said life would be easy and I want you to know that even though it seems this person is getting alot and you are getting the short end of the stick......God sees you turning your life around and has great rewards in Heaven for you.....greater than any earthy reward my friend.
Stay on the track you are on now......you are not lame......you are doing the right thing and turning away from things you knew and know were only hurting you. Get away from this person who is your so called friend and as hard as it is walk away.......it was hard for me but it was the best thing I could of done for myself and Im very glad I did. You can pray for him but dont talk to him or have any contact with him.....Im not tryin to be harsh but its how it has to be done.....God will provide you with new friends and people that appreciate you and your efforts to live in integrity and morals.
Good luck and I'll be praying for you.
2006-07-16 17:53:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may seem to be having fun but he is really trying to pull you down with him. Go look somewhere else to find friends that you can respect. Naturally this scumball is going to try to make you miserable for trying to improve your character, what did you expect? It might take a little while to find people who are worth being friends with, but it's worth it.
2006-07-16 23:51:59 · answer #2 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously you have decided to actually be a gentlemen
your friend is taking the easy way
no girl is ever going to take him seriouly becasue of his actions
keep holding tight to your integrity
it defines you
if you show respect it will be given to you
and your friend if he helps modivate your previous actons then just nicely tell him that you both have chosen different paths and you should both go your seperate ways
2006-07-16 23:40:29 · answer #3 · answered by hello dear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recommend talking to a therapist. I don't think you have any major problems or anything. I just think you could use a little help sorting out what you really think is right for you. And I don't think it can be answered here in one shot.
It'll work itself out.
2006-07-16 23:35:41 · answer #4 · answered by LindaLou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, find you a new set of friends.. some that fit your lifestyle better
2006-07-16 23:37:11 · answer #5 · answered by Teri D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋